Never had a boyfriend. What do I do?

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I feel depressed because I'm 20 years old and haven't had a first kiss or any of those things that someone as young as 12 would experience. I would never go to clubs and bars and stuff, those places are very scary to me and not fun at all. Where can I find a boyfriend my age? (yes, I'm a college student but the guys at my college won't give me the time of day)

I never have trouble attracting older guys, but I'm not interested in older guys at all (what am I, pedo-bait?). It seems like a just don't appeal to guys my age. They never want to be more than just friends.

I think I'm ugly but for some reason girls/women say I'm so pretty and cute sometimes they even say I'm beautiful (oh, and guys olde enough to be my Dad also tell me how beautiful I am). However, I never get those kinds of compliments from guys. I don't even think guys my age look at me in that way.

I'm really frustrated. because all of my friends have had their first boyfriend in middle, school and here I am 20 years old and I've never had a bf, kissed, been on a date, or even held hands with a guy.

More info: I am shy, but I've seen girls way more shy than me with boyfriends. It's ridiculous!

So...what do you think I should do? Does anyone have any tips advice for me?

SchickChick1223 · Accepted Answer

You know what's crazy? I'm 20 and still haven't kissed a guy or had a boyfriend either! I just signed up on this website and your question was the first one I saw! Weird lol

But yea, I completely understand your situation. It's hard for people like us to talk to others about it, especially when we have friends who have been there and done things that surpass kissing. All they can really say is you need to get it over with or something like that.

However, for me, I'm perfectly fine with it. Well, 90%. I don't know if it's the same for you, but I have had opportunities to kiss guys, but something just stopped me. I think the main reason was the fact that I wasn't in a relationship with them and it just didn't feel right. In the end, all they wanted was sex, which I'm not giving to anyone other than my future husband.

I don't think you need to go looking for a guy just to be on the same page as society. If it's the fact that you just want to kiss someone, then sure, no real harm in that. But if you are looking for a real relationship, be careful not to fall for the guys that want to sweet talk you in the beginning. Some guys are masters at manipulating girls. In the end, you'd be hurt and regret him as your first kiss if all he wanted was sex. Clubs are definitely not the place to find a real relationship! Just saying.

If anything, the guy for you will find you. YOU'RE the diamond in the rough. If you want to make attempts to go places where you can find a potential guy, go somewhere that is comfortable to you. If you're not comfortable in that environment, you definitely won't be comfortable around the people in that environment. A good thing to do is to possibly bring you friends with you. You act yourself around your friends, and who knows, maybe a guy will see you for who you are. If you can't be comfortable around a guy, then it's not meant to be. Best advice I can give it to be yourself! Even if you are quirky by any means, guys who are interested will look at that and think it's cute.

There are times when I felt like a dork because I haven't had a boyfriend or my first kiss yet. But then I think, I'm twenty and I've been doing it for this long so what's another 5 years. I see myself laughing at myself sometimes. Then, my friends would talk about their boy issues and they come to me for advice! How ironic? I must say, though, a lot of guys say it's hard to find girls like us. It actually turns them on in some weird way or the other.

And you are beautiful no matter what anyone says. Who are they to judge whether someone is beautiful of not? Beauty is in the eye of the beholder...so those beholders are clearly blind. That's what wrong nowadays. People are so obsessed with personal appearance.

I know I typed you to death but I hope I helped in some kind of way!

