Is it odd that I'm afraid to go to the pool or beach with my girlfriend because I'm shy about seeing her in a bikini?

[Anonymous]

So I've been single my whole entire life and literally only just now got a beautiful girlfriend who I don't even remember how I got her. She approached me before I approached her.

But anyway I am shy when it comes to beautiful woman and especially beautiful woman in revealing clothing.

Before we even started dating we talked about pool and beach and how much we love it and now she wants to go there.

I have seen my girlfriend's social media pics and she wears really sexy bikinis.

I am afraid if I see her that way in real life I will blush out of control and not even be able to look at her.

Some people I know such as my brother have called me odd for this. Is it odd?

Sorry if my English is not so good. English is not my first language.

[Purpleronnie]

Honestly, if the dominant emotion you feel at the thought of seeing your girlfriend in a bikini is fear or shyness rather than attraction or excitement, I’d question whether you’re really mature enough for an adult relationship.

[Asker]

The reason I shy is because I never seen beautiful woman in bikini up close.

Remember I never ever had girlfriend. I a virgin. I didn't even have first hug or first kiss till the other day.

My girlfriend is the leader in our relationship. Smart beautiful woman she is. She help me a lot.

[Purpleronnie]

Remember.. you came on to a public forum and you asked for opinions and you got mine. The dynamic in your relationship is completely wrong , you being a virgin has little to do with it.

[Asker]

For that first part no shit. This is a public forum and I'm asking for people's opinions no shit. If you didn't say so I'd have no idea! 😮 I thought this was my own private Discord server!

And okay? What would you recommend I do then? 🤔 I'm not gonna suddenly break up just because some random guy online wants me to. For all I know you could be single all your life and miserable and are jealous of me.

Not even really trying to be rude just being blunt like you are being blunt, and curious.

[Purpleronnie]

Amazing how you grasp of English suddenly improves when your challenged isn’t it. Yet another anonymous user that doesn’t understand how redundant & ridiculous it is to challenge an opinion that they ‘asked’ for 😂😂😂. Once again , this is a public forum and not everyone’s opinions should align with yours. My recommendation ? don’t attempt to argue with people when you literally asked for their opinion , if you don’t agree with it I do not care , you asked for it , you got it , take it or leave it

[Asker]

There is amazing think called Google Translate. Ever heard of it? Sometimes I use a lot other time I don't even bother. That last comment for you I use Google Translate.

You don't need to act like cat. Is it because you read I'm from Colombia in another reply? You racist.

[Anonymous]

So you're fear is either other people (men) seeing her in a bikini or your own sexual system maybe trigger an unwanted result in this situation and that is what worries you

[Asker]

Is the second part you mentioned. Everything to do with me myself and not anyone else just me.

[Nikki1989]

Calling it odd would be a gross understatement.

[Asker]

Fair enough. Thank you for honesty lady.

[EmmaMary]

In a single word. Yes.

[Asker]

Thank you ma'am for your honest feedback.

[EmmaMary]

You're most very welcome kind Sir.

[EmmaMary]

Thank you for the MHO.

[CountryWanderer]

Dude, that's really cute and she'll totally love it if you can't help blushing. Go for it!

[Ogolem]

That's the cutest thing I read this week. It's not common but you will get used to it probably.

I see nothing to be ashamed of

[Anonymous]

How she look? And u

[Asker]

Um does it matter? Lol.

And though my time on this site has been limited it seems there's always at least one female anon randomly asking how people in relationships posts look like.

It's kinda weird and feels almost fetish-y or troll-y at this point so I'm not even gonna answer.

[Opinion Owner]

Am genuinely curious. You have made 15 posts. What makes her that good , aren’t u a good looking guy?

[Asker]

15 posts? Not sure what you mean because I recently created my account and have made only like 5 posts total so far and only this 1 mentioning girlfriend.

But anyway if you insist. I am not very good at describe how people look like but here we go.

My girlfriend is tall Asian woman. About 5'10" last time I checked. People around me say she look like model and I agree. She's skinny but at the same time have kinda big hips, thigh, butt, and boobs relatively speaking for her frame. She looks amazing in a bikini. Her best bikini I saw in her Instagram was this dark red cherry red bikini which seemed to have thong back. She's pale and has long really dark brown hair with really dark brown eyes.

As for me I am no impressive. I am originally from Colombia and came to America when I was 17. I am actually shorter than her 5'8". I was really skinny when younger but now am kinda fat and need to lose that weight. I have very slightly tanned skin but almost pale and short dark bown hair and dark brown eyes. I really am just sort of average with no features that stick out. My girlfriend says I have nice eyes I guess. She also likes my eyelashes. But yeah...

As you can see she probably out of my league. She probably loves me more than I love myself. Lol.

[Opinion Owner]

She’s not out of your league. Is she one of those light skin Asians who are lighter than even white guys like you?

[Asker]

Well yeah kinda but at the same time she tans really easily without even trying and doesn't really burn from the sun. She takes sun protection seriously but every once in a while when I assume she's been out in the sun for a while and forgot to reapply sunscreen quickly enough, when I see her the next day she's like a shade or two darker.

I think she pulls off both pale and tan equally well really. Pale is her natural state and very elegant and beautiful and classy but the tan also gives her a sort of athletic beach girl look who's all about hitting the beach. Though for skin cancer awareness sake it's probably best if she stay pale.

[Opinion Owner]

She’s not out of your league. Why do u feel that way?

[Asker]

I mean my whole life people haven't really mentioned my appearance at all with the exception of my grandma so I just assumed I was never anything impressive.

Plus people are always going on about how gorgeous my girlfriend is and when people first meet her they often mention how clear her skin looks or how healthy her hair is meanwhile when it comes to me people are just like whatever.

[Opinion Owner]

What are your personalities? Have u had sex?

[Asker]

I would describe her as friendly and warm and always smiling. She's very patient and hard to make mad. Obviously she loves beach and pool. She also likes working out and cooking.

As for me I guess goofy and socially awkward. I am not all that patient but I try to be. I also like beach and pool. I like anime and video games.

No we not have sex yet. Would be very silly for me to be shy see her in a bikini if we already saw each other naked and fucked each other lol.

So far most skin I saw her show in person was tank top and short shorts.

[Opinion Owner]

Aren’t u that guy who was asking questions if a white guy dating Asian woman is a loser

[Asker]

Huh? I have genuine no idea what you're talking about. Maybe if you could link one of his posts.

[Opinion Owner]

Oh really cmon dude. You also were asking if it’s weird to be dating native people

[Opinion Owner]

Wdym people are going on how gorgeous she is? Who are these people

[Asker]

Native people? I don't even know if I met native person in real life or at least not one who said.

Either way this is not about race. Never was. Just about see beautiful woman in bikini. I don't care if she Asian White Black Hispanic Indian etc. whatever. I would still get shy see beautiful woman ni bikini.

These people are mostly friends, acquaintances, and family.

[Opinion Owner]

Wdym she’s the leader

[Asker]

She the most outgoing one. The extrovert. She asked me out. Without her I would have made a move and we would not be together.

[Opinion Owner]

Why do u think “She probably loves me more than I love myself”

[Asker]

Probably because insecure. People never really give me compliments so I never knew what was there to love with me.

But she treats me really well and is affectionate. She's probably the first to give me compliments not counting my grandma.

[lilBigPotato]

Um , yes.

[Asker]

Thank you nice lady for quick straightforward answer.

[MrChinaski]

Yes. It is.

[Asker]

Thank you man for straightforward opinion.

[arianna1414]

that is so cute

[Asker]

Well thank you! :)

[jahaims]

Lmfao

[Asker]

Okay?