At what age do guys typically experience their first true love?

[Anonymous]

Hi! I'm 19 and I've never had a boyfriend, tbh not too big a deal for me but I see a lot of people saying to watch out for a guy's first real love. And now I'm wondering, when on average do guys meet those first true loves because if I search it I see a lot of different things, some studies say 11-15 and others say 18-25. This got me a bit worried so can you guys tell me what your experiences/knowledge is?

[abc3643]

Mine was just before I turned 19.

It's important to know this though:

Many people, not just guys, probably don't realize the first time that they are in love until they get their first real broken heart. Once that happens, it's game over - especially for guys. It's like "a personal 9/11", an event so traumatic that you never forget it.

After my first broken heart on 01 JAN 1982 (which was due to my first girlfriend; I was away at college but she was home and a senior in high school), I was a wreck until August 1984. I got my 2nd girlfriend a month later.

My greatest broken heart was perhaps my first because it was so traumatic being a new experience, but I did get over it. My most profound broken heart is the one that I am still experiencing after 34.5 years... I KNEW I was in love with this one girl because I knew the signs ever since that first broken heart. I wanted to marry her. So, when she dumped me on 12 JAN 1992, it was devastating. I instantly knew the next 3 years were gone... if I was lucky...

I moved on - a short rebound LDR with a Canadian woman 9 years older than me - and then met my wife in November 1999 and have been married for almost 25 years, but I never got over that broken heart and that still haunts me every day and will until I die.

I was going to write more and give details about that first love, but I just don't have time now. If you want to know more, let me know.

[OneViewpoint]

Define "true love" and "typically". It'll happen when the opportunity presents itself and the guy has matured enough to experience it. Generally sometime between 15 and 25.

[LC75LC71]

Depends on said individual. For me at 23. Hit me like a semi carrying 40 tons of brick! Greatest and most terrifying 6 years of my life.

[Asker]

so you're not together anymore but you still consider her the love of your life?

[LC75LC71]

Yep. We haven't talked in almost 20 years.. Aww you were an infant then.

[Asker]

haha, but how does that work tho? like you haven't talked in 20 years and you still want her the most?

[LC75LC71]

You misunderstand. The time we had together was unexplainably beautiful.. I didn't even realize it while we were together. She sent me a friend request on FB back in 2014 which I declined because I was with another woman and she was the only reason I was on that shit site anyway.,

[Asker]

yeah I'm sorry I don't fully understand what you mean haha (English isn't my first language so maybe that's why)

[LC75LC71]

Apology rejected. You didn't type anything wrong. Love is a feeling that transcends any language barrier. I still love her after all these years. She still has a piece of my heart. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4_XhnHbdqWA

[jamesgoldman]

I was 16 when we dated but we first met when I was 14 but I was older in my soul

[molonski2]

If he is 14 .. BE WORRIED
. 😂

[Just_Ken]

First true love is hard to say.

[jahaims]

That's not how real life works

[Asker]

Can you explain it to me then please?

[FrodoSkywalker007]

Teens

[Asker]

but are you still dating her and if no, why not then?

[FrodoSkywalker007]

No, moved on.

[Asker]

Okay thanks