Do you think two completely opposite personalities can make it work?

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I mean, I know opposite attracts but I feel for the long-term you can't be with someone that doesn't share your views or interests and other things. How about you?

dynamicyandere · Accepted Answer

Well said. My fiancée and I are opposites in many ways. But what we align on are our values and principles and worldview.

I’m an introvert, she’s an extrovert. I’m more reserved. She’s more expressive. I’m more steady and stable. She’s more spontaneous. I’m interested in business. She doesn’t like business. I don’t mind taking on the pressure and responsibility of leadership because I understand its importance and I enjoy the challenge. She doesn’t like the handling logistics of complicated decisions with high stakes and would rather play a supporting role. I enjoy reading books. She doesn’t really. I’m from the west, she’s from the east. My first language is English. Her first language is Malay. I graduated with a science degree. She graduated with an art degree. I come from a Christian upbringing. She comes from a Muslim upbringing. I’m more of a morning person. She’s more of a night owl.

And yet…

We get along extraordinarily well despite all those differences. Some of those differences are completely complementary. While others can clash a little (e. g. business intrigues me but it bores her).

I believe the glue that keeps us working well together is despite all those differences, at the core, is we still hold similar values in terms of morals and ethics and principles and what we prioritize in life.

For us, I believe some of those things are:
* Love, genuine love, is more important than money or status or anything temporary thing.
* Our relationship is a top priority — just as important as career. When making decisions we always consider the negative or positive impact it may have on our relationship.
* Personal development is important. People should continually be developing themselves to become better throughout life. In turn it will also help them not only live a happier life but also have stronger relationships.
* Living a life with minimal regrets is important. Every decision should consider whether or not it will be a regretful decision or not in the future.
* Real love is shown though actions and the stronger that love is, the more challenges it can endure and overcome.
* The universe is mysterious and nobody should be so arrogant as to believe they 100% know all the answers. Religions are imperfect and fallible, so one must humbly seek out the truth themselves and not solely rely on tradition, but rather personal experience and deep contemplation.

Friendlybro79 · Accepted Answer

People can make things work if they want to try. We can all get along even if we're opposites if we try. The sad thing is many people don't want to be flexible and open minded. Hence why we can't even have different religions not causing hate and war today.

Madilyn · Accepted Answer

I think the most important thing is what kind of opposites you’re talking about. I think for many couples, having different interests works nicely, especially when their characteristics balance each other out. For example, pairing shy with outgoing, emotional with stoic, spontaneous with cautious. These are cases where one quality can keep you grounded and responsible, and the other can push you to take risks.

This rarely works with values, politics, standards of living, ambitions, etc. since those are qualities you want to be aligned with your partner.

silyt_ghoest · Accepted Answer

opposite personalities? yes. opposite opinions… eh. no. opposite personalities can be nice though because they typically compliment each other. unless it’s happy and depression or something that’s gonna traumatize the other. i also think basically the same person with different interests is cute. but if it’s basically the same person different opinions stay friends. as long as you both treat each other well and you agree on important stuff like politics and kids and stuff yeah.

AmandaYVR · Answer

No, there have been studies on this and over the long-term, opposites don't work well. There's too many differences to reconcile. It takes a toll, creates more conflicts, and ends in more breakups.

coachTanthony · Answer

Yes of course. Compatibility is key not personalities. In the end if you don't have common interests and are compatible it doesn't matter anyway.

AviatorTom · Answer

In Nature, opposites attract, so of course opposite personalities can make it work.

Avicenna · Answer

Maybe they can, for awhile at least

DannyUk2017 · Answer

Two opposites cannot WORK TOGETHER... at first, but After some Time they can MOULD one after the other, and after that they will become inseparable.😉🤫

Bitter_Sweet94 · Answer

Yes, they can but only if they balance each other, not cancel each other out.

Opposites work when both people stay curious about each other, communicate clearly, and don’t try to ‘fix’ the other into a version that feels familiar.

Different personalities aren’t the problem.

A lack of respect, patience, and emotional maturity is.

Two opposites who know how to meet in the middle can be a stronger match than two similar people who don’t.

ChiTown33 · Answer

It's very rare for it to. Relationships are about shared experiences. You want to feel connected to that person. That's hard to do if you're always viewingbit from completely differing viewpoints. And the longer you're with that person the more thier differences are going to show. I will say this though. The longer you're with someone the more they rub off on you. So I suppose it's possible. So long as you can stand them long enough for that to happen a bit.

I wouldn't recommend it.😂

Grond21 · Answer

You have to be with someone who has the same values that you do. That is crucial, and any time you don't have it, you don't have a healthy relationship.

Different personalities can work, but it is tough. They have to have really high quality communication. But with that, it's totally possible

DJB72 · Answer

After 20 years married to a lady the exact opposite of me as measured by the Myers Briggs tests. It's not easy

GreenLanternI0I · Answer

No, because both of you would try to oppose and introduce each others believe on each other all the freaking time. Perfect example Flat-Earther and Globe, Christian and Muslim, DC Comics lol and MARVEL the list is endless. You always be at each others throats and try to indoctrinate each other even in simple things such as food, movies or clothe.

