Can someone tell me why women have made it impossible to date them?

[Anonymous]

It’s just a feeling I’ve had for a few months now, I’ve been trying to meet someone, (hell, ANYONE!) for about the last year or so. I’ve had a few texting phases and have got to where I’ve arranged several dates and all seems to be going well until the day of and they’ve cancelled every time.

And it’s one of those things, I get it, where women fear for their safety and this and that, I 100% understand. But anymore even as a guy, I fear for mine as well. Honestly like I don’t mean this in a self important or self absorbed way at all either but I’m really like the best dude. I wouldn’t even think about doing anyone wrong or anything like that, I’m just looking for an honest connection with one woman for ONCE in my life.

Its just crazy to me that life has come to this, where it seems like no one is willing to put themselves out there for someone else. People have no idea how hard I’ve been working on myself and what I’ve been through. I truly just want a companion and someone I can come home to and it immediately puts a smile on my face. I don’t expect perfection either but surely there’s still some good people out there that understand what this is all about, no?

[Anonymous]

Because that is their PEROGATIVE. Rather than complain about it why not just learn to plan for a life that does not involve them?

I get what you're complaining about. But it's pointless. I bet there's a fair number of homely and fat women that would say the same thing. I knew this one woman for about a decade and a half. She would never have considered me till she completely ran out of what she considered to be "acceptable options". Then she was willing to give me a "chance" mind you. And then she was shocked when i said no thank you.🤣 She couldn't believe i wouldn't jump at the chance to be her fallback. It's not that i didn't think she was attractive, she was. It's not that i didn't think she was a decent human being, she was (even those she did have some rough edge, we all do). It's that she really didn't want to date me. I knew that her heart wasn't in it. I was a good guy and a safw choice. One that she would likely end down the road because she wasn't feeling it. If you can't see my worth from the beginning than keep it moving. I'll fight to keep a woman that wanted me from the beginning. I'm not going to fight to keep a woman who couldn't really recognize my worth from the beginning.

In other words, stop blaming YOURSELF for other women's inability to see your value. Women USED to be relegated to whatever man approached her. They had to marry at some point because being single and living for themselves was not socially acceptable. The world has changed. And women are NOW LEARNING what men have known for the past 2000 years. Freedom of choice is MISLEADING. Women think they can have it all. The job she wants, the house, the car, the social standing and a guy that looks like Chris Hemsworth. I'll pause while you laugh... . It's the ILLUSION women have held about men for 2 millenia. Now women think they can get it all. And they have to spend a few generations lwarning life doesn't work that way. And ynfortunately the learning curve with women is S-L-O-W.

So just live your life man. Stop beating yourself up at a woman's slow learning curve. You have little to nothing to do with that.

[Nikki1989]

So what's up with everyone I know? They are either married or actively dating someone. Have you ever thought it must just be you?

Of course not... right?

[WhitneySnow]

Try to meet someone naturally in your real life rather than going through dating apps

[Asker]

I’m getting out more on weekends, trying coffee shops and bars. Sometimes interactions come naturally. It’s just awkward going out by myself I guess.

[WhitneySnow]

Good luck. And keep in mind that it might not be personal. They might have just decided they weren’t interested in dating anyone at this time.

[Asker]

Thanks. I do see positive signs. Talking with bartenders and they seem really into the conversation, or women coming up to me and asking what I ordered occasionally. I figured they must’ve noticed something, if only the food, but it’s like they didn’t need to come up and ask me anything, right?

It’s just hard to find someone that you like too, at the same time. I just need to keep getting out there I think.

[WhitneySnow]

Yes. Just keep trying.

[Anonymous]

They are extremely wishy-washy. They don’t know what they want Most women

[DryGermanGuy]

You sound like you're from Miami. 🤔