Would you date someone that is unemployed?

Question

33% of women say they wouldn't date an unemployed man, no exceptions.46% of men say they would date an unemployed woman.

Standingpretty · Accepted Answer

I would date an unemployed man depending on who he is as a person. In todays world, many people are being laid off so it's understandable that many people would be out of a job for a while. The only time I wouldn't date someone who is unemployed is if they wanted to live off my salary or anothers and not contribute in some way back. My husband was unemployed a few times during our relationship but always tried to contribute and get back on the horse. Both of us have yet to complete our degrees so it's hard to balance work and school and so there's that to factor in as well considering how many people also had to go back to school and it might cut into their work depending on how much classes they take each semester.

Hidden_P · Accepted Answer

I think it depends why they're unemployed.

If they are unemployed by choice, e.g. living off benefits than absolutely no.

If they are unemployed because they cannot find a job, which at the moment is very likely, then I would give him a chance. It's not his fault the job market is brutal.

If they are unemployed because they've just lost their job, been made redundant, along those lines, ABSOLUTELY I would date him! Again it's not his fault and he's already proven he's willing to work, it wasn't his choice to be unemployed. :)

may04 · Accepted Answer

It would depend. I understand the economy sucks and a lot of people are hurting for jobs, there's also those who go to school full-time, and people who just graduated and are looking for a job. As long as they're actively trying to find work, even if it is not in their desired career field it wouldn't bother me to try dating them. If they start trying to mooch off my money, or are just lazy/picky then yeah it's a no-go

KERMlT · Accepted Answer

I'd say that unemployment isn't really a factor in dating. It has more impact when you are with that person and depend on another source of income to uphold your level of living though.

I dated one unemployed woman for a week. She would sleep while I was at work then immediately want to go out and party every night. I'd be up till 2 or 3 and call it a night. By Thursday I was dead tired and wanted a night off. She got pissed, went out anyway. By Sunday we broke up. Worst thing I did was tell her where my favorite place to hang out was. She started going there regularly and ruined it for me.

honeyltsme · Accepted Answer

Among the upper middle class and the "aspiration upper middle class" circles, there are entire swaths of "deliberately underemployed" women (and some men) working part-time in some BS jobs which have no pressure to make any quantifiable difference. It is often clear their shopping and rent spending clearly outstrips whatever money they earn. I run like hell from these women as they depend on a constant influx of money which is a way of life for them not a temporary situation of someone living within their means and losing a job. The latter case is far more understandable for either gender.

lisac · Answer

I think that's a bit shallow...to judge someone based on their employment at one point of their life.  I would date someone who is financially responsible regardless of his employment status.  Someone can have a job and make a lot of money, and still dwindle all.  So, why would it matter if a person has a job or not.  How would that really affect you?

gatennis09 · Answer

Yes, I would date a guy that is unemployed and I have before.  Especially if the guy is in school and still young.  Now.. if you are like 25 and don't have a job that could be a problem.  I mean.. where would you live?  And if the guy doesn't have money to go out that really limits the fun stuff to do out there.  And the other person in the relationship would have to pay for all the gas.  That's no fun.

PntBlnk · Answer

It's an instinct. The male's role is to provide and protect. How can a man do that now a days without money?

Plus, if you're unemployed, the last thing you should be thinking about is dating and if girls will like you or not... find yourself a job instead! (when I say 'you' I don't mean it personally)

gemglam · Answer

No I would not. Since a man values his worth partially on what he whether or not he is where he wants to be and how much he wants to make. A man who is not where he wants to be or close to it will not make plans for me in his life. My observation from having four brothers and hanging around their friends

davepetef · Answer

I think it's more about the reason why they are unemployed. The fact of being unemployed may create a certain image of laziness, or the inability to provide for themselves. So if a guy wouldn't date a woman, it's probably one of those reasons, same goes for women and their outlook on unemployed men. Hope this made sense.

killbenlanier · Answer

I don't have a steady job, and if I wanted to date someone, it would be a dumb decision. Women don't care how hard you try. If you don't have your sh*t together, you have nothing for them. You have to focus on your wants and needs during a time like this, not someone else's.

aMuse · Answer

I guess so. As long as they are bettering themselves, it wouldn't bother me... Most of the girls I've met lately have been college girls, many in graduate school. I don't care where they get their money from, so long as they aren't looking to dig on me...

Anonymous · Answer

Well right now I'm unemployed. I have no idea what I want to do and I kind of get social anxiety a lot. Stupid I know but it started after a health issue I had. I had diabetes and would faint all the time, not cool lol. I would be upset if a guy didn't want to date me because I'm not working. I have a master's degree, I have done SOMETHING with my life, I'm just lost in what direction to go in at this point.

Anonymous · Answer

i would never date an unemployed man! especially if I am working and have a really good job. if he asks me out on a first date then for sure I am not paying for the date. to me an unemployed man is not a good image. sorry if I am being so harsh but that's my opinion :)

ZenQueen · Answer

of course.. he would have more time for me! but I'm not giving him any f***ing money... he's own his own to take care of bills/living/food... I've always wanted to be a traveling nomad... it would be nice to have some male company on my travels...

ambertaylor · Answer

I would date an unemployed guy as long as he had the motivation to get a job and succeed, not too be a long term laze about. I like a man with drive and ambition

DodgersGM · Answer

If they're working toward something, then yeah, I would.  People run into rough patches all the time in life... it's how they respond that matters most.

