What’s usually the cause when a guy reaches out after 9 months of silence?

[Anonymous]

Well we said take care in Dec. it was just Messy I just couldn’t get clarity about where things were going for a whole year. My anxiety was crazy. Even on dates I’d get a little anxiety always wondering. After saying take care to each other he texts me 9months later

“hey hope your doing ok. I seen you online and just thought I’d say hi”

it’s been 14 days since I didn’t respond. My feelings are still up in the air a little. Not as bad but just still a bit there.

am I doing the right thing by staying silent?

[HollyK21]

I agree with Spartan, this is most likely just about trying to hookup. In any case, I’d say you’re better off ignoring the message, don’t get derailed from the months of progress you’ve made getting over the guy. I also don’t think it’s worth returning to because in most cases, it’s best to leave an ex of any sort in the past. If he couldn’t give you clarity for a year, on top of your bad anxiety and the overall messiness of the situation, I don’t see the value in engaging that again. You’re fine, he sees you’re fine, no need to check in.

[Asker]

So it’s a good thing I chose not to respond? If so I’m pretty glad that I was able to do that!

[HollyK21]

Yes, I definitely think you’re making the right choice by not replying, based off what you were dealing with. You can do a lot better 🫶

[Anonymous]

Since it's been 14 days, just stay silent at this point

[spartan55]

He wants sex.

[Sickworld]

Horny

[MasterKS]

Get a better guy.