Ladies and Gentlemen, which sort of life partner would you find the most scary to be with?

[FinalFantasyBro]

Obsessive Partner: This is the man or woman who is so crazy in the head for you, they literally will make you, your family, and family completely paranoid. This person might go through your stuff without your permission, they might spy on you especially if you want some alone time or don't think about talking to a family member or a friend of the opposite sex because the stalker girl or guy you are dating will become so creepy desperate enough to please you they not only will willing to put their own health or safety on the line but they might keep you lock up in the house because in their eyes anyone can steal you from them, hell they might even play some horror creepy music. Basically with this man or woman your life might essentially get involved with them and only them because you are the only person in their mind 24/7, good luck having precious me time because with this husband or wife you definitely need it

Toxic Partner: Are you the sort of person who hate drama, violence and restrictions if yes than trust me run the fuck away from the toxic wife and toxic husband. This is the person who will filled your life with so much choas and petty drama, your partner might try to control your body, living arrangements and essentially your entire life. If you men and women out there think the obsession partner is the jealous, trust me at least the obsessive partner might not constantly snoop through your phone if they instantly suspect you are cheating on them or your toxic lover might always interrogate you if you want to leave out of the house. And you toxic lover might physically, emotionally or mentally abused you too so there that.

Now men and women out of these two picks which one would make you more afraid to be with?

Obsessive Lover

Toxic Lover

[EarthRealm]

funny how you think obsessive people are geniuses of the highest order. I already have cameras 📷 I could Buy a talking parrot.
I already have a dog 🐕 that doesn’t like it when people are on any type of Furniture accept Chairs 🪑 my dog Has already claimed all the furniture as his.
Lots of things piss him off
Playing Loud music pisses him off
Talking loudly Pisses him off.
And there’s plenty of other things that Shadow Gets pissed off about.

[EarthRealm]

Depending on who it is
I Can either leave him to roam around the crib or I’ve got to Put him in his room.

[FinalFantasyBro]

When did I ever claim obsessive people are geniuses?

[msc545]

Toxic - been there. got the scars.

[FinalFantasyBro]

I am very sorry you went through that, good thing you escape though.

[msc545]

Thank you. I am fortunate to not be in prison for killing that cunt.

[FinalFantasyBro]

Good Job

[msc545]

Took a lot of restraint on my part so thanks

[Rania05]

As long as one give the obsessive lover their attention and love, try make them understand it isn't a two-person world they live in but a country, they're actually much better than toxic partner excluding the creepy music thingy. Personally, I would feel secure if one like me so much that they crave for my attention so much as they as they trust me

[FinalFantasyBro]

I mean yes I do knowledge it's kinda sweet that they really want to impressed you but I probably would feel really smothered having someone who constantly with me 24/7.

[Rania05]

In short-term I think I do be happy but overtime I think it do need some change eventually

[FinalFantasyBro]

Maybe you can help the obsessive partner by probably promising a few pictures of yourself in exchange for your personal me time or try taking the partner to therapy maybe

[Rania05]

Going to therapist is a given but I'd left it until he's stable enough, lol
What's wrong with giving pictures? It's only natural for him to have some even if I don't give it

[Rania05]

Honestly my me time is actually just a substitute for when I'm lonely so a possessive partner is actually nice since he can accompany me in almost everything (except going to restroom and changing clothes)

[FinalFantasyBro]

Well if you can definitely handle the guy and don't mind it one bit that is definitely good. Let love be however you want it to be.

[DizzyDesii]

The toxic lover scared me more. As for the obsessive lover, its kinda cute minus the creepy music. But i hate feeling trapped and will eventually run for it while he's sleeping or some shit. That situation honestly reminds me of this movie

[FinalFantasyBro]

Did the girl in the movie managed to flee for her life.

[DizzyDesii]

You should watch and see lol

[FinalFantasyBro]

I definitely will check this movie out

[BullShark]

Definitely steering clear of the toxic partner. Like Rania said before me, you can still somehow manage an obsessive partner. Unless they have abusive tendencies that is, the worst they can do is annoy the living shit out of you.

A toxic partner however, is a completely different ballpark. They'll not only likely abuse you mentally, emotionally and physically, but a toxic partner will be far more controlling than the obsessive kind. An obsessive partner will usually try to coerce or beg you for their attention, while the toxic partner will demand it through their own twisted justification or else threaten you with consequences. They'll also most likely gaslight you, poke at your insecurities and make you feel worthless and unimportant, trying to manipulate you and make you think that you need them and they're the only people who are capable of loving you, but unlike the obsessive partner who'll be hopelessly in love with you, the toxic partner is instead a narcissist and only loves themselves, using you to get what they want and until they get it, you'll continue to be their favorite toy.

My last partner was pretty much the same toxic person as I mentioned above. She'd never say it straight to my face, but she'd always make me feel that she was way out of my league and that I should be thanking her for choosing me as her boyfriend while she could get anyone she wanted. She was gorgeous, I admit. But as pretty as she was, she had a rotten personality and at the end of the day, she only cared if something benefitted her too. She'd leech off of me for attention and validation, but when she felt like she wanted to "distance herself", she would take a break and see other guys behind my back.

[Haha456]

1. A man who will dump me once someone better comes along. Or a man who does not take family values seriously. American men don't make good husbands. They just just divorce or start cheating once they have a couple of problems with you.

2. The control freak. The one who constantly thinks i am cheating on him or buys cameras or hires detectives. Wouldn't let me talk to any other man including neighbors.