Picopa · Answer

NEVER! It's hard enough taking care of yourself. How are you going to support someone else i.e. paying for dates, driving everywhere, giving them loans, etc?

candlewax · Answer

As long as I don't have to end up supporting him, I really don't care.  In other words, if he's unemployed because he's a loser- no. If he's unemployed because life sucks atm, meh. No big deal.

prettymuscle · Answer

I would date them but if they don't change and get a job . then I would have to let them go.. am a man of pride

CatholicVirginia · Answer

Strongly depends. How long has he been unemployed? What was his job? What is his work ethic? How hard is he looking for another job?

Anonymous · Answer

Sleep with? Yes.

Date? Not unless I already know the person and I know that this is a temporary thing (on unemployment going back to school and the like)

I'm pretty sure this is true for most people in my age group, both male and female.

djbreal87 · Answer

As long as they were actively trying to find work, I would. But if you have been jobless for two years living with your mother, then no.

Prettygurl12 · Answer

I'm dating one right now...of course, that might have something to do with my age bracket.

NayaAbouzaid · Answer

Depends on if he's planning to get employed soon  But a guy with no hopes , dreams and goals is a guy who won't be having me in his future anytime soon .

anonymousbastard · Answer

Dude all women are gold diggers, that % should read 100% not 33.  But of course every women here is gonna tell me I'm wrong and make up some BS excuse to back it up.

Anonymous · Answer

19% of women cheat on their spouse, 28% of men do. What's really worse here?

jay6994 · Answer

I'd date an unemployed woman as long as she's not a leech lol

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah. I only care about a woman's job (or lack of one) if she is a prostitute, stripper, p*rn star, or anything like that.

Anonymous · Answer

It honestly depends on the situation, for example if the male/ female is working to get a job like he or she is at school then yes. Or if he/she is having trouble getting a job then sure fine. But if he or she is to lazy to get up and get a job then no , HELL NO ! you should waist your time on someone who has no future

Anonymous · Answer

I'm an unemployed woman. I guess it depends on how driven they are to change their situation. It all depends on the circumstances... Were they laid off? Are they actively seeking another job? Or are they just sitting on welfare? All good questions to ask.

HifsMit · Answer

If I were gay, I wouldn't date a unemployed man. I want a  provider for our kids!

pezzonovante88 · Answer

I would, but she would have to work harder for my trust.  Or, if she was in a financial position that didn't require her to work then I would be okay with that, too.

PLLFan21 · Answer

If he is at least going to school, or TRYING to get a job then that's fine with me. As long as he isn't a lazy "bum" laying around all day.

brookelauren42 · Answer

financial reasonings for not wanting to be with a guy is just pathetic. as long as you're happy with the guy then his income shouldn't make you consider not being with him

Jessaaaaaaay · Answer

well I guess it depends on the reason? and I'd hope they were trying to look for a job?

Anonymous · Answer

Huh?  Are you saying that 67% of women WOULD date an unemployed guy compared to 46% of men who WOULD date an unemployed woman?   I'm calling bullsh!t on your stats. . .

Anonymous · Answer

If it was a temporary thing I would date him. If it's long term then I would not

Anonymous · Answer

Depends on whether he intends to be permanently unemployed!

Anonymous · Answer

I would  but only if that person is at least attending college.

Anonymous · Answer

If he was working hard on getting employed and not just sitting around being lazy I would.

asianfreak · Answer

Yes only if that person will do what she can to find a job

Anonymous · Answer

back to the statement man is the provider...so he must provide.

Lj236 · Answer

yeah I would as long as they were actually trying to get a job and not just laying around doing nothing

Anonymous · Answer

I would, but they have to at least have ambitions and the drive to really work towards it, not idle around with no intention

Anonymous · Answer

Well women say that because man take advantage of women like they would ask for money and guys would date an unemployed women because they think they are easy ;-)

Wondering658208 · Answer

I would but if he was unemployed for more than 5 months it would be a problem

Anonymous · Answer

I would. I don't think employment should matter. And think about being a teenager, you can't say not a single one of your exes were unemployed when you dated.

Anonymous · Answer

No if a girl hasn't got a jobby then she is undateable.

Anonymous · Answer

It depends on the circumstances. If they are between jobs I would do it, but if they just plan on never working, then no.

Anonymous · Answer

It depends. If they're looking off a job, and I mean actually trying to get one, I think that would be okay for the time being.

Xx_DRE_xX · Answer

Girls are gold diggers end of discussion.

Anonymous · Answer

Hell no! If I can work full time and go to school full time as well, you better figure it out.

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah I would it's no biggy if you haven't started a job yet

Anonymous · Answer

It depends how long a why they are in their situation.

calialltheway1993 · Answer

Only if I can provide financially.

Mr_Solo_Dolo · Answer

Yeah, I would date an unemployed girl.

Anonymous · Answer

No unemployed guys, its no life.

kangaru2 · Answer

Iwould as long as his goal is not to be a bummer

Anonymous · Answer

yes I would and I have.

moviedude714 · Answer

a lot won't, but some will

dodgersmom11 · Answer

yes I would

Fxck_livi · Answer

It depends if u love them or nah

Anonymous · Answer

If they were in the process of getting a job yes.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes. It doesn't matter if they have a job or not.

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