Boyfriend and I don't connect like we used to, advice?

[may_gen09]

My boyfriend and I have been dating for over a year now and lately I've been feeling like we haven't really been connecting and we barely talk. It's been upsetting me for awhile now and, I really just don't know what to do. I still love him and I don't want to lose him, but I don't even know if he feels the same way about me as he did when we were first dating. I don't know what to do. Please respond saying what you would do or what you think I should do.

[guitarist]

I'm sorry - you sound really upset...

I've been in the same situation and eventually I simply sat her down and said that I really didn't want to lose her but that things hadn't been going well recently. You have to clear the air and find out what the score is, simply.

In my case, I was shocked to find that she'd been having an affair behind my back and that she didn't want me any more... but hey, at least I then had the opportunity of moving on with my life.

Now I live alone but I'm not living someone else's lie!

With a bit of luck, it will just be that you've both neglected your relationship a bit, so perhaps injecting a bit of romance will help a bit.

Good luck!

[may_gen09]

Thanks. I've been talking to him about it and we both feel like we aren't connecting anymore but yet we still love each other, and I couldn't imagin what it would be like to lose him.

A friend of mine that I'm talking to is telling me that if I'm not happy with him that we should just break up but I can't even think about that happening. I have been unhappy lately but I just can't stand the thought of losing him.

[guitarist]

well relationships do change over time - its only natural. maybe you could both put some time and effort into doing stuff together that will rekindle your spark. if you both love each other, it can always be sorted...

[Twincapersred]

I was in the same situation for the past year and a half but I ended it a few days ago we were both so unhappy for so long and we just didn't connect anymore. I know it hurts but if you can't fix it within a month and then keep it good for a month after then you really should end it. Please don't let yourself get into as horrific relationship cycle- fix/break/fix/break- every few days- I was in

Good luck and stay strong

[LiliLippps]

It sounds like the chemistry isn't in sync at all.

[buttercup5]

Talk to him.