AlwaysOnYourMind · Accepted Answer

Dont rush things! We have shows called 16 and pregnant, girls are loosing there virginity younger and younger and living with regret because of it  (not that they regret there children) but usually there first time. People think your a freak because its hasn't happened for you at a certain age. I however applaud you! I'm 18 and waiting untill marriage to have sex, However I have had a boyfriend... he couldn't kiss and it made my whole first kissing session just wrong, now whenever I do have a boy come court me I won't kiss them. So don't rush be picky. Older men find me attractive too but I thinks that's because they can appreciate a nice girl with a curvey body. All young guys can think about is sex. I've had this conversation with a lot of boys I know, I start by telling them how guys don't approach me and they told me its because as soon as a single guy walks into a room they asess the women present and that just by looking at me they can tell I'm out of there leauge not just by looks because I'm pretty some even say beautiful but not omg worthy but  by my body language too. Everyone of them said they know they don't stand a chance with me and that if they did they would have already made a move. So they settle for my friendship (second best) You will find someone don't worry about it. It hasn't happened for a reason. And please don't give yourself to the first boy to take you out or kiss you or tells you they love you. Men will say anything to be you first, or just to be with you. Make sure they deserve you when it happens and give it time. I don't find bars enjoyable unless its a big group on a special occasion, and I've never been to a club. Those aren't the types of places you want to meet guys anyways! It will happen for you though, relax and don't overthink it or else you will sike yourself out! I hope this helps!

AlwaysOnYourMind · Accepted Answer

Don't rush things! We have shows called 16 and pregnant, girls are loosing there virginity younger and younger and living with regret because of it (not that they regret there children) but usually there first time. People think your a freak because its hasn't happened for you at a certain age. I however applaud you! I'm 18 and waiting until marriage to have sex, However I have had a boyfriend... He couldn't kiss and it made my whole first kissing session just wrong, now whenever I do have a boy come court me I won't kiss them. So don't rush be picky. Older men find me attractive too but I thinks that's because they can appreciate a nice girl with a curvy body. All young guys can think about is sex. I've had this conversation with a lot of boys I know, I start by telling them how guys don't approach me and they told me its because as soon as a single guy walks into a room they asses the women present and that just by looking at me they can tell I'm out of there league not just by looks because I'm pretty some even say beautiful but not omg worthy but by my body language too. Everyone of them said they know they don't stand a chance with me and that if they did they would have already made a move. So they settle for my friendship (second best) You will find someone don't worry about it. It hasn't happened for a reason. And please don't give yourself to the first boy to take you out or kiss you or tells you they love you. Men will say anything to be you first, or just to be with you. Make sure they deserve you when it happens and give it time. I don't find bars enjoyable unless its a big group on a special occasion, and I've never been to a club. Those aren't the types of places you want to meet guys anyways! It will happen for you though, relax and don't over think it or else you will sike yourself out! I hope this helps!

browolf · Accepted Answer

If guys aren't showing interest at all, then you're probably not giving off the right subtle signals.  These things tend to be unconscious so you usually can't fake them but they stem from conscious belief/attitude/thought and if you can deal with those, it'll take care of the rest. The rules are different with older guys. what guys your age don't see, older guys see as an advantage. Like if you appear innocent, they think looks related compliments will work on you because usually those things don't work at all. Looks are generally irrelevant. You say clubs are scary, but is it not specific things in them that you're scared of. If you're scared of guys in general it will affect your behaviour. Fear is often derived from ignorance or lack of knowledge. If you can't get it first hand, you either get professional help,  watch people or read books. Conversations with guys are pretty much like conversations with other people. Maybe you start of not knowing anything, therefore you talk about something you have in common to start with. maybe that's a class, the location you're in,  the weather even, at that point its irrelevant what you're talking about  but people make connections by revealing things about themselves. That facilitates the next conversation when the have something personal to ask/talk about. attraction comes from subtle signs of sexuality and attitude. Attitude is standing up for what  you believe in and being vocal about it. It doesn't even matter if people disagree. "bad guys" have the attitude it's perfectly ok to behave as they do, and look how well that works!

nice_guy7 · Accepted Answer

do activities that are co-ed and meet guys that way. it is easier because you already have a similar interest. I understand not liking clubs, but there are social drinking establishments that aren't scary (not all places are the same. Alternatively you could go to coffee houses that are open late and have live music and serve drinks.

