Will I stay a lonely virgin forever, and should I try casual sex or friends with benefits?

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I’m still a 20-year-old virgin. All the guys who talk to me only seem to want hookups and not a serious relationship. When older men and women see me, they always ask, “Why are you single? You’re so beautiful” or “You’re so pretty.” Sometimes I don’t think I’ll ever find a boyfriend or true love, and I worry that I’ll remain a virgin forever. It sucks because there are women my age who already have boyfriends or can find one so quickly.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Omg you’re so old. It’s all downhill from here on out. You may as well give up, get yourself a cat lol now seriously I’d have to say post a pic so we can see what you look like. Women always say things like other people call me beautiful, but in reality they aren’t. I’m not saying you aren’t cause there’s no pic, but a lot of women fall into believing that. Sure you may be beautiful as a person, good personality, nice, smart, loving. But physically speaking you may not look that good. Other women are good at giving each other bs advice. I also have to ask what kind of girl are you? Conservative? Feminine? Do you go to church? Or are you one of those women w blue hair, nose piercings, multiple ear piercings w tattoos up the arm? We need more context.

ChicoFromThe305 · Accepted Answer

I went through the same form of insecurity at some point, because I even live in one of the most sexually active cities in the country but then I realized that this feeling was only cause I was so caught up with other people's lives more than my own, then i asked myself is sex the reason why I want a relationship and that changed my whole perspective. The best things in life come with patience, if losing your virginity is the whole pressure on why you are feeling this way, then you have the wrong idea of a relationship, there's no point in waiting, but if you want the full package, with the love included and a special first time with someone you love then the patience is crucial.

beenherebefore · Accepted Answer

You know what at your age most guys are not interested in being in a committed relationship. Is not your fault. In my honest opinion you've been a virgin for so long I wouldn't advise you to lose it with any guy that shows interest. You're too good for that. Focus on other things like school or work and I hope time brings you a decent guy who's ready to take care of you and be serious about you.

HollyK21 · Accepted Answer

Goodness, 20 is so young. You’ve got more than enough time ahead of you to worry about men. Focus on yourself and whatever it is you want for your future for now, let the right guy find you naturally.

DishLady · Answer

Casual and friends with benefits usually end up being unsatisfying and leaving big awkward questions looming. There's no point to them.

Nikki1989 · Answer

No, and don't listen to the blue anons on here. They are so clueless it is embarrassing.

Danny_dan92 · Answer

You need to fucken relax. I lost my virginity at 21 Chill tf out. You’re acting like you’re in your late 30’s

Anonymous · Answer

Maybe you shouldn't only focus on Arab guys even though they're your type

msc545 · Answer

Start with hookups. You don't win a prize by demanding the prize.

Iron_Man · Answer

No bad idea. find a husband

Factual_person · Answer

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