Do you really want a partner that’s equal to you?

[Anonymous]

You share housework 50/50 etc…

My opinion is that women don’t respect an equal.

Yes I do

No I don’t

[Lliam]

Equal partners? You bet. After all, we both working for our mutual happiness and future together. Both of our incomes go to that for the same reason, regardless of how much we both earn.

Neither of us keeps a ledger of who does more or contributes more, but it comes out pretty even.

I'm not a little bitch who thinks that cooking and housework are "women's" jobs. We both cook and clean dishes, although she does more cooking for both of us.

There are certain house chores that I, of my own accord, chose to take on in order to give her more time for other things.

For example, I empty the dishwasher and put away pots, pans and utensils. I do all the laundry except for her clothes. She is particular how her clothes get washed and I don't want to damage them. I empty the various trash cans in the house and take out the trash. I drive over a mile round trip to the mailbox. I pay the bills and balance the checkbook. I feed that cats at dinner time. I do repairs around the house when necessary. I actually don't mind doing any of that stuff.

She dusts, vacuums, and cleans counters and floors. She feeds the cats in the morning and is in charge of their litter boxes. She does most of the shopping. She actually does at least as much as I do. She's always busy.

We both work in the garden, but she does much more in panting flowers and growing veggies.

Plus, we both have lives.

When it comes to decision making, we're equals. Neither of us is the boss. We respect each other.

So yeah, I believe in equality. We;re only unequal in size and strength.

[BoopBoopBeep]

I haven't found an equal. I'd absolutely respect her (even though that's not a requirement, her being an equal that is). Too much entitlement from women that barely pass as above average in attractiveness thinking that's all they have to bring to the table.

[Screenwriter]

No two people are "equal." What many women want is a partner who respects them and the time they spend working and doing housework. ANd since both of you mess up the house, both should engage in housework to keep it clean.

this might mean divving up the housework so one person does one thing because they prefer it and the other does another thing. But change it up, so no one is bored. One person might cook better, the other cleans better. Washing is done by a machine, so onlyt hing that's needed to be done is separating clothes by color.

Women respect men who respect them and ALL the work they do to manage a household. It works both ways.

There might be women who don't, but you can find that out when dating them and decide if that works for you or not.

[Anemone978]

See me and my husband were never equal he always wanted me to take care of the house, kids and him alone.. He never helped out with any of it. All he did was go to work but he works in an office and doesn't take anything home so is that equal or fair? Plus he has weekends off but I work all week. Even now I thought he would get a taste of what I do on the daily but he has my kids doing all the house work and barely makes them have baths.. so it is very annoying I wanted him to change but I don't think he will, he was raised as a spoiled brat who didn't have to do anything his mother had to do everything.. such annoying behavior. So because he did less than me and I had to ask him for money, I never once respected the guy because he never helped with his kids..

[Summeroflove]

A relationship needs to be equal in SOME way. Even in a real traditional marriage. Each person works EQUALLY as hard in different roles.

[devilish-cutie]

yes, i want equal but it depends on what it means to people to be "equal", men and women are not the same so there will be differences, women give birth so thats a lot to top for a man to be "equal" in terms what he brings. Women are also physically weaker so men would be able to do some things it would be very hard for a woman. Splitting housework is great, but it can be like i clean and he cooks or 1 day i cook, 1 day he... so equal effort from both partners is what its all about...

[Anonymous]

Earlier I thought that will be cool , I know cooking and cleaning way better but women hate equal. As a guy you are expected to earn way more and pay. Most women don't care if you can do housework, as they wanna do it themselves. Spending time on housework rather than earning more money is huge negative to women. As a guy you have to have better resources either in traditional or non traditional relationships. Why bother non traditional, at least in traditional your women will take care of you and love you more.

[TacosRAwesome]

Equal-ish. I'd prefer that the daily chores are split close to evenly (eg. If I arrive home early I cook and if he does he cooks) but then we each have our intense chores according to what works best, eg. One of us does the big grocery shop and the other does the big clean.

[Anonymous]

Why are there so many men on this website who believe blanket generalisations about women, unsupported by any kind of evidence, or just based on one anecdote from their own life.

It's very incel.

[Sunssong]

It's not Incel. They think that way because they are programmed to think that way. The subconscious will accept any idea you give it and if it is repeated it will become a belief. Beliefs are not based on logic although they can be sometimes logical.

[Opinion Owner]

@Sunssong They are not "programmed" to think that way, they're just taught that. You've even just said that yourself - people will accept any idea you give them. I think most of them get these ideas from Internet forums, and other guys they talk to, as well as, to some extent, people like Andrew Tate...

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

If I’m not respected as an equal, why would I want to stay with a man either too arrogant to love me, or too hateful of himself to assume I’m his only source of happiness?

[Babygirl_S]

If he earns more than me then he shouldn't do housework. If I am expected to bring equal amount of money then it's only fair to have the chores divided. I very much prefer the former. I even like the idea of being a housewife who does all the cleaning and cooking but modern men don't want that. You can't get married in India if you're not a working woman.

[MrNameless]

Yeah, but you expect him to pay for everything, right?

[Babygirl_S]

@MrNameless I want to earn less.

[Katie1964]

I don't think of Hubby and myself as equal.

I think of us as different. We bring our own talents, plus's and minus's to the relationship.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

I highly respect my woman in a relationship but no I don't do equal.

I'm the head of the relationship and she submits to me which means when I desire something done a certain way then I expect her to listen to me, but I will never hit or disrespect or abuse her in anyway because that's not who I am as a man.

[UniquelyBasic]

It doesn't have to be equal but I want both of us to contribute to the relationship in some way. I don't want it to be heavily one sided where me or my partner is putting in most of the work in the relationship.

[Smashingdoozy]

If we work the same hours absolutely. 50/50 on housework. If one of us works less than the other then we delegate the housework accordingly.

[inhua]

equality looks great on paper but it doesn't work in practice and people are out here to twisting the rules and definitions to suit their idea of equality

[Anonymous]

“My opinion is that women don’t respect an equal.”

Let me guess, you are a single virgin.

[Sunssong]

It's just mass conditioning. I suppose if a guy hasn't dated he could never come to realize the ignorance of his beliefs. But once again it's just mass conditioning. This guy is probably a troll anyway

[Billlewis]

I only date women whom I can serve in as many ways as possible, because I believe women are superior to men and should be treated accordingly.

[sunflower00]

I absolutely do want my partner and I to share the housework, etc. 50/50. I honestly lose respect for someone who expects me to do it all.

[Sparkie460]

Being married as long as I have, we are not equal, we are one.

[Sunssong]

That was powerful.

[Sparkie460]

Thank you

[EmmaMary]

A successful relationship can only be achieved through everything being on a 50/50 basis.

[Anonymous]

A woman should be taking care of most of the housework especially if he makes much more than she does. So no I don't think it should be equal if he makes more and is basically the breadwinner.

[EpicSnail]

So you want respect, but you're not willing to return it? Seems like a pretty poor relationship.

[Anonymous]

"women don't respect an equal" LOL. right. if couples did equal 50/50 housework, there would be mutual respect. thanks.