To be honest Ithink you need to open up a little and try some places out. I am not saying just to find a boyfriend, but to be less shy and to experience things. Try each different type of bar or hangout at least once each. It sounds to me like you don't know hwo to let loose a little and have some uninhibited fun. I guarantee there are guys who are attracted to you but don't know how to approach you because you seem closed and they are afraid it will be awkward. they are just as afraid as you, that is what people often don't realize. it sounds like you are a mature type who does not seem her age and because of that often attracts older men. young guys don't know how to approach you, you don't seem like the typical partying college girl. those girls are easier to deal with and although they might not be as good, guys go for what is easier.

i suggest being yourself but letting the fun side out a bit and geting out there and joining different groups and activities and even trying some late night places that aren't as scary at first to get used to doing that sort of thing. I guarantee you will have fun.

Chaaz · Answer

I'm a guy and I think I could be too hot and intimidating for girls; especially if you're the only good looking white guy in a school full of azns.

So you could really be intimidating to guys hence why they don't seem into you.

For your info. Pubs and bars and clubs are crap. You are seriously not missing much. Music is super loud you can't even talk to someone.

Just hang out with people and socialize a lot; like normal clubs or gatherings of people your own age and you're bound to meet someone. You may not hit it off with him/her but just keep at it.

That's how it is with everybody; keep socializing. Like I just met a nice girl who might like me; she's certainly showing some signals, and I might like her. But I don't really put too much emphasis on it because I know even if it does not work out, there will definitely be MORE of them around.

Find stuff in your life (ur 20?) other than sex/love/romance which you can be proud of.

Like I served in the army and saved my mate's life, I've worked many jobs, I'm a good student, I have adoring parents and I've done a lot of crazy adventureous sh*t in my life without romance. BUT I have kissed and made love to girls before, whilst that is good, that is not all there is you know what I mean?

Be content with other things in life. DOn't act as if you won't find love or get laid EVER

Evilfox · Answer

Ok. You're probably not going to like what I have to say but trust me, it's all very much true.

First off labeling your self "shy" is retarded. Is a horrible generalization for the things that are your actual problem. You are just combining multiple "problems" into a generalization. You are socially inept around the opposite sex. Labeling yourself shy doesn't make your stuttering and just in generally being a bumbling idiot around men ok.

Being shy is just a state of mind. Men probably won't give you the time of day because you give off the "I come with tons of emotional baggage" vibe. Fix it. You need to make the first move if guys won't. Bars/Clubs etc are terrible places to meet women/men anyways. Their guard will be up due to those places being the typical places to hook up. Instead try to meet guys while you are grocery shopping. Instead of staring at the frozen foods while that cute guy is passing how about you actually make eye contact and smile.

That's just an example but you can see where I am going with this. If it's not a problem with your social ability then it's more then likely one of the following.

1) You're ugly. (Sorry for being so harsh =( )

2) You have bad hygiene. (Read: You smell bad)

3) Horrible self-esteem. I alluded to this in the above paragraphs. Men have an ability to detect this and will use it to their advantage to get in your pants or steer clear of you.

jbone79 · Answer

I have some advice...try joining some of the activities clubs offered by your college. Try volunteering and try other group activites for single people in you community. Drinking, dancing, clubs, and bars are all stupid and a waste of time. I'm with you on that one. I was a late bloomer myself, but I'm proud to say I found someone cool and I did it on my own terms. I'm in college too and sadly enough I'm 29 (G.I. Bill now pays the way!). I get hit on by girls like you all the time. I'm so responsible and I'm friendly and blah blah blah. So yeah. I just smile and thank them for the compliments and just keep it professional. I get the whole pedo vibe thing too. I have nothing in common with 18, 19, and 20 year old chicks. If you can't remeber The Dukes of Hazzard tv show, we were not meant to be. I'm not tralking about re-runs...I mean when it was prime time.

