How can I start actually dating at 34 after years with escorts?

[Anonymous]

I had an extremely shitty 20s for dating. I didn’t lose my virginity until 30 and I was laughed at and humiliated the whole time. I even had shit thrown at me at bars.

I finally started hiring escorts at 30, and now I am 34. I am not 100% positive but I believe my four years hiring hookers twice a month (fuck it cost tons of money), will prepare me for dating a real woman. I assume she can’t reject me for lack of experience now at least.

Still, I am fully aware I’ll have to take these past four years to the grave. And I’ll need to invent stories for some time of women I dated. I could use any help I can get.

[Coercion_Is_Trauma]

The only reason a person's past matters is because it gives a rough estimate of how you will act in the future.

Sounds like you are trying to conceal your past. Why would you do that? Do not lie. If you must, avoid telling the loser stories until you proved that you are not a loser anymore.

If you prove how good you are right now and that you will stay in the future, after that then the past loser stories do not matter. ㅤ

[choco-latte]

Why invent anything? Don’t you think that a woman has the right to know about the past of a man she’s dating?

The first step is that, if you want to build a relationship built on trust and acceptance, you should be honest. Tell her you’re not into that anymore, if that’s the case. And talk to people to get to know them first instead of just seeing relationship potential. That’s how you find something genuine, since I’m guessing that’s what you’re looking for in a “real woman”, right?

[Nikki1989]

Trying to make people feel sorry for you won't help you any.

[Asker]

Good thing I’m anonymous then.

[Alex-Snow]

Do not invent stories... while you do not have to discuss the escorts you can just say that you had other priorities in life. Try to be honest and open and just be yourself.

[Alex-Snow]

Ty for the mho

[Anonymous]

How would people know you were a virgin to throw things at you at bars? I've never really seen anyone throw anything at anyone at bars.

[Anonymous]

you can't. you dont seems like someone i would ask my best friend to marry. date only young women 18-24, jump from one woman to the next

[Anonymous]

Sex experience does not prepare you to date.

[Asker]

I didn’t say I had no experience being around women in general.

Just not fucking them beforehand.

[FrodoSkywalker007]

🤔 seems a bit trolly