Do you think two completely opposite personalities can make it work?

[Genie23]

I mean, I know opposite attracts but I feel for the long-term you can't be with someone that doesn't share your views or interests and other things. How about you?

[dynamicyandere]

Well said. My fiancée and I are opposites in many ways. But what we align on are our values and principles and worldview.


I’m an introvert, she’s an extrovert. I’m more reserved. She’s more expressive. I’m more steady and stable. She’s more spontaneous. I’m interested in business. She doesn’t like business. I don’t mind taking on the pressure and responsibility of leadership because I understand its importance and I enjoy the challenge. She doesn’t like the handling logistics of complicated decisions with high stakes and would rather play a supporting role. I enjoy reading books. She doesn’t really. I’m from the west, she’s from the east. My first language is English. Her first language is Malay. I graduated with a science degree. She graduated with an art degree. I come from a Christian upbringing. She comes from a Muslim upbringing. I’m more of a morning person. She’s more of a night owl.


And yet…


We get along extraordinarily well despite all those differences. Some of those differences are completely complementary. While others can clash a little (e. g. business intrigues me but it bores her).


I believe the glue that keeps us working well together is despite all those differences, at the core, is we still hold similar values in terms of morals and ethics and principles and what we prioritize in life.


For us, I believe some of those things are:
* Love, genuine love, is more important than money or status or anything temporary thing.
* Our relationship is a top priority — just as important as career. When making decisions we always consider the negative or positive impact it may have on our relationship.
* Personal development is important. People should continually be developing themselves to become better throughout life. In turn it will also help them not only live a happier life but also have stronger relationships.
* Living a life with minimal regrets is important. Every decision should consider whether or not it will be a regretful decision or not in the future.
* Real love is shown though actions and the stronger that love is, the more challenges it can endure and overcome.
* The universe is mysterious and nobody should be so arrogant as to believe they 100% know all the answers. Religions are imperfect and fallible, so one must humbly seek out the truth themselves and not solely rely on tradition, but rather personal experience and deep contemplation.

[dynamicyandere]

We’ve been together 5 years and are going strong. 🙂

[dynamicyandere]

And, before anyone says she’s with me because I’m a rich American foreigner, her family is actually more affluent than mine and she’s the granddaughter of a prime minister. Her mother can afford all kinds of designer bags. So, she’s not interested in me for my money or a green card.

[Friendlybro79]

People can make things work if they want to try. We can all get along even if we're opposites if we try. The sad thing is many people don't want to be flexible and open minded. Hence why we can't even have different religions not causing hate and war today.

[Genie23]

I tried a lot but sadly, it didn't work but then again maybe we weren't just right kind of people for each other.

[Madilyn]

I think the most important thing is what kind of opposites you’re talking about. I think for many couples, having different interests works nicely, especially when their characteristics balance each other out. For example, pairing shy with outgoing, emotional with stoic, spontaneous with cautious. These are cases where one quality can keep you grounded and responsible, and the other can push you to take risks.

This rarely works with values, politics, standards of living, ambitions, etc. since those are qualities you want to be aligned with your partner.

[Genie23]

I'm talking about both, views in life and on important matters and interest. I feel the interest in each other will diminish if there are no common grounds especially if only one person enjoy certain activities rather than both. Also, if you have different views, you are bound to clash, that's how I feel... because I've been there.

[dynamicyandere]

Well said. 🥂

[silyt_ghoest]

opposite personalities? yes. opposite opinions… eh. no. opposite personalities can be nice though because they typically compliment each other. unless it’s happy and depression or something that’s gonna traumatize the other. i also think basically the same person with different interests is cute. but if it’s basically the same person different opinions stay friends. as long as you both treat each other well and you agree on important stuff like politics and kids and stuff yeah.

[AmandaYVR]

No, there have been studies on this and over the long-term, opposites don't work well. There's too many differences to reconcile. It takes a toll, creates more conflicts, and ends in more breakups.

[Shiningtempest]

@AmandaYVR Well said. :)

[AmandaYVR]

@Shiningtempest Thank you. 🙇‍♀️

[coachTanthony]

Yes of course. Compatibility is key not personalities. In the end if you don't have common interests and are compatible it doesn't matter anyway.

[Shiningtempest]

@coachTanthony You would have to be mistaken if you believe completely opposite personalities can make it work.

[coachTanthony]

@Shiningtempest You don't even know what a personality is? It's not binary.

