Please help. I'm 20 years old. never had a boyfriend?!

[Anonymous]

I'm 20 years old, I'm a junior in college, and I've never had a boyfriend..ever. is there something wrong with me? I'm kind of shy when you first get to know me, I'm not ugly (at least I don't think so), I have brown hair, brown eyes, freckles, good teeth, I'm 5'7" and I weigh 140 so I'm not overweight..at least I don't think so. I have a good personality (funny, smart, caring, generous), and as far as the physical features go, I have "smaller" tatas and a "decent"-sized derierre. I am involved in dance and orchestra, and I go to school full time to be a journalist. am I unapproachable? I seriously go to the library to "study" and not one guy says anything to me. no one talks to me in some of my classes, even though I am vocal and state my opinion. I'm not involved in any campus activities because I don't have the time and I can't do sports because of my knees (long story).i just want to know what is wrong with me. I have had experience with guys but could never call them my "boyfriend." I'm kind of a flirt, I like attention. I like to party and hang out with friends. so I have no idea why guys don't like me. and if they do, how come they don't tell me?! ugh its so frustrating. please help

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jasper-ok. I get it. but I'm really picky. lol. help me with that. haha. I will only go out w/one type of guy.

[Jasper5566]

you sounded like my girl friend... she is almost like you.. as if I am talking to her..

well, just like her, she just waited till she found me..=)

maybe there are reasons or most probably is that you are just blind..

look around, there might be guys around you that you never noticed..

but the best thing to do is that, you have to wait and socialize appropriately..

i don't mean flirting.. just look around and have friends that somehow someone

will notice you and will love you eternally and not just being laid in one night,

sorry..hope you understand what I mean..

[scottsadork]

"I am involved in dance and orchestra, and I go to school full time to be a journalist"

could be that you are too "high brow" for most of the straight guys around you, and too much of a woman for the rest.

also, it could be that you flirt too much. if you come across a guy you might actually be interested in, flirt with him, then turn around and flirt with some other guy, you're sending mixed signals out everywhere. try to tone it down a bit.

[n3wgrass]

I would suggest joining extracurricular activities. It wasn't until I did so that I became more connected with the student body. Depending on the library you go to, I don't see many people talking let alone hitting on one another. In my extracurriculars, I met a lot of cute girls and received confessions. It's also a good place to start because the people are in there already have common interests. It would help initiate conversations.

[WhatIsThisIDont]

Hm. I don't know. Sometimes its better to examine yourself from the outside POV to better understand how others perceive ourselves. I'm 24 and I've never had a date myself. Never even been kissed. Of course, my problem is sheer mentality and introverted instability. Doesn't sound like youve put up mental walls though.

[Jermaine1502]

you just need so tips on how to be noticed I think because you sound ok to me

[Asker]

Ok, so tips?

[Jermaine1502]

I can't tell you here but you can message me if you must

[Anonymous]

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me too.