It has a really small sapphire and the band has no design. When he asked me what type of ring I wanted I told him I'm not picky. He said "That's why I am with you." I just didn't know the ring was going to be this small. My mom called it simple and the jeweller described it as small. When we wen't back to the jewelry store he joked and said "Don't look at the all rings I can't afford." We saw an engagement ring just like mine but with a different color. He asked if I preferred the other color. I saw online that my ring is a lot cheaper than the other rings, it is 450 dollars. Should I bring it up to him that I don't like my ring? Does my ring look cheap?
My boyfriend got me a really plain engagement ring. Is it something I should bring up to him?
If you can return it, I would suggest you do so ASAP and get his money back.
If you want a larger ring, I would highly suggest moissanite. It is a synthetic diamond, but in some ways is superior to a diamond. Some of the highlights of moissanite:
1. Much more affordable. This 2.5 carat ring is about $250:
2. They are more durable than rubies or sapphires, only slightly less hard than diamonds, which are renowned as being one of the hardest substances on earth. Diamonds ratling on Mohs hardness scale = 10. Moissanite rating = 9.25. Sapphire = 9. Topaz = 8.
3. MORE brilliant than a diamond. Some people actually complain that moissanite sparkles too much! It is like a beautiful prism or disco ball on your finger, the fire inside shines so amazing.
4. Conflict free. Diamonds are part of a very ugly trade which often involves human suffering and abuse. There is no such issue with moissanite.
I know a lot of people are giving you grief about being shallow and wanting something bigger or nicer. I think it's okay to want to have something you are proud of and that people notice. I suggest you look at these search results on eBay for moissanite rings and find a couple that you like that are under $500, and ask your boyfriend what he thinks. My guess is he just wants you to be happy. https://www.ebay.com/sch/i.html?_from=R40&_trksid=p2380057.m570.l1313&_nkw=moissanite+engagement+ring&_sacat=0
I got my fiancé a 4 carat total weight engagement ring, F clarity, VVS1, moissanite ring and she LOVED it. Her friends noticed it a lot and she was very happy with the size and how it sparkled. The price was reasonable, less than $5,000. A comparable diamond ring might cost $30K-$50K, and no one you don't tell or that isn't a jeweler with a loupe and/or diamond detector isn't going to be able to tell the difference.
PS do be circumspect about who you buy from, clarity, occlusions, and of course the metal it is mounted on. There are some terrible rings/vendors out there you want to avoid.
Also, there isn’t much value in a moissanite. Say if you wanted to make it a family heirloom, it won’t be worth much at all, whereas with diamond there will be. Just something to think about
@anniisa97 diamonds are actually not worth that much, either. And moissanite is the next hardest thing to a diamond, so it will last as long as a diamond (forever) and can be a family heirloom. Unless you are really looking for family heirlooms that you want your ancestors to sell? But that sort of defeats the purpose of an heirloom?
Yes that’s what I mean. I understand that Moissanites are just as good as Diamonds in terms of quality but they aren’t valued as much if someone wanted to sell them. If I carry on a family heirloom it’s also going to be as an option to sell so that if they end up in any serious financial problems, threy will have something to sell if it comes down to it. So that’s one of the things keeping me from wanting a moissanite although I’ve been interested for a while
@anniisa97 it ain't 1920 anymore, have you ever watched the movie blood diamond... do yoy have any clue how the diamond market really functions.. you go to a pawn shop with a half cartridge diamond ring... what you thing you're really going to get for it? You're not even thinking about what this rings supposed mean, its all about what its worth and how much you can sell it for later... which why men should never buy into this bullshit tradition perpetrated on us by jewelers. Like there is ever any money in that. Well yes, there's money in it for the person who didn't buy it in the first place... but you'd you're never get near market value on reselling or panning a diamond ring.. You'd probably going to get more for the gold then the diamond. Nobody buys diamonds from pawn shops, and legit dealers don't do second hand diamond sales, unless you're talking serious diamonds and we ain't.
