My boyfriend usually texts me first while his on his lunch break and we live together,he hasn't texted me for three days.i know we live together and he sees me when he gets home but it's making me wonder if he is getting bored of me,I know it works two ways but I usually wait for him to text me first,so I know not to bother him if he's busy.Its just nice to also have a text from him as well.The other day he said sorry I didn't reply to your text I was so busy at work.I said that's cool,I understand I don't like expect you too lol.But ever since then he doesn't message me yet he's been commenting on people's statuses on Facebook.Should I care or am I being silly?He also comes home later from work sometimes too and seems to show less interest in me. If you live with your partner do you text every day?
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Enlightenment! It seems like you being really unwell and stressed out is the key factor here.
When a guy is really down, we want to talk as little as possible and spend time alone until we're finally ready to discuss (read: conclude) the problem. Guys instinctually give that kind of space to people they care about who are down. It's a bad behavior with girls, but it is what happens.
Sorry you've been so down.. it makes me sad to hear. Now- this is important- It makes your guy even sadder.. don't feel bad about this or beat yourself up or feel a need to hide any more feelings.. just know that when you're feeling blue, he will too. Same way you worry and feel sad when he's in trouble, it's just part of caring.
You can be emotional and human without being needy also. When you discuss something with your guy, the 'needy' part usually comes in when they feel like nothing they can say or do will make a difference in how you feel. All you need to do to avoid this is make it clear that you just want to talk about the feelings, not solve "problems", and thank him/otherwise make him feel appreciated. He seems like a good guy so I think this kind of healthy relationship is possible for you two.
About texting and work- He probably doesn't like texting at work. Since he seems like a good guy, I'll assume he's also a good worker, and I know that at my workplace we *really* don't like people who stop what they're working on to use the phone. So when you receive a text from him at work, it's probably while he's walking to the bathroom or taking his lunch or etc. Should make it even more special! :)
Good luck, hope this helped.1