3. A man who has poor spending habits. Money is not an endless source. If our spending habits do not align, we are gonna have so many problems.

4. A man who sees marriage as a temporary thing rather than a forever thing and that divorce is always an option. When I am getting married, i am not gonna get divorced. If you are marrying me just to get divorced within 6 years, why did you marry me in the first place?

[ethanallen]

You have number 1 wrong. It is women who will leave her husband when any man who has greater wealth, influence and importance come along. Married women are constantly on the lookout for a better guy so they can move up. This is why marriages that are perfectly happy one moment suddently break apart because the husband is "abusive." This is the ploy women use to monkey branch upwards. This is natural part of evolution. It is called hypergamy. The feminist movement has accelerated this drive in women. Now you see marriage rates falling precipitously in the United States for the same reason. Men are now being educated on the dangers of marriage and choose to remain single, have sex with more women and younger women while still enjoying ownership of their toys and property. When men don't marry, women cannot steal.

[Haha456]

@ethanallen

Its a huge lie that women initiate most divorces. Most of the divorces that i have seen over the years are actually initiated by men. And It really does not matter who initiate divorces, if a man starts cheating on his wife , she should have every right to divorce. If her husband doesn't like her and starts giving her a hard time, she should have every right to initiate a divorce.

[ethanallen]

Numerous studies have shown this. In fact, nearly 70 percent of divorces are initiated by women. This is according to a 2015 research study conducted by the American Sociological Association (ASA) which suggests two-thirds of all divorces are initiated by women. Among college-educated women, this number jumps up to 90%.

[ethanallen]

Hypergamy (colloquially referred to as "marrying up"[1]) is a term used in social science for the act or practice of a person marrying a spouse of higher caste or social status than themselves. It is mostly practiced by women.

[Haha456]

@ethanallen

Not all statistics are true.

Just because a man doesn't want to divorce his wife, it does not mean he does not hate her. It does not mean he didn't cheat on her.

[Blueeyes81]

Obsessive. I've never had an obsessive girlfriend but I did have a male coworker who decided to go off his meds and he became infatuated with. I still din't know how but he'd get my phone and program his number in it. I kept changing numbers he somehow would get my phone and put his number in. Do you know how freaky it is to have your phone ring and it say "Mark" after just changing numbers. Anyway he'd call me like 100 times a day. He'd follow me at work. He'd make off had remarks about wishing he was dead or that his wife would die. It got so bad that I told my friends and family that if anything happens to me that they should alert the police to the guy. Luckily he started therapy and got back on his meds and it stopped.

That was as close to obsessive crazy as I ever want to get again.

[exitseven]

The toxic one. I dated somebody who maybe was bi polar. She was abused as a kid by her parents. She drank a lot and sometimes got violent especially when she was drunk. I never knew what was going to happen with her. At first it was sort of fun because she was different from all the other girls I dated but after a while it was just nuts,

[Cherry234]

I feel like the toxic lover is more dangerous and the one I absolutely want to avoid.

[ethanallen]

Cherry, the most scary women to be with are black women. Black men are crazy as hell. If a black guy thinks you belong to him and you go date somebody else, especially a white somebody else, then that white dude is going to get got. (I learned that "get got" phrase from watching all five seasons of The Wire on HBO where I learned everything else about black culture)

[Cherry234]

That’s pretty scary. I’m sure not all of them are like that. Some are reasonable people.

[FinalFantasyBro]

Don't listen to him most black people like myself are normal people.

[ethanallen]

I have known two intelligent normal black guys in my life. So , I can't say "every black guy."

[ethanallen]

How about this guy. He is now dead. He murdered Christina Grimmie after a concert and then shot himself. How can anyone look at this guy and not think "This a-hole is going shoot someone."

A telltale danger sign are the eye lids that don't fully open wide coupled with an inability to smile

[TheSpaceGnome]

obessive is cute, toxic is bad, some of the things you put in obsessive belong in the toxic catagory though.

[FinalFantasyBro]

What things from obsessive should belong in the toxic category.

[TheSpaceGnome]

"This person might go through your stuff without your permission"

"they might keep you lock up in the house because in their eyes anyone can steal you from them, hell they might even play some horror creepy music"

Obsessing, being posessive, stalking, and demanding attention from me 24/7 is fucking adorable if i like her, but those 2 things I quoted from that section are toxic af.

[FinalFantasyBro]

I definitely see your point

[FinalFantasyBro]

I guess I probably the only one who finds stalkers more creepy than cute but I definitely must admit if she is interested so much that she wants to constantly buy me gifts that be really nice.

[RobT312]

Although both are bad, for me it’s toxic. Been there before and never again.
It was the only time I cheated in a relationship, I should have ended the relationship sooner

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

It's hard to say both the Obsessive and Toxic has bad habits

[FinalFantasyBro]

Definitely true that, with partners like these two who needs friends and family am I right.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

@FinalFantasyBro Yes I agree with you

[Fromdusktilldawn]

Maybe prefer the obsessive lover, she would always be there for me, loves me the way I am and would travel with me.

But I also mind some privacy and also wouldn't give up my friends for her

[MountAverage]

I don't understand your distinction. An obsessive partner is by default a toxic partner.

[Anonymous]

A cheater. A hoe. A gold digger. A liar. A liberal. All those are extremely terrifying to me.

[TheAfrikan]

I hate toxic humans.

[sirderpsalot123]

Toxic. Never again.