Do you think two people need to be very similar in order for a relationship to work?

[Anonymous]

It's what my past relationship with my ex boyfriend taught me... the relationship just didn't work out because we were just too different. Differences in the way we spend money, I was hardworking while he was lazy. I had goals while he had none. He was dirty while I was clean. We had no hobbies in common. He had no education while I spent my entire life in education. He had mental issues, I didn't.

[NathanDavis]

not necessarily, no...

I had great relationships before... whether we were more or less alike make no difference

what you just described has to do a lot more with him being a slob and also a work in progress

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Looking around, all kinds of silly, strange and even toxic relationships seem to work. At least for a time, which can be a loooong time, enough to say, from a distance, "it works"

[Asker]

toxic relationships aren't working. just cuz two people can't get out of a relationship that does not work, it doesn't mean it's a relationship that works

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Hence quotation marks, "it works", because people decide for themselves what a working relationship is, regardless of what other people think...

[Asker]

@maybe_maybe_not

All toric relationships come to an end at some point. Maybe less than 5% of toxic relationships survive forever but that's usually when one person is born to tolerate abuse and bullying

[Anonymous]

A few differences are fine and healthy, just not THAT many

[Nikki1989]

You have to be tuned in with each other, yes!

[MrChinaski]

That does not sound like a balanced account of any relationship ever. You are angry. I get it. I hope it passes for you with time.

[Asker]

im actually not angry

[exitseven]

it sure helps. My wife and I have a lot of things in common. If I was to tell you about ir you would not believe it.

[Alex-Snow]

You make some good points but they also say opposites attract. Go figure

[Asker]

which do you think makes more sense?

[Anonymous]

A what you’re saying is you’re perfect, he was trash?

[Anonymous]

What about your looks