Does a polished, formal style attract older men over guys my age?

[sophia2007]

Hey everyone, just wanted to get some thoughts on something I’ve been noticing lately.

My everyday style tends to be pretty polished, formal, and put-together. Because of that, I've realized I rarely get approached by guys my own age anymore. Instead, almost all the attention I get comes from guys who are older and more advanced/stable in their careers.

It made me wonder if the way a woman dresses directly affects the type of men who feel comfortable coming up to her. Do you think a more formal or polished look intimidates younger guys, or does it just naturally attract men who are a bit further along in life?

Let me know what you think, I'm super curious if anyone else has noticed this!

[Anonymous]

Intimidates is not the word. First off, there is likely nothing wrong with the way you dress. But "intimidates" suggests the guys fear you in some way. Guys don't like wasted effort. Guys don't like rejection. But few guys "fear it. And if you have a formal style you probably come off as too much risk, too little reward. This isn't really a bad thing. Because you don't want to attract just any guy. You want to attract the type of men that values what you have to offer.

Understand this though. A woman's outward appearance may attract a man, but it will not keep him. You're demeanor and your attitude towards him is FAR MORE important.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

I view clothes as implicit tribal signs, but I also believe we can belong or be perceived as members of several tribes at once.

When I was 18, a 18yo girl dressing formally was an extremely rare sight, so rare that I would implicitly think she's not a member of my "clan". As a result, I would probably not try to interact as I'd believe she's quite an alien lol

[Nikki1989]

Men your age and up to 30 at least are clueless about style in any context. So yes, older men are more likely to notice your dress sense.

[HighValue]

I'm 45 and I am more attracted to girls that wear soft silky shiny athletic clothes than anything else. I don't like plaid, flannel, or ripped jeans outfits.

[Anonymous]

Younger guys I've noticed are less likely to go after women for a variety of reasons.

Could be also you are dressing more grown up. Like my wife, when I first met her, I thought she was 25 and kinda fat. Turned out she was 15 with big juggs.

[loveslongnails]

Guys your age don't have a clue what "style" is in the first place, Sophia. What do you think they want, or are attracted to, in the first place? :)

[jahaims]

Being mature and feminine attracts older guys.

[leviopperman]

it's possible