Sorry to get all gary busey crazy on you for a second. But seriously. There are other options. You don't have to feel like Susan Boyle. Take it slow and the right one will find you. You just have to know where to look and know how to advertise in a positive fashion. Good luck. I hope this helps.

ivan5252 · Answer

it's not entirely about looks.. it's about how you carry yourself.. how approachable you present yourself.. I don't think I'm "bad" looking but still, I used to be horribly shy, insecure, and closed to the world.. altho at the same time I was pretty creative and once I got comfortable I was funny.. so my point is, I wasn't very approachable.. and I was not very confident at all.. it wasn't til I was almost 21 that I got my first kiss.. so one of the things that I would suggest that you do is work on yourself first.. you can't love anyone else before if you don't even love yourself.. no matter what you look like, carry yourself as if you were just a bit more beautiful, but at the same time, be modest about it.. be friendly.. smile.. a smile goes long ways.. don't dwell on the past; your concern is the future.. and don't compare yourself to others; everyone has different paths through life... I too contemplated and noticed everyone having relationships, but hey, in that time I was doing really good w my studies, and worked up more ambition.. that I can honestly say not many of my friends with those "experienced" pasts have..

on the contrary, I know other people similar to you and I that have built up much more momentum and will to not only achieve our goals, but we aim even higher.. and even when we do reach our goals, we keep going..

it all starts with a positive outlook on life.. I know it may be difficult at first, but keep working on it.. just remember to be confident in yourself; that's the first step in attracting someone..

Anonymous · Answer

I'll tell you what not to do, don't panic.

If you aren't out there where guys around your age are you can't be found, if there are more public or sociable hobbies or activities that you are interested in, find a group or something out there to join in your area. Going to public places just you and your girlfriends, like movies, or coffee shops, or if you're into comics or more geeky things (I am, so it's not an insult or anything) or gaming events if you enjoy video games, even just going to a place that sells video games even if you just look at them, can't hurt and if you're alone guys are more prone to approach you especially if you seem to be interested in something that they are interested in. In other words put yourself out there, if you are terribly shy and don't think you could handle being approached alone or anything like that ask friends if they known anyone they could match you up with just for dates or whatever, or even just having them give you their emails or something (of course having them know beforehand) sometimes talking to people over the internet helps break the ice and make things in person less difficult and awkward.

There are also other options, there are dating sites and programs you can join or heck I've know a number of people that got into relationships over the internet and ended up finding their soul mates I think it goes without saying to be extremely cautions and careful with those types of methods though. One of my ex-friends has actually been with her current boyfriend about two years now and she met him by playing a video game online and they live together ect.

If you'd like tips or other suggestions I'm sure I might be able to help with that too, anyways best of luck to you and I sincerely hope this answer helps =)

P.S. Please keep us posted.

Whoknows87 · Answer

that's it. Your shy. I have the same problem that your having. Try to be more open with people and be proud of who you are. Self confidence is the key. You don't appeal to guys your age because you are more mature than they are...therefore they are intimidated.

Don't worry...you're not pedo bait. I have girls as friends, but I periodically get stuck in the friend zone quite often. It's probably cause I'm too honest and pleasant to people. However, I seem to hit it off well with girls 2 or 3 years older than me because my maturity level mimics theirs.

If you're in college, there has to be a guy for you there somewhere. Don't try too hard, though and stress yourself out.

I would:

-dress nice (clean)

-smile

-show a sense of humor/personality

- have confidence

-make eye contact

***Body Language

This worked for me...I was once very shy, but once I figured it out the anxiety goes away.

Anxiety is all in your head...you have to learn how to manage it and to supress it. I recommend the above because it helped me out alot.