This why its a bullshit response to a bullshit question
@anniisa97 I have a different vision for heirloom, which would be something valuable to my family heritage, but not necessarily valuable to the public. A toy chest built by my grandfather, or the table built by my great, great grandfather for example. To me, a moissanite ring is perfect. I'm not thinking of my ancestors being homeless and what they can sell to survive. If it's gotten that bad, heirlooms are the last thing to worry about. I would save the money, buy a moissanite as a forever piece, and put the money saved into smart investments. Not jewelry of any sort, which depreciates, be it diamonds anything other than precious metal like gold. (even gold is worth less as jewelry than it is as a base commodity, as you lose value paying for the crafting of it)
@DaveJord I’m sure you’ll know all about the 1920s, boomer. I do actually, I know Diamonds aren’t worth as much as they seem. Different topic. Why do you old lonely men love to talk down on random women on the internet? What it means? Lol
@anniisa97 Actually your assume too much, I am 45 and not a lone... or lonely. Maybe your self conscious and not as secure as you think if you got to jump to mansplaining accusations to make yourself feel better.
I'm with you 100%, Sir -- your advice, in essentially recommending that she be a manipulative, materialistic bitch is well taken -- especially considering that it's guys exactly like you who are enjoying sex with women like this on the morning of their wedding day:)
I am so sorry that you are in this situation I feel your pain I feel worse for everything that you're being called you're not ungrateful and you're not anything of those cruel things these people are saying you made an honest mistake at the time when you were asked about you opinion on rings it is clear you did not have an understanding quite yet of what you did or did not like. You are indeed in a predicament. There are a few things to consider of course his feelings but also yours and furthermore honesty it's the most important thing in a relationship. Another thing that a lot of people are wondering is this engagement ring also to become your wedding ring because that is a huge game changer. Which tradition are you following are you going to remove this ring and place it on your other hand? Will this ring be replaced by a permanent wedding ring or is this the ring to be your forever ring? Will this ring forever more represent your marriage? If this is the final ring 100% and there is no other wedding ring except to add a wedding band then I 100% feel you must speak up. I bought an engagement ring for a man which was also to be his permanent wedding band. It was 14 karat with diamonds I bought it on a sale so I could not return it. He didn't like it and it hurt like hell. He wanted something in a different color. Despite it hurting I understood it was more important that 1st He wanted to marry me and 2nd I knew I wouldn't be happy knowing he was wearing a ring he didn't like just to please me. I know it's going to hurt but you must be honest and let him know how you are feeling. Be gentle and considerate. The key factor here is will he be able to get a refund on the ring. If he can that solves a lot. You both can select a ring that is equal or less than the price he paid.
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Sapphire Ring under $400 You are in a hard situation. Be honest and be gentle. You must acknowledge you made a mistake. You were naive at the time and did not realize what you did or did not like when it came to engagement jewelry. Keep in mind if he cannot return the ring the best situation would be to keep it. If you are able to exchange it in the same store consider looking at sales. If You you find a ring which costs more and you absolutely love it then you should cover the difference. Another circumstances where exchanging it is not an option and a refund is not an option then you should discuss with him the option of you keeping his ring to honor the sentiment behind it but buying and paying for your own of your liking. Take this as a stepping stone a learning experience if treated gently and with consideration and most importantly honesty you can both grow from this.
Well written, or you could come to realization thats its about love and how good he is to you... and honesty the ring has nothing to do with that.
So person here @meetkitty123 gave a very well written and kind response that gives some type of way to back out of it... but like she said this was your mistake and you have take responsibility for it.
But let me tell you the truth from the guy prospective, he bought you that ring because he thought you were the type of women that would appreciate the simplistic beauty... thats the ring HE picked out and that the ring that will have meaning to him. Sure you can be all tactfully and talk your way out of it... but know its going to be ungrateful and next ring will have no meaning to him... except that you didn't appreciate the first ring he wanted and got you as a symbol of his love.
