I’m 17 and feeling insecure that I’ve never had a boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

So I’m a senior in high school now, going to be 18 next year and still never had a boyfriend. I attended an all girls school in freshman year then transferred to public. It never really bothered me until quarantine started when I realized I still haven’t dated anyone. I know this shouldn’t be a big concern and people will say focus on my grades (they’re fine lol and I’ve already gotten into a few colleges fortunately), but I would like to experience dating at least one guy before high school is over. I’ve been asked out few times throughout high school, and have been hit on a lot but I always said no bc I wasn’t interested/ready. Now, I DO want a boyfriend but since school is out, it’s so hard and we’re likely not going back to school. Just feeling insecure because it feels like at least casual dating should have happened by now.

[btbc92]

Sweetheart, I am almost 30 and never either. There is no rush into anything and there is a time for everything. School is more important right now because you have to build a future for yourself. And most importantly, you need to grow, mature, be ready for that, and be mindful of what you have to deal with, expect, etc. While not every person is the same. But if you rush without knowing yourself, you may lose yourself in other people. Many have regrets that they didn't wait. Build friendships with guys first.

[Asker]

Thank you, this was really sweet. Maybe it’s just being trapped at home a lot bc of COVID that’s made me feel like this, and I feel like I’m not normal for not having dated yet. But I understand what you’re saying and it helps me feel a little bit better ☺️

[btbc92]

No. It's because of peer pressure and the expectations of the world. Covid isn't the problem. I felt similar and many before your time felt the same. Everybody mostly has felt that pressure. Most caved others like myself didn't. It's psychological warfare. And you have to stay strong. Mst guys today are not looking for relationships but sex period in the form of a 'relationship'. That is what you have to look out for. It is not like over 50 years ago where men wanted to get married by 23 and women by 18-21. Nowadays sex is basically free with no commitment and you have to be a whole person before you try to share a life with another. Please don't rush. If it's meant for you to be in one, it will happen when God feels and see you're ready, and it has to be with somebody who is going to appreciate you. Many have to grow and mature themselves.

[NamerOfStars]

Well, have you considered meeting with someone outside of school? There isn't really anything you can do to get it back in session, so it's either wait it out or take a less orthodox path. Obviously, that's contingent on your level of risk acceptance, but that's always been true of dating; there's just more at risk these days.

But in a broader sense, you don't have to. Despite what everyone and their mother tells you, life is long, and there really isn't One Right Way to do it. It's definitely something you should pursue if you want it, but don't sweat it if you miss the timing on a milestone; you'll get there eventually.

[Shiver]

Don't try to just get a boyfriend for the sake of having one, there's no rush, you got plenty of time. If you're really sure about someone being the right person for you right now go ahead, but don't just charge straight into stuff you're not 100% sure about.

[iseekpinetrees]

Try dating apps or places where other kids ur age are and ask guys out on dates

[ItsTheNephilim]

You live your life at your ease. Let others do their stuff and don't try to take too much influence. You're you and your life is yours. Doesn't have to be like others so don't bother. You do you.

[Fromdusktilldawn]

And then there is me, 24, and I wish to experience love once. You're young, wait till university, highschool loves never last long and guys are terribly immature at that age. I am even now still immature haha

[zagor]

It isn't that unusual, and probably even more the case at an all-girls school. When you go to college you will have the chance to check things out. Dating in times of covid is kind of dicey anyway.

[FishyNinja]

I am 19 and i never had a girlfriend.
Search for a boyfriend only when you are ready, not because you are feeling insecure or because everybody else are in a relationship

[OddBeMe]

You’ll prob have to wait out the pandemic. But I didn’t blossom until college. Nor lose my virginity until 20. It’s fine. And you can still go to restaurants and stuff. It’s just big crowds you should avoid.

[DavidFox]

I was also 17 and a virgin never been kissed. Now I’ve certainly had lots of experience and learned a lot about myself

[chHaynes]

I wouldn't worry about it dating in high school never works out too well I would wait until after high school do you find somebody you like you got to know somebody in your neighborhood that you like

[Wise4myage]

You have lots of time yet, so try not to stress over this, and maybe consider an online boyfriend for the time being. I know that sounds lame, but it makes sense with Covid.

[Doflamingo1]

That isn’t bad, I met a 70 year old virgin on the bus a few years ago.

[chriscdi]

i had my first girlfriend at 19, dont worry about it

[Wewladdy]

It's good that you haven't been damaged by a previous relationship honestly.

[Solstice777]

Well since the world is never going back to normal you are never gonna get a boyfriend either.

[Anonymous]

I'll say just go out on a date, and you'll see that it doesn't matter
I am 20 and single never went out.
See career is important, then dating.
Study hard and become something great

[Cowboy6666]

if you were 18 i would ask you to be my girlfriend

[Doflamingo1]

Alright you’re just thirsty

[Iron_Man]

You’re young yet

[feraye]

it's normal.

[jjj101010]

There’s no rush