I don't have a girl at the moment, but things fall back into place eventually. You gotta put yourself out there, if you attract attention things will happen. But remember don't try to force things to happen. Just have faith in yourself.

darkbluesky · Answer

Look I am a 20 year old guy and I have not been on many dates. Now I know its not because I am ugly, many girls I talk to tell me they are interested in me. I have never kissed a girl or anything like that, so I am just like you. I have had many chances to kiss Ect... but I chose not to, I am not a very religious person or anything like that. The thing that at around 20 most people don't know the difference between emotional love and intellectual love. Most guys ad girls around this age group just go with emotion and don't even care if the person they are with has a crappy personality thus they get hurt. You see most of the girls that I have talked to all love to go party and drink and they also have crappy personalties even though they are "hot". You seem to have a very good personality and you should stick with it, don't focus so much on how old you are or anything like that. Just talk to guys and find out what they are like and don't rush into a relationship just because you are lonely. Wait for that guy who you can have fun with and be yourself around. You sound like a good person and I wish their were more girls like you around. Also work on you self esteem Just say to yourself "I know that I am Awesome". odd personalities are some times the best some of the best conversations I had started with "what if a penguin somehow got into a fight with a monkey".

P.S I know that I was rambling, but I hope that I helped...if only a little.

kiffyaiai08 · Answer

Wow, I just turned 20 yesterday and I just thought "here I am another year single, with no experience." I have come to terms with it, but at times I see couples, romantic movies, etc. That just trigger that "why am I still single?" thought. It's good to know that I'm not the only one because it feels like everyone has/had someone.

people suggest going out but it's hard considering my good friends can sometimes be flaky& we do all have our own lives. There have been numerous times where I've suggested to go to concerts, hang out, movies, anything but 1 doesn't have a driver's license and 3 of them live across town (30min drive). I'm going to a community college and it's a bit difficult to make trustworthy, reliable friends there. It's easier@ universities because you can get involved in the community (w/sports, sororities, large clubs, etc) which is a good suggestion for you if it's available. Sorry, I'm just babbling now.

I feel your pain as well. I feel like maybe my standards are too high considering it's very rare that I come across someone that I'm actually attracted to but I can't help it. I'm also 5'7 and many guys are about 5'6. I'm a friendly person but I'm serious about my studies, but not too serious. I just actually put some time into studying. I do have guys approach from time to time but they really just aren't my type.

one thing I do have to say though is when you find someone you're attracted to, just go for it. Life's too short to wait around. Even just some polite conversation. Little by little, it'll break your shell. I know it's helped me. I'm really quiet so I've just tried to make polite conversation @appropriate opportunities. But I'm sorry I can't offer more solid advice. I'm on the same boat! I wish I knew the secret too.

ldr_fashionista · Answer

Confidence, love, its all about confidence. Who cares if you're ugly (which I highly doubt you are)? There are plenty of ugly girls in relationships out there. If you keep telling yourself you're ugly and no one likes you, guess what? Guys will see it too. You know the saying "you need to love yourself, before you can love another"? I know it sounds really cheesy but its generally true. If you start appreciating yourself instead of constantly criticizing yourself, then you'll exude confidence. Guys really find that attractive.

I used to be in your situation. I never met any guys, no one ever asked me out (except for creeps), and I had never kissed a guy either. People told me I was really pretty but I never believed it. Then I moved away for college and decided I could make a fresh start. No one knew me here so I could be absolutely anyone I wanted. Confidence kicked in, and I started getting a lot of attention from guys.

Im sure moving away is not the answer. You just need to find some confidence and instead of being all depressed and sulky, enjoy life. You'll be surprised how much attention you can get.

Anyways, I hope I helped. I'm sure you'll be ok. Just remember there is nothing wrong with you. All you need is a little confidence and an extra push. :)

Fingle · Answer

It's actually quite amusing that several replies from the guys (this one included), have attempted to make a move. Yet you don't seem to notice the fabled "signals", or are passively rejecting them.

I, at 24, have been single (with the exception of an odd week long date that never developed into anything) all of my life. To some extent it's because I've come to enjoy the solitude. But every once in awhile I have one of those nights where all my insecurities come together and hit me like a truck.(Video games in combination with the History channel make a great substitute for drowning your sorrows!)

