Girls, do you actually like submissive guys or not?

[cootjuhh]

yes or no?

[sawno]

Most girls are either submissive or switches I can tell from experience in communities where it was relevant. On top of that some of the girls who like switching things up only want to dom women.

At the same time though this is a terrible way of asking that question since you don't know what they ended up answering and if you use the search button on this site to find similar questions you get completely different answers than you got.

The vast majority of girls wants a guy who is straight forward and knows what he wants, that is very safe behavior for a guy. She doesn't want to guess what you want, she doesn't want to have to make all the decisions, she doesn't want someone who always agrees to what she wants and doesn't give any input of himself. All those are massive turnoffs. She doesn't want you to walk all over her either though, so don't take that as a license to be a dick and overpower her. But being very open with your needs and wants and then choosing something is nice for her if you then do allow her the space to do the same thing and find common ground.

So did they imagine the above when you asked that? If they did, you get a no I don't want that.

Then there's another stigma about things like femdom and stuff. If you look up femdom questions in the search button you see that if the girls think they have to be harsh and mean to the guy, or that its about beating him or overpowering him, they tend not to like that. Did they imagine that when you asked the question? Then again they will answer no.

Maybe they took it vanilla and they imagined all you will do is lay down and take whatever she wants, maybe she thought she is going to constantly have to command you what to do in bed with no creativity of your own. Does she want that? Of course not, that is boring. You wouldn't want a partner who you have your way with and she does nothing, that is why you asked this question.

So what do girls want that fits in this dom/sub kind of dynamic? Gentle femdom / playful switching. If you look up the term gentle femdom in this site suddenly you see an overwhelming amount of posts of girls who are in to that sort of thing. They LOVE teasing, they love making you feel loved and insanely good, they love doing things to you to drive you insane (all of this only applies if you are on sexual terms of course), so if this kind of domming and guidance is a part of that then that is a means for her to do so.

For me personally I noticed the girls who love domming the most are the girls without existing expectations, they want you to help them dom you so they can get a grasp of how to do it and what to do rather than feeling hopeless. And then if its a style that is playful and fun, especially if its something you do to each other rather than just take she will probably fall in love with it. At least for me its always been well received, unless a girl was already extremely submissive herself in a non vanilla way.

[usernameobvious]

They might like a modern looking guy doesn't have to be a nerd or gamer.
Lol.

So sure - some women may like a humble man. Not comparing to a fully submissive man.

[usernameobvious]

No glasses 🤓 no gaming 🤓 not smart lol 🎮🎯

[Sincerely000]

I personal don't mind if he were submissive, but I'd hope he'd also be dominant. I don't think fully submissive male would be compatible with me.

[FrodoSkywalker007]

I think women come in different variations. Thst being said, most women are likely submissive with very fluid sexualities to please their partners.

[Lefynut]

As a quiet man Silence isn't weakness. Being introverted, quiet, or (selective with who you speak to) doesn't make a man submissive when the time arises, he can be highly territorial, dominant, and traditionally masculine if the need arises.

[Anonymous]

They like the idea but with submissive guys they leave for a man that can dominate them.

[valentina4eva]

nahhh🤷🏻‍♀️

[MikkiM]

No, i like manliness

[imemma12]

depends but overall no for me

[Anonymous]

Nope.

[usernameobvious]

Thanks lady 🙂