How do I get myself to step into the dating world again after several years?

[MizzArtFreak89]

Okay so when I was about 21 in a half, I had my first relationship, but it only lasted three months and I. My best friend warned me and after trying to get me to break up with him and others were worried about me. He wasn’t a bad guy or anything or abusive. He was a jerk to me and…. that’s all I have to say.

I’ve talked to guys one of my closest friends introduced me too before I got into a relationship with my ex boyfriend. I guess I just wasn’t mature enough to have a relationship. I took myself out of the dating world for a while. Now looking back, I wish I could have dated more in my 20s but I chose to remain single because I liked it.

Anyways moving on to 34 going on 35, after 13 years I’ll have to get a fresh start. I don't want to wait until I’m older or like 50 something. I know everyone is different and finds their soul mate at different times. When I feel ready, how can I get a fresh start in the dating world again. Thanks

[Oliverlogan263]

Yo, I totally get it - getting back into the dating game after a long break can be super intimidating. But don't worry, you got this! Here are some tips that might help you get a fresh start:

First off, don't be too hard on yourself about the past. That relationship when you were 21 sounds like it wasn't the greatest, but that's all part of the learning process. The important thing is you took time for yourself, which was probably a really smart move.

Now that you're feeling ready to put yourself out there again, the key is to go at your own pace and not put too much pressure on yourself. Maybe start by just trying to make some new friends, guys or girls, and see where things go naturally from there. No need to jump straight into serious dating.

When you do feel ready to date, try branching out beyond your usual social circles. Download some dating apps, ask your friends to set you up, go to social events in your community. The more new people you meet, the better your chances of finding someone you really click with.

And don't forget to focus on yourself too! Work on building up your confidence, pursuing hobbies and interests, taking care of your physical and mental health. The more secure and content you are with yourself, the easier it'll be to put yourself out there.

Most importantly, don't get discouraged. Dating can be tough, but you've got this. Just take it one step at a time, and remember that there's no timeline - you'll find your person when the time is right. Wishing you all the best, luv!

[MizzArtFreak89]

Hey sorry I’m just seeing this! Thank you so much.

[OlofssonBengtsson]

You have to be realistic about what you get. He's not going to be the rich Christian Grey type of guy anymore it's too late for that. I know you don't want to settle on a guy working in the trades or below a certain amount of money. So I guess you can try a guy in

[MizzArtFreak89]

Oh I don’t care about the rich kind of thing or, tall dark and handsome but just someone real, honest, trustworthy and to share my life with.

[Nikki1989]

1. Think about what are you looking for in a relationship.

2. Practice self-care and positive affirmations to boost your self-esteem.

[MizzArtFreak89]

Yes those are so important

[bowenw]

Try to date guys you already know if you are interested in any of them. Make it known to your friends that you want to meet someone in case they know some good guys. Dating sites can work, but watch out for guys that use them just for sex.

[MizzArtFreak89]

Oh okay thank you

[bowenw]

😊 😊

[MannMitAntworten]

When you are ready, just be open and approachable to men who equally catch your interest.

[BigTex53]

Start now. Don’t wait

[Anonymous]

Good luck.😆