As far as what you can do? Well, the way I see it, there's only one option. You and I go out on a date, have an incredibly awkward conversation. I walk you home holding hands, and we end the day with an incredibly awkward hug. Then, the following day we decide where to meet next. Sounds good to me. :)

And while I know full well you'll reject that offer, that's exactly the point. Rejection isn't that bad. If you suffer from Social Anxiety Disorder (which I do), in your mind you constantly go over all the terrible things that might happen in any given situation. Rejection tends to be the most terrifying, and at first when it happens, it does suck. But it isn't nearly as bad as your inner voice is telling you.

When it comes to asking someone out, the best advice I can give is this: Don't think, just do it. The more you think about it, the more you're going to talk yourself out of it. Especially if you're an introvert.

Should your crush turn you down, at the very least, they'll be flattered that you asked. Or. . . He'll be a complete dick about it, but then you'll know he wasn't worth pursuing!

curious81 · Answer

Listen people don't randomly tell you that you are pretty to be nice. If people are compelled to give you a unprovoked compliment, its genuine. It took me a while to figure that out myself. Eventually I just figured if lots of different people told me I was pretty it must be true... You're 20 so I know you have heard it before. Its all about confidence. Seriously. I happen to be a pretty reserved person myself. I don't like feeling venerable. For the longest time guys didn't seem interested in me, until I forced myself to be more out going and start taking more chances. I Haven't always viewed myself as anything special, but I can honestly say that putting on a brave face has landed me some abercrombie hotties! :)

It isn't going to matter if you meet them at the bar, in class, or at a bus stop. Unless you put yourself out there it isn't ever going to happen. The more risks you take the more pleasantly surprised you will be. I guarantee it. Also If you keep getting stuck in the friend zone it could be because you haven't hinted towards anything more.

darkscorpio · Answer

What we are thinking is usually how we are expressing ourselves. If you are nervous, awkward and feel ugly you will act that way, no one will notice you and guys will avoid you even if they do notice you because you seem shut off so they assume you would shoot them down if they approached you. Now if a girl walks in to a room, full of confidence, smiles, laughs and talks to everyone guys take notice. She seems friendly so they will talk to her without fear of being told to get lost.

Just learn to be more relaxed, I'm not one for clubs or bars either really. But I meet a lot of people in other places, I'm easy to talk to and people like that and open up to me. If I was closed off, and didn't say much no one would respond to me.

Just stop thinking so much and go with it ;)

DrJones · Answer

Some quick suggestions:

Don't freak out too much. Just because you're 20 and haven't had a boyfriend doesn't mean that there's anything wrong with you! I know it's frustrating, but try to be cool about it.

Despite what club-going people tell you, clubs and bars are not actually great places to meet people. I go to lots of clubs and bars. I never met any of my serious girlfriends there.

Find some activities that would give you chances to meet more people who are roughly your age - jobs, sports, hobbies, artsy things, nerdy stuff, whatever. You might have to meet lots of people before you find the ones that really click.

Being this frustrated might make you lower your standards and date guys who treat you badly, or it might make you seem desperate and clingy. Try not to do either of these things too much.

Good hunting!

nesterhaus · Answer

Ok first of all look at how your are dressing-is it your age or older?

Sometimes girls who are not typical barbie pretty hold more brains in their head and are a threat to some guys. Sorry not everyone is going to dig your chili but you can choose to look as you look and spend time doing what you enjoy the most and find guys doing the same thing and then try doing it together and see if you enjoy it- Hang out around stuff you like and you will find like minded people.

As for not having kissed etc-that's cool just go with it and be patient with yourself. But taking action is what will provide you with the results you seek.

Do you complain much-

What do you enjoy doing?

have fun!