[Shiningtempest]

@coachTanthony I firmly believe a person dating another person with same personality will have higher chance of success. A person dating another person with opposite personalities have lower chance of success.

[coachTanthony]

@Shiningtempest In the real world we just say the person isn't our type. lol

[AviatorTom]

In Nature, opposites attract, so of course opposite personalities can make it work.

[love_conquers_lust]

C’mon Tom. You know predominantly like attracts like. I don’t see lions pal’ing around with tigers and bears. Oh my.

[Avicenna]

Maybe they can, for awhile at least

[DannyUk2017]

Two opposites cannot WORK TOGETHER... at first, but After some Time they can MOULD one after the other, and after that they will become inseparable.😉🤫

[Genie23]

I saw what you did there, lol. 😇 Thank you for your input

[DannyUk2017]

😁😉🤫... i'm glad you "seen" the "light" 🌹

[ChiTown33]

It's very rare for it to. Relationships are about shared experiences. You want to feel connected to that person. That's hard to do if you're always viewingbit from completely differing viewpoints. And the longer you're with that person the more thier differences are going to show. I will say this though. The longer you're with someone the more they rub off on you. So I suppose it's possible. So long as you can stand them long enough for that to happen a bit.

I wouldn't recommend it.😂

[DJB72]

After 20 years married to a lady the exact opposite of me as measured by the Myers Briggs tests.

It's not easy

[Genie23]

But you made it work. That's amazing. I felt it was hopeless after last bad experience

[GreenLanternI0I]

No, because both of you would try to oppose and introduce each others believe on each other all the freaking time. Perfect example Flat-Earther and Globe, Christian and Muslim, DC Comics lol and MARVEL the list is endless. You always be at each others throats and try to indoctrinate each other even in simple things such as food, movies or clothe.

[MrOracle]

What you can't be in a relationship long-term without is shared morals, values, and life goals. Two different personality types can definitely get along - often this makes them more compatible - and you don't even need many shared interests, but morals, values and life goals are a must.

[qqqqq0000]

My boyfriend and i are pretty opposite in a lot of things (big and small) and we still get along and have been together for over a year. Although that being said, when we argue we handle things very differently which kinda makes things worse, but its worth it.

[love_conquers_lust]

In theory. Like attracts like in the gravitational world. Opposites attract in the electromagnetic world.

The less you have in common, the more work it will be. It will be exciting, but stressful. Up to you how much work you want a relationship to be.

[Grond21]

You have to be with someone who has the same values that you do. That is crucial, and any time you don't have it, you don't have a healthy relationship.

Different personalities can work, but it is tough. They have to have really high quality communication. But with that, it's totally possible

[Arik_jade]

Yes I agree with you.. here we should not consider genderwise

[Genie23]

Genderwise? What do you mean?

[WillowofFeathers]

I do think that opposite personalities can have a good and long lasting relationship. My boyfriend and I are very opposite regarding our personalities. But we share the same values. And often we agree on a topic but for completely different reasons.

[OddBeMe]

It would be exceedingly hard to denote someone as “entirely opposite” as you. Surface level, movie likes, etc, there’s so much more we don’t even know about consciously.

So I’d say even if you feel they’re “completely opposite” yet you’re together I’d bet there’s some draw. And honestly the metric should really be just happiness. Are you happier when he’s around?

[OfMiceandMen]

I think you require some commonalities, but yes you can survive together if you are opposites. You just have to be the type of people that don't do everything in a relationship together and be fine with that scenario.

[Shiningtempest]

I can only be in a relationship with a woman who shares my interests, views, & has same personality. Thus, I am willing to forego an opportunity to date a woman with "complimentary" personality to make sure I only date a woman who's 99% similar to me.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Yes, I agree with you, I believe so.

[eagle1951]

I know they can my late wife and I were married 37 years , we were different as night and day

[Genie23]

This gives me hope.

[Anonymous]

is it my imaginafion or is every 2nd photo here of a white chick with a negro
thats sick shit
obviously this is very rare or our kids wouldn't be white
and why do i get a warning if i point out that jewish women are ugly?
with all the crazy shit people say on here.
its not my blooody fault

[Sasha0426]

Are you ok? You don’t sound mentally right in the head. Then again old fuckers like yourself never are. Maybe it’s time for you to go to a home, Grandpa.

[Opinion Owner]

@Sasha0426 you sound like a negroid. get back in your cage