MrOracle · Answer

What you can't be in a relationship long-term without is shared morals, values, and life goals. Two different personality types can definitely get along - often this makes them more compatible - and you don't even need many shared interests, but morals, values and life goals are a must.

Anemone978 · Answer

Probably not.. it all depends on what you have in common because if you have nothing in common then it won't last..

menina · Answer

I agree with you. There must be something in common. Otherwise the couple will always be arguing over the things they disagree on.

qqqqq0000 · Answer

My boyfriend and i are pretty opposite in a lot of things (big and small) and we still get along and have been together for over a year. Although that being said, when we argue we handle things very differently which kinda makes things worse, but its worth it.

Arik_jade · Answer

Yes I agree with you.. here we should not consider genderwise

love_conquers_lust · Answer

In theory. Like attracts like in the gravitational world. Opposites attract in the electromagnetic world.

The less you have in common, the more work it will be. It will be exciting, but stressful. Up to you how much work you want a relationship to be.

Xawyx-2 · Answer

Yes, I believe so, opposites attract, but their personalities should be at least a little bit compatible.

WillowofFeathers · Answer

I do think that opposite personalities can have a good and long lasting relationship. My boyfriend and I are very opposite regarding our personalities. But we share the same values. And often we agree on a topic but for completely different reasons.

OddBeMe · Answer

It would be exceedingly hard to denote someone as “entirely opposite” as you. Surface level, movie likes, etc, there’s so much more we don’t even know about consciously.

So I’d say even if you feel they’re “completely opposite” yet you’re together I’d bet there’s some draw. And honestly the metric should really be just happiness. Are you happier when he’s around?

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Yes, I agree with you, I believe so.

eagle1951 · Answer

I know they can my late wife and I were married 37 years , we were different as night and day

OfMiceandMen · Answer

I think you require some commonalities, but yes you can survive together if you are opposites. You just have to be the type of people that don't do everything in a relationship together and be fine with that scenario.

llorando · Answer

In my opinion it can work, and having opposing personalities, may allow them to compliment each other.

Shiningtempest · Answer

I can only be in a relationship with a woman who shares my interests, views, & has same personality. Thus, I am willing to forego an opportunity to date a woman with "complimentary" personality to make sure I only date a woman who's 99% similar to me.

UnknownGagsUser · Answer

Yes absolutely if the both of you putting effort in to your relationship

Anonymous · Answer

is it my imaginafion or is every 2nd photo here of a white chick with a negro
thats sick shit
obviously this is very rare or our kids wouldn't be white
and why do i get a warning if i point out that jewish women are ugly?
with all the crazy shit people say on here.
its not my blooody fault

Simslover92 · Answer

I think so. Me and my boyfriend aren't total opposites but we have a lot of differences and we make it work.

Pegases · Answer

No not in the long run. One of the parties would need to be more agreeable than the other for it to work long term.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Yes baby you know what they say opposites attract🤣🤣🤣🤣

BLP11520 · Answer

No, you need agreement on key beliefs and values and long term goals

Miristheiss · Answer

Having the same core values on major issues is what matters. Values on marriage, money, faith, kids, sex.

summiter · Answer

Sure as long as they are patient with each other

strateguy632 · Answer

maybe a very bossy guy can work with a very unbossy girl.

clampfan101 · Answer

For the most part no, but there can be exceptions. How strong the yes or no of each aspect is also greatly depends on how strong the difference is.

Carina0 · Answer

I think they can. Also the more time people spend together, the more similar they become. I think not being very similar in character does not prevent a special bond from forming

thegreenyogi · Answer

I think it could work if the feelings are strong enough.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

No, there is zero chance of that working.  Opposite genders attract, opposite personalities repel.

Likes2drive · Answer

Sure if they can compromise on things, you don’t need the same interests but your views should be close

Starrrboy · Answer

Same... I think after a while the magic is gone and you're just meeting them in the middle all the time..

Unit1 · Answer

Probably. If it is, then it is unheard of. Yet.

AlexEfron · Answer

Nope. Sooner or later those differences turn into disagreements and quarrels

dragoblack · Answer

They can, but it takes talking about issues without fighting.

Aakash_Hangargi · Answer

If one of you is submissive then it would

clubboss · Answer

If one of them knows how to handle the other then yes.

black_king · Answer

Yes it’s possible it depends on the people that are involved

Jennz6 · Answer

Opposites attract

Anonymous · Answer

Opposite attract is just a myth.. I mean how can you be with someone who is totally opposite?

sirderpsalot123 · Answer

Nope

4ngelic · Answer

its possible but unlikely

whirled_up_girl · Answer

I imagine it could.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Unlikely. You clash on so many things.

WhitneySnow · Answer

Maybe but that’s really rare

elizamichale1 · Answer

how would tht be possible

LavLavLuv · Answer

It could be, they can complement each other

Arichip · Answer

Sure I seen it

Christoff92 · Answer

Sure. Nobody has to be alike.

Masterodd · Answer

maybe.. anything is possible. :)

shades777 · Answer

yes and no, and i will offer zero explanation

Guardian45 · Answer

Opposites attract, but similars stay together!

In_Trance · Answer

short term only

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