Why do only men in their 50s want to date me and not guys in their 30s?

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Do I just have bad luck? I want to date guys who are 32 and 34 years old they ignore me as if I am not there. What I do not understand why am I getting attention only from guys who are almost hitting 50 and not from a 32 or 34 year olds? . I was engaged once my ex fiance betrayed me left me in the church never showed up his best friend give me a note from my ex fiance instead he long story short he told me he can not connect or bond with me so it is best to break everything up. I stop dating for a decade now. I decided to give dating a try in hopes guys in their early 30s would noticed me but they ignore me. Im crying when I ask a this 34 year old for coffee he told me he is only intrested in 25 year old woman and not woman my age that made me devestated.

Marshast · Accepted Answer

Why do you have to go after a man in their 30’s, what wrong with the ones in their 50’s? If a person is miserable, impossible to be with, age ain’t going to make a difference.

What exactly are you looking for in that relationship that a man in their 50’s can’t give you when they all declining anyway! They all lack libido and have a hard time lasting.

Anyhow, I agree with you a little bit, closer to age about 3 to 8 years difference make better sense.

Most of the time why would a young woman stay with an older man with a declining vitality that can’t even satisfy them in bed when a younger man, or one their age can do better. The girls I know that are in a relationship with an older man; they all have a side piece that is younger, it is normal today to have an open relationship. So!

Facts.

Men declining physiology begins declining around 30–40, averaging ~1% per year after the early 30s

Muscle mass & strength: Gradual muscle loss (sarcopenia) and slower recovery without resistance training.

Metabolism: Slows slightly; calorie needs decrease and abdominal fat becomes easier to gain

Fertility: Sperm count and motility slowly decline; sperm DNA damage gradually increases.

Cardiovascular health: Blood pressure and cholesterol begin to rise, increasing heart disease risk over time.

Bone health: Bone density is generally stable in the 30s but may gradually decline later, especially with low testosterone or inactivity.

Vision: Close-up focus becomes more difficult in the late 30s to early 40s; reading glasses may be needed.

Hair: Male pattern baldness progress, and hair become thinner or gray.

Sexual function: Erections take longer to achieve, the refractory period increases, and libido may gradually decline if testosterone decreases.

sage2021 · Accepted Answer

One reason I can think of is that you might look older than you are.

RavVid · Accepted Answer

Unfortunately for you, the preferred female age is 18 for males from 8 to 80. Evolution has hard coded us to go for females with bodies that signal fertility.

There is no doubt that 18 to 24 yo girls have a very easy time in the dating market. Men in that age group have a more difficult time but by the time we are 30+ we have value and it becomes easier for us and we can reach down in age. So we do.

Feminism has betrayed women in a few ways. It has told women that they have plenty of time after college and establishing a career to get into a relationship and have children if they want.

It has also encouraged women to divorce if they are less than delighted or bored such that the median length of marriage is now 8 years. This hasn't gone unnoticed by men nor the consequences. So men are very reluctant to marry. For myself, for example, I am just not going to do it.

Post 30, most men will have experienced a break up or two and no longer have a Disney view of romance.

In the dating pool you are in, a lot of men have rejected marriage as a dud deal, another cohort who have established value and can reach down in age and another cohort who have established a calm pleasant life not centered around a woman.

So the dating market has an imbalance between women and men who are effectively available. Feminism has shrunk the pool of available men.

You are best advised to realistically assess what is possible and develop the qualities that men want in a woman. Broadly it nice, co-operative, calm, positively emotional but able to regulate negative emotions.

Your experience of being left at the alter was extraordinarily hurtful and I am sorry you experienced that.

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

You probably carry yourself well your probably very good looking and you probably give the vibe of being under than you are and that you have it together

And you probably give out the vibe of liking to do things and take on new things
And guys that have had 50 birthday cakes like those type of girls

30 year old guys look in to your eyes and those are not going to have a chance with you because you will cut them off you can read them like a book and they are afraid of you

They want somebody they can manipulate Take the bed Last one minute two minutes Wipe their brow and say damn girl that was good

And you'll say what we haven't even started yet

And they say yeah I was done 5 minutes ago that's why I'm putting on my shoes got to go see you next time

Next time just ask me and I'll teach you

I mean I can't wait to tell my friends you don't even know what you're doing in bed I mean you didn't even know we did it LMAO

Guys at age or not ready for responsibility or ready to share their life or anything to do with commitment

Down deep they're still 20 years old

Anonymous · Answer

Because to men you’re age you’re considered old. That’s not to say all me. Your age want women who are much younger. But honestly at your age if you haven’t married, had a long term relationship or had a child there’s a reason why. Something about you that doesn’t make a top choice. Most women who are going to be wives, mothers, usually are picked up right away at a younger age. For a man who’s older, you’re not considered old. You’re also probably not considered to immature for an older man. That’s not to say older men in their 50s won’t go for a girl in her 20s cause there are some who will: You can hold out to meet someone your age, or maybe gone a man who’s a little older because you’re only going to get older. When you read your 40s men your age most likely won’t want you either, not all but a lot, they would prefer a girl in her 30s, maybe even 20s.