ChelseaFC2009 · Answer

A reason could be because as you say you are beautiful and many guys are scared of approaching beautiful girls like you. I think what you should do is if you find a guy that you like in class or during an event on campus is you should give him nonverbal signals that you like him such as smiling and staring at him or give him a wink. You are lucky that most of the pressure is on guys to approach a girl. So you can probably attract somebody that you like nonverbally without ever expressing a word such as again smiling at him. These are signs that help a guy know that you are interested in him. If the guy comes and talks to you, just start with an icebreaker such as joke or something about the class or the place and just have a normal conversation with the guy. Guys like it when girls are nervous around them so if you are nervous, it is perfectly alright and normal. Best of luck and I hope that you find a good boyfriend that has the same morals and values that you possess.

ashwhole2816 · Answer

this sounds like I wrote it! I'm not even kidding. except 2 1/2 years ago.

don't worry, hang in there! work on doing things for yourself and do things you love and love will come to you!

or at least a hott guy. haha.

don't worry, it's not you. guys probably see some sort of wall or blockage up and are intimidated by you. I've had people tell me my whole life I'm beautiful. but I've never had a boyfriend so I don't believe it.

but if you believe that you deserve the best and you're holding out for it, you'll have more confidence and I'm sure you'll find something wonderful.

like I said, do things you love. I don't like bars or clubs either. and I certainly wouldn't want to meet a guy there cause I don't like to go out. lol.

gotc147 · Answer

While it is shallow, guys our age put looks before anything else. From what I'm hearing (or, reading) though looks aren't your problem.

Are you heavily religious? Have big tough older brothers? A big tough father? A close relitive who is in law enforcement or military?

Those things could be an issue, most college guys aren't much for religion and are scared off by the other three.

Personally, I wouldn't be bothered by the latter three, but the first one I'd be hesitant about, just saying.

Being very tall might be an issue too, guys don't like to look small next to a girl. Perhaps you have masculine tendencies (such as being "one of the guys") which might turn some guys off.

But, don't loose hope just yet, I can't pinpoint what it is that's keeping the guys away from you without getting to know you but I can bet that there is a guy right now who is trying to gather up the guts to ask you out right now.

anniekaitlyn · Answer

Honestly, I would make friends with lots of guys, and learn about them that way first. The best way to get into a guy's head is to "be one". You will learn a lot that way, so when you have an opportunity to date or start a relationship you will have some experience.

However, in order to find those opportunities you need to seem available, and confident. I would take advantage of any advances that come your way. Maybe say "yes" to dinner with someone who IS slightly older, just for the experience. Don't commit to anything until you feel ready and satisfied with that person though.

I have the best luck with finding boyfriend-potentials at bars and in my classes. Keep your eyes open, and when you spot "him"...give him the eye.

lovely-chicxx · Answer

you sound like me! except I'm only 18. :]

honestly, I think it's how you play yourself off. it's all about confidence. and I'm pretty sure guys look for that in a girl. they don't want to have to tell you everyday "honey, don't think that way. you are beautiful.. blah blah blah" and then have you say "no, you don't mean that, etc...". it kinda seems you're lacking the confidence, saying you think of yourself as ugly. you need to feel beautiful and feel like every guy would want to know you. sounds stupid, I know. just try telling yourself in a mirror everyday that you are beautiful and you are confident. now, don't go all mad on me and say that you can't do that, it's too hard... blah blah blah. you really need to boost your confidence levels. tell me how it goes!

xox, lovely-chicxx

TheGodEmperorLeto · Answer

You're probably fine physically, just get out to clubs in schools. I mean things that interest you. Do you like debating? There's a club for it. Do you like gaming? There's a club for it. Do you like anime? There's a club for it. Do you like sailing? There's a club for it (guess the clubs I like and attend on some basis in my life :P hah). You'll find someone there and they might at least become good friends.

Don't feel bad you've never had a boyfriend. There's nothing wrong with it. You'll find the guy who's really into you and wants to be you no matter what and it'll be great. Whether it lasts or not, the majority of the time with him will be great. Stop comparing yourself to others, realize how awesome you are for your own merits and be happy with it.

Never had a boyfriend. What do I do?

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