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Backstory:
Got cheated on after a 10 year relationship. I experienced knowing it as it happened live for 3 hours straight. It was 2 days ago. I broke it off but I am still in shock as she's my loyal, loving, only best friend, next day cold and... that.
Preference:
I despite alcohol and all kinds of smoking. I despise shallow culture at clubs and obnoxiously loud modern music. I enjoy the forest, classical rock n roll, opera and chess. Also kind of an adrenaline junkie. I do not like hookups. I am also a University commuter student. 25.
Ultimate goal/question:
I need a girl before Christmas Eve, I would like to spend it with a female companion. It's a romantic night for me for 10 years and I need to fill that hole in my heart. I have a lot of energy and love to give but nowhere to channel it. The girl will NOT be a filler or a fling, but someone I can "court" and "trial" to see where it goes for me and her. Any ideas as to places I can go to find one for me? I am currently trying the campus but I need more ideas based on my preferences!
Thank you.
What Girls & Guys Said
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Absolutely not. She will definitely be a filler and that’s your hole goal of this. You want to find someone fast to fill that ”hole in your heart” and make sure your Christmas eve will still be romantic now after the breakup, that’s even your own words. You were just cheated on 2 days ago you’re nowhere near ready to date again. You even say it yourself that you’re in shock and denial. You will not develop feelings for anyone and you won’t be able to actually give someone a fair chance at rhis stage in your life. You’ll just heart any woman you date. You need lots of time to heal and process things and you need to accept that this Christmas won’t be the same as it has been these past 10 years. You need to figure out something else to do. Spend it with family or friends, book a trip somewhere or whatever but dating no. Take a year to just heal before you even think of dating again. At the very least 6 months, that’s likely too early too though.
Thank you. But I don't understand still, how would I not be ready if I feel that it's what I need to heal and that I am still approaching this very selectively and want to see true compatibility rather than just go for anyone? for me right now, this feels like the right thing to do. I do not want just anyone.
But again, I definitely lack wisdom in this, you likely know more.
With all that baggage you have, it will be a challenge for you.
Not really, I am built different.
I would not want to be in a relationship with someone like that in under 60 days, that's very creepy.
I don't develop relationships on the spot, I'm friends first by default. It's all about trying to see where it goes naturally and It would be great to have companionship with someone I am attracted to, who is also in a similar boat to me on a beautiful day.
What's creepy?
Meh, wait til after Christmas. One less gift to buy.
We can never have too much money but money is nothing compared to what I need. It feels like the dentist removed a filling from my tooth, and told me to go home. I need it filled, it's exposed, it hurts.
Try Christian mingles If they’re still around,
Okay there's an idea! Thanks
You are very welcome