Well, you shouldn’t say you’re not picky, then proceed to pick the ring apart. He chose something he thought you’d like, so you can’t really knock him for that part. As far as the cost, that’s really up to you to decide if it’s going to be troublesome or not. On one hand, some would argue that your engagement ring should be a visual representation of the love and commitment you have in your relationship. For some they’re meant to last through the test of time, to be passed on to possible children or loved ones, and while it doesn’t have to be a thousand dollars, but require effort. On the other hand, the ring he chose does not mean he didn’t put in effort. It’s one thing if he makes great money and chose an inexpensive ring. But if he’s a hard worker, and this is the best he could do, then that should mean more than the cost. A ring is a material possession to represent the strength and beauty of the relationship between two people. So while it’s ok to be proud of an expensive ring, I dislike the idea of cost being attached sacred bond such as marriage.
It's small. Maybe that is all he can afford at the moment. He can always buy you a new ring someday when he has a better income — assuming he will.
If you want to tell him you're not happy with it, you have to be very careful. Sit him down and pour your heart out to him. Control your tone and body language. Make sure you do not sound disappointed or make him feel like he isn't good enough.
You need to understand it won't be easy for him to hear and that he might get defensive. You absolutely DO NOT want to match his attitude by getting upset yourself. Show him kindness and sympathy and it will gradually become easier for him to accept that he didn't deliver this time.
You could say something like: "My love, I want to tell you something, but I'm worried it might hurt you. Will you listen to me? I'm sorry, baby, but I can't help but feel disappointed with the size of the ring. It would make a lovely Valentine's or Christmas gift, but I was hoping for a little more out of an engagement ring. Please don't hate me. I love you, but the truth is I only like this ring because it came from you."
"It has a really small sapphire and the band has no design. "Sorry, but that sounds picky as well as ungrateful... Did he not try to ask you what type of ring you wanted? Why do people make it all about how much he spends on the ring, than what the ring is supposed to mean... How much someone loves you shouldn't be determined by how much the ring cost or how many diamonds it has... Any anyone that sees it that way maybe they shouldn't get married till they get what love/marriage is really about.
EXACTLY!!! She says she isn't picky and then goes on and on about every little thing about the ring. Why can't she buy her own ring? If she wants something else
@Whatever2929292 why not put more importance on the man, than the ring he buys🤷🏼♀️I mean that's what it's supposed to be about... Spending your life with they person... That should be far more "valuable" than any ring no matter who buys it
You're right about that. It should be their love for each other. As she said if she really does not like the ring and is asking if she should bring it up then yes they should communicate. But YOU ARE EXACTLY RGHT
Thanks Brains & WhatTheHeckkkk. Nail right on the head: Superficial and self indulgent. Oh boy, I'd love to be a fly on the wall when she explains that to him 😵🤷
The question is whether he can afford more and you feel insulted by his refusal to spend the money, or whther this is all he can afford and you will feel embarrassed showing this ring to family and friends.
He doesn't even need to spend more. They could in theory spend less and still find something that pleases both of them. They can work this out they need to be patient and gentle most important honesty is need but with respect.
Well unfortunately if you are this bothered by it, then I feel sorry for you. Here you have this totally awesome guy that you totally seemed to have been very happy with... until he bought you a ring. So sad to me, that these things matter so much to women, because the biggest asshole, in the world would of probably spent like $5,000.00 on ring and you're telling me that would of made you happy?
Yeah you should tell him, because he probably deserves better than you. Definitely tell him, he has the right to know what kind of women he is engaged to.
Engagement rings don’t have to me a million bucks. The wedding ring is the one that people like to wear daily and “show off.” As of right now, I can see this becoming a big issue between you two. I don’t think you value his efforts, because he shouldn’t have to break his bank on a ring that will be replaced by another ring. I think you should tell him though, maybe it’ll bring up a very important conversation that needs to be had.