Iron_Man · Answer

@leviopperman He is 100% correct. That’s how we feel and that’s how I’ve seen a lot of relationships work. We want one more last Run a woman that can have kids for us that are older that haven’t had kids We don’t date women our age. The maturity factor is totally different being the same age as a woman our age. We have a lot of energy and we want to do a lot of things on this earth still we’re not in retirement mode and a girl our age is just too laid-back to relaxed and wants to retire and settle down and relax around the house and we don’t want that so that’s why we date younger plus we want the kids. And we want to date the fountain of youth. Women age, faster than us and look Older than us at our age

sawno · Answer

I warn girls on here about it for a reason. 33 is also the oldest I am personally willing to date on the assumption we then have 2 years to find out if the relationship can last before kids become a factor. I dont ever want to rush to have kids.

HighValue · Answer

Guys in their 30s likely still want to create and raise a family so it makes sense that they wouldn't want to start a new relationship with someone your age. Maybe if you find someone that has no interest in raising a family and has few options for dating it would help.

Anonymous · Answer

Because women typically date from their age to 10 years. their senior. Men do it a little differently. They date half their age + 7. So if a guy is 50 he looking in the 32 range. If he's 60 he's looking in the 37 range. If he's still looking at 70 he might be looking in the 42 range. I say that because guys don't really look for women over 40. You'll find that out in about 7 more years.😆 At 32 and 34 guys are looking at women in their early 20's. I'm not saying you can't get a guy around your age, but you got some wear on the tires at this point. And guys in their 30's do not fall for the same tricks they did in their 20's. In other words you're probably going to have to put in a little work this go around.

choco-latte · Answer

Not every man thinks the same. Don’t give up after your first tries, keep meeting people and you’ll find someone right for you and within your age bracket. Maybe try dating apps, they might help you connect to more people… but be careful.

SUMAIREBRAHIM · Answer

Im curious too I'm only getting attracted to young girls around 22
At function n wedding certain girl was hitting on me n she is 26-27 somehow I wasn't attracted too her n she is pretty too
I have noticed in not being attracted older girls 24-32 i have noticed even when they're being served at plater...

BadApple69 · Answer

I know the answer to this now…. It’s because you are so darn sweet!!  Heck I want to date you now ❤️😉

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Maybe it's because oof the way so many women of your age group have been treating men recently so, the older guys don't feel the same way about you that the younger guys do.

Jewelmyth · Answer

Because they think they're perfect, they date girls in their twenties, and then what happens? It ends in disappointment.

browsingthroughthe · Answer

But you're a prime age woman?  And you still can't score a hot date with an equally 20s/30s early 30 man?  I guess we all have our dating struggled

Nikki1989 · Answer

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LiamS95 · Answer

I'm 31 and if you're not scary looking I'll date you.

molonski2 · Answer

I always had 30 - 40 year Olds in my 50s , always , that's how it rolls..

bowenw · Answer

It sounds like you may not have met many guys 32-34. Try going to places and doing things where men that age can be found.

bear34 · Answer

Do you look older than your age? Maybe you should highlight your femininity a bit more. You should dress more attractively.

leviopperman · Answer

30 year olds want girl in their 20s not you. only old guys want you

Komorowski · Answer

Why did you wait so long, two or three years I can see but ten. The guy is a bumbass for not seeing the problem sooner. Sorry you missed out on so much. I hope you find what makes you happy. Don't set you sights too high!

mat566 · Answer

Men in 50s want younger woman that's why it's easy to find them more often

canamlusciouslad73 · Answer

At 73, a 33-year-old would be someone I'd LOVE to date.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm 2 years older than you, if I knew bit about you maybe I'd be interested to date you 😜

Anonymous · Answer

Older men date younger women and sometimes younger men date older women

Iwccscg · Answer

It's because most guys in their 30s have been hurt too many times to try anything with women rn

DryGermanGuy · Answer

Have you considered getting bigger boobs?

LiamJHayden · Answer

Most guys seem to seek out younger women.

In_Trance · Answer

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