I dont understand why im always bread crumbed or lead on am I ugly?

[Anonymous]

Most men are not direct with me. They play games and watch my social and reply or talk back to me on their stories without @'ing me or being direct. These men get my attention by doing that but nothing comes out of it. So they get my attention and what do they expect me to do?

You're ugly

Its something else

[shoeboxcerealcard]

I think this mostly comes down to the fact that many people aren't finding the kind of relationships they actually want (the people they want), and some people are also dealing with unhealthy or compulsive attitudes toward sex.

• They may be treating you that way because they aren't finding the connection or validation they want from the women they're naturally drawn to, so their behavior spills over into how they interact with you.
• If you really want a burger but all you have is rice and beans. You are forced to eat the rice and beans due to urge. However, you don't really want it and that will come out in your behavior in some way.
• You want a job that you enjoy doing but all you can find are jobs you hate. You are forced to do the jobs you hate and your behavior shows it. You will never behave a greatly in a job you hate. Emotionally it's not possible.

I'm sorry this is happening to you. Asked are you ugly. Everybody is ugly and beautiful. Beauty is makeup. I've never seen a 10/10 girl until they put on makeup. The most beautiful girls are usually about a 7. Work on bringing your beauty to the surface. Exercise and work on your style. However, just be around men more. That's the biggest thing. People will not go out of their way to talk to someone most of the time. You have to make it easy to access you. People will not get uncomfortable and go up to you. Especially today with all of the man hate. Some men will but those men are probably doing it to many women and at that point it's nothing to them. by the way your perfect match could literally be to fearful to come and talk to you. You never know. Okay that's my two cents. You have to start thinking about the emotions. That is what drives behavior. If these guys are holding back it's because they emotionally are repelled and drawn at the same time. Just keep trying. Do everything you can to be attractive but after that just have faith in positive ideas. Remember it's about emotion. If you focus on negative ideas, you're going to feel like crap. Just do all that you can to be attractive. That way you at least have no regrets.

[slatyb]

Because you allow it. You get emotionally invested in a relationship too soon, making it easy for someone to lead you on, getting what they want from you while giving very little. Have you considered professional counseling? This is normal for someone who was starved of affection as a child.

[Anonymous]

It could be a combination of multiple things like bad luck or timing. I don't know what platform you are using, but it doesn't seem like a direct way to communicate. You could directly talk in DMs. Maybe they are waiting on a response from you after they get your attention

[Anonymous]

You're not ugly per se, it just sounds like your punching above your weight.

[Asker]

But im not going for these men. This is how they interact with me first... its weird

[Opinion Owner]

Did you want an answer to your question or not? Because if so you cannot get so defensive. I never said you're going after these men. Responding is sufficient.

[Asker]

You said im punching above my weight meaning im going after men who are hotter than me?

[Opinion Owner]

Yes, or at least they regard you that way. Which means you DON'T have to be going after them. They could be pursuing you just to f*** you.
I'm just going with the simplest explanation. Because guys do no breadcrumb women, they have genuine interest in. Unless they're putting forth genuine effort, have shown genuine interest and she ia giving virtually nothing back. Then it's not really breadcrumbing though. That's callwd matching effort (or rather lack of effort).

[Asker]

Okay noted. Thanks

[DryGermanGuy]

You could be autistic. Are you autistic?

[Asker]

What does autism have anything to do with this?

[DryGermanGuy]

Not being very good in social interactions.

[Asker]

How is this a me problem? Do you not see other men being indirect with me? How can anyone guess what people are trying to do if they arnt direct? No im not autistic

[jahaims]

You pick/attract immature guys

[Asker]

But im not picking anyone

[imemma12]

I don't know something is not right