Well I suppose I understand where you are coming from now... It depends on which tradition they choose to follow. My engagement ring is my wedding ring.
Yep! It definitely depends on which tradition people follow. That’s why I mentioned my family’s tradition - A lot of women in my family who do not wear their engagement ring stacked, they usually wear it on their right hand or keep it in their jewelry box... Generally because the engagement and wedding ring don’t match and look a bit off when put together. Lol, but yeah traditionally, people wear them together!😊 It’s awesome that your engagement ring is your wedding ring, that’s actually very smart
You should be proud to wear your fiancé's ring. You told him you're not picky and now you're being picky about it. Why? Is that the way you want your marriage to be? You tell him one thing and then complain when he does it?
You're putting way too much emphasis on what others will say about your ring, rather than accepting it for what it means... his love and commitment to you.
Things to Ponder: Okay, he's already playing around with your and other perception of you. This is the tip of the Iceberg. --Is he simply a cheap SOB or one who is without training. If without training, 1. Do you think you can change him?, 2. Are you willing to endure the embarrassments, as well as shame and guilt within?, 3. Are you resolute with the fact that he may never change?, 4. Do you realize that you are stuck, in the eyes of God, once married?
$450 is objectively 'cheap' for an engagement ring.
Unless he has extenuating circumstances, unemployment, supporting his relatives, makes minimum wage, or budgeting for a down-payment on a house in the very short future (within the year), I would probably be disappointed by a lack of financial planning.
A good clarification question is whether or not he would drop a similar amount of money (or more) on himself and his hobbies. I personally wouldn't want my engagement ring to compare to his next 'gaming' set up or seasonal hobby splurge.
This doesn't make you a gold digger, it just makes you want to feel secure knowing that you're with a real man who is willing to plan, and value you/ your dream life over what material comforts he can buy himself for the next 1-3 months.
I would bring it up to him that you want more. I would however not start the conversation until you know exactly what ring you want. Find the ring you actually want, know the price, and be willing to chip in half or all of the difference since it's a pain to return the old one and then put more money down.
You want to emphasize that you want the marriage AND the satisfaction of getting a ring that you're proud to show off. It'd easy to make mistakes on that sort of thing, but (general marriage advice) he has to be willing to do what he needs to make you happy. If roles were reversed and I bought the wrong engagement watch for my man, I would fix it in a heartbeat.
You aren't even talking a wedding ring. The wedding... And all that other stuff. She is free to buy a new ring. she is ungrateful entitled and picky even after she said she was not picky
Well since you do the ring thing, he has to buy a wedding band, then throw a wedding, then a honeymoon, then a down-payment on a house. Perhaps not just one but two cars. He said don't look at all the rings I can't afford.
We don't know you or your history. Does he have a history of being miserly where you know he is being stingy? If yes, then bring it up. It isn't so materialistic in that it is a gesture that can feel linked to how your mate values you and how excited he is about the commitment. But again, there's all the other stuff to pay for. You know.
If you are a fledgling couole whonis starting your future together and he did what society expects him to do within his means, I would advise you to look at the bigger picture.
It is a lovely ring. It is plain. I think if the band were embellished in some way you would have been satisfied. I sense you wanted a larger stone.
Couples (well women) do have rings beefed up once their financial situation improves. If you are there for love and companionship, maybe be patient until you can do that?
