I'm 17, I've never had a boyfriend. I feel like such a loser, please help!

[Anonymous]

I'm 17, I've never had a boyfriend & actually I haven't even ever made out with a boy before. I've been given plenty of opportunities do so (or even more) but when it comes down to it, I say no because they're not what I'm looking for. I don't get it, I feel like such a late bloomer or something. I don't think I'm fat or ugly, but I guess I just have to high of standards and don't feel as though I should lower them. but I'm afraid if things don't start to fall into place, that when I start college next fall, people are going to make fun of me and think I'm some kind of freak :/ what should I do? I just feel like such a loser and like I need to do something about this. please help.

[Anonymous]

i'm almost 17 and I also have never had a boyfriend or made out,so I understand your worry. I ask this myself too sometimes but I have this 'friend' that is kind of a 'slut', she dates boys but she has absolutly no respect for herself and always does exactly what her new best friend does. she reminds me that I don't want to get a boy by being like her. if you have no respect for yourself, like her, others will give you not much respect too. I rather wait a little longer and then find a guy that likes me for who I am. When you meet a boy, do what you feel is right. it feels like I really believe all of the stuff I wrote above, and I do but sometimes I feel insecure and I start wondering if there's something wrong with me. but you really don't wanna have a boyfriend just to have a boyfriend, that always ends badly

sorry for mistakes I'm dutch, and I hope this helps :)

[Asker]

I agree with exactly everything you wrote, I just always doubt myself. it sucks feeling insecure about something like that, & just because I don't feel normal, but thank you so much. you're right.

[zombieh]

it's alright for people to be late bloomers- if you're afraid to be made fun of you can:

avoid the topic

brag about how many opportunities you had/ how many guys have fallen for you and say you have high standarts (its a good thing!)

or just don't worry about it- if people see that you are not self-conscious about it they won't make fun of you (psychology! rules)

[Anonymous]

Get over it happens to most of us...those guys are just p****** they don't have enough balls to approch you.College guys are more with it just dont' be easy

[Asker]

definitely wasn't planning on being easy, but thanks.

[DocClassic]

who are the p****** we are talking about?

[soccerguy90]

Hey you are fine. Don't you worry about it, I'm 21 and hv never been in a relationship or kissed either. Timings is everything and you will find the right guy so don't worry about it. Don't lower your standards because you will regret that later. And I'm sure you are pretty, and if you think I'm some ugly guy saying this, then take a look at my profile, I'm not the best looking guy but I also could hv had plenty of chances with girls but they never met my high standards. I do regret it occasionally like you are now, but it is better than regretting something you did later on :)

[G-Daz]

You don't need a guy to be happy, I don't think you should focu yourself on finding a guy, I guess you have high standards, that isn't really a bad thing but you're not likely to find the guy you'd be interested in being a relationship with if you just say 'yes' to every opportunity you get. Previous experience isn't needed to go out on a date with someone, just take your time I guess is the best advice

[kcstarman44]

Waiting for the right guy to have your first kiss with is better than making out with someone at a party randomly. Just don't worry too much about it. Be more social with guys you like, but don't come across too much. Start by making casual conversation with them, and if you like them after talking to them give him your number. If he doesn't text/call you at first try initiating a conversation by saying something like "Hey what's up? If you're free I was wondering if you'd want to go do..."

[Anonymous]

im in the exact same boat as you in fact I've never kissed a girl

[DocClassic]

...what are you looking for?

[moviedude714]

try being over 20