Tell him how you feel. It sort of sucks, because yeah, the thing's probably not worth a quarter of what he paid for it, huge markup on rings, but he still shouldn't be giving you something that was intended for someone else. If you just leave it as is, then every time you look at the ring, you'll be thinking about her and the fact that it was meant for her.
At the very least, he should have the diamond put in a new setting. It's only right.
You shouldn't be afraid of telling him. His girlfriend didn't turn down the ring, she turned down the proposal. She wanted some sort of high-class Hawaii thing. You didn't do that. You accepted his proposal, you just don't feel right about the ring.
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It's tacky to say the least. Alright I get that he doesn't want to toss away an expensive ring. But seriously, recycling rings is tasteless. I would have at least pawned it off and used the proceeds for a new ring suitable for my new partner.
If he's cheap and tacky in this way, what other ways will he be cheap, tacky, thoughtless?
Having a kid isn't a deal breaker for ALL men. As men get older, available women WITHOUT kids becomes increasingly rare, so either a guy has to accept a single mom or risk going alone.
I would feel the same way. It's perfectly acceptable to feel the way you do. The ring was bought for another person, why can't he just trade it in and get something else?
I think if he loves you he will understand. You aren't asking for a lavish proposal in Hawaii, or a really expensive ring. The only thing you want is a ring that is your own with no history.
Something that is special to you two. I think if you explain it like that to him he will understand without being upset.
He obviously didn't love enough to get it resized. And why should you be afraid to have a reasonable fear? Id say don't ask for it traded just give it to someone you care about. Maybe your daughter tell her to keep it for the money purpose when the value of it goes up. By the way You are VERY justified for not feeling right about it.
I wouldn't even try it on. It belongs to the past. For me such things are very remarkable. Trade it for something good for you. Good luck.
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it was it is. A ring is just a symbol. other chick rejected it, never took it. so he was right to keep it. although it depends on you. If someone rejected a gift, then I'd keep it. its like offering money, oh she doesn't want it, OK I'll keep it and either use it on myself or someone else. the fact he gave you the ring means more than you may think. Material items come and go. Sure its corny, he was honest with you, he didn't lie, that speaks volumes as well. but he doesn't seem like the person to care about what you have, but more so who you are. My 2 cents.
He needs a kick in that ass. What kind of creep is he, that he would offer you another woman's ring. Are you so unimportant to him, that he could not be bothered to get you your own ring?
That is just tacky, if he had been married before. Would he want to use, the same wedding rings too.Just tell him that you want him to buy something while having YOU on his mind. And that this ring reminds you of that woman. Say it it gently and I am sure he will appreciate your honesty.
I agree pregnancy hormones do things to you lol... But even otherwise I would feel uneasy having to wear that ring...
You are not being difficult...no woman would want second hand stuff of ex'es..I don't think it means he doesn't love you. But that's just the kind of man he is right now. If you have an issue with it speak to him to see if maybe you can pick out a new ring together and sell your current one.
wait I don't get this... Did he ask you to marry him or did he just give you the ring to make your ex jealous?
He should get you a new one. If he cannot afford a new one he should sell that one and get a new one. Even if the new ring is not as lavish it will still be yours not hers.
I don't think he could trade it in at this point. He is stuck with it. I get where you are coming from, but I think you are over thinking things.
well she never actually wore it, but I would sell it and buy a new one
He can trade the ring and lose very little of value from trading to a reputable jeweler. He is a bad guy if he is trying to give you the same ring. If I were you I would of dumped him
Forget his lame ass and move on. Let him pay child support. Lots of guys don't care if you have a kid.
I understand how you feel, I would feel the same. If you really love him, and he loves you too, tell him the truth. I hope he doesn't take it harshly but I'm sure he will understand. best of luck!
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