One of the best parts about being in a relationship is that you have a bond that is so beautiful so tight so close and you can kind of read each other's minds you know how much money each other has you know what you're saving for you know what your goals are maybe buying the house maybe buying a car maybe paying off school loans but the best part is there's a verbal commitment and that is something beautiful you know as you grow together and get older and you become a success in life and one day he might just show up with this beautiful beautiful big Blu ring that he wanted to get you but he couldn't afford it at the time because of all his other commitments I think it's beautiful ring it's what the ring means it's not how big the ring is I had a girlfriend once I was truly in love we're walking through store when doing this we're walking out there was a bubble gum machine and it has rings in there about five rings I had five tries the very first ring I got was the one that I wanted where to where and she wore that ring everyday for four years is what the ring meant to the both of us She didn't care if it was real she didn't care if it was big she cared because of how it happens and in that moment everything that happened it was something beautiful and special I did buy her more jewelry at the Rings bracelets necklaces the ring she would wear every once in awhile but she always wore that first ring every single day
The ring is tiny and inexpensive. Though you said you weren't picky, it's clear you did not want a $450 dollar ring. I think you need to sit down with your fiancee' and tell him this isn't what you expected and you're unhappy with it.
Most engagement rings cost several thousand dollars: usually 2 or 3K. Did you discuss this? You might be able to get something for far less from a pawn shop and something considerably more beautiful than a new ring. Something with character and some history.
But you need to be honest with your man. And he needs to be honest about what he can afford. If needs be, you can wait to get a better ring later or you can kick in some of the money for what you'd like. But I think in this case you'll need to be flexible.
Engagement rings are usually powerful signals to others: they represent the value a man considers his bride to be for him and an advertisement to the public of that value and of his showing how much money he's willing to spend to SHOW OFF.
If that's what you expect from him, you need to be crystal and say you're not picky about most things, but this isn't one of them.
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to be completely honest it’s quite untraditional. If the only information he had was that you didn’t mind much I feel like he should’ve gone a bit more safe. From what was shared in the post it seems like he just went for price. If he took some time to shop around - which I hope he did, I’m sure he would have found that a lab grown diamond or moissanite rings come in various shapes, colors and sizes. They can be absolutely beautiful, they’re ethical and cost just as much (or as little) as this one. Even if you didn’t want a traditional looking ring I do think he could have found something much better than that.
It’s not an ugly ring at all, it’s just a unique style. And the part that sucks is I feel like he should know that if he’s about to marry you.
To be devils advocate though you didn’t give him much to go with.. if you had even a slight idea of what you wanted. I think you should have at-least shown him a couple pictures of something you like.
It’s also worth mentioning that this happens quite a bit - returning a ring and repurchasing one is common practice so don’t feel too bad about it.
If you want a certain type of ring in the first place, then you should have told him that when he asked. Why pretend to be cool with anything when actually you aren't? You had to go asked your mum and a jeweler for their opinions, so that they can agree with you that the ring is plain. And then you had to go online and compare prices, and tell us that the ring is cheap.
My advice, since the ring is such an eye-sore for you, return the ring back to him. Tell him you want an expensive ring, with carats and everything, and that you will only accept something that is above $5k. Proceed to break up with him because you know he won't be able to afford that. After breaking up, go find yourself whatever sugar daddy you want to satisfy your luxury taste. Your boyfriend deserves someone better than you.
Brutal but this is it right here.. If I read a post like this from my fiancee I'd first wonder how this even worked out for so long and then probably just end it.
Why is it an issue? He wants to marry you, and made an effort to buy a ring with the little amount of money he has. Is blue is your favorite color or sapphire is your birthstone? If so that means he put thought into it. Cherish it.
If you wanted a specific type of ring or assumed he'll go above and beyond just because you think you're a catch, then your hubris and assumptions are going to be your downfall. Listening to outside sources on how to manage your relationship will erode your relationship from the inside out like a cavity. Communicate. If he's on a budget then get a pretty ring with gem stones that look like diamonds instead or whatever; they have plenty on Esty, or you can go to a pawn shop. Next time, talk to him first and be upfront.
Seriously? This man asked you what you wanted so he could get you something that you’d be proud to wear, you accepted it and now you don’t like it cause others called it small? My ex husband started calling me his fiancé 2 years before he ever even attempted to buy me a ring or even ask me. The only reason he finally got it was because I told him if he’s gonna call me his fiancé I better get a ring to go with it. I even went on the website for my favorite hometown owned jeweