We've been together for six months, the first two were long-distance. A couple months ago, he got a full-time job, and we work opposite schedules (I work a normal 9-5 M-Fri, and he works weekends and mostly nights). He normally hangs out with me for a couple hours on one or two of his days off, but he refuses to even consider hanging out after work on the days that he gets off in the afternoon, even though we always hang out on my work nights. I've told him a million times about how frustrating it is that we see each other less now than we did when we were long-distance, we even fought about it on Thanksgiving and after that he made an effort to at least text me once a day for a couple weeks. He said he's trying to learn how to balance a relationship with work, but he also said it would only take a week or so and it's been months and he still hasn't figured it out.
On top of that, he won't ever sleep over at my apartment. We haven't slept in the same bed once in four months, and whenever I ask if he'd like to stay the night, he says no and gives me some excuse. I told him that that's important to me, too, and even asked if he wants me to stop asking him, and he didn't really answer me. We haven't had sex yet, because he's still a virgin, although he's told me a bunch of times that he wants me to be the first and that he's going to be ready by such-and-such a time. I've never pressured him about it, really, but whenever these deadlines he sets come, he completely ignores the fact that he ever said that.
I'm just really frustrated, and sad, and I love him so much, but it seems like it's not worth it anymore. He always tells me he'd be so unhappy if we ever broke up, but to be honest, I don't think he's happy now. Am I just being insecure? I don't really know what advice I'm asking for... I just want to save our relationship if I can, so tips for how to make opposite schedules work would be helpful. Or, it would be nice to know if anyone agrees with me that I'm not crazy for thinking I should end it. Thanks in advance for the help. :)
On top of that, he won't ever sleep over at my apartment. We haven't slept in the same bed once in four months, and whenever I ask if he'd like to stay the night, he says no and gives me some excuse. I told him that that's important to me, too, and even asked if he wants me to stop asking him, and he didn't really answer me. We haven't had sex yet, because he's still a virgin, although he's told me a bunch of times that he wants me to be the first and that he's going to be ready by such-and-such a time. I've never pressured him about it, really, but whenever these deadlines he sets come, he completely ignores the fact that he ever said that.
I'm just really frustrated, and sad, and I love him so much, but it seems like it's not worth it anymore. He always tells me he'd be so unhappy if we ever broke up, but to be honest, I don't think he's happy now. Am I just being insecure? I don't really know what advice I'm asking for... I just want to save our relationship if I can, so tips for how to make opposite schedules work would be helpful. Or, it would be nice to know if anyone agrees with me that I'm not crazy for thinking I should end it. Thanks in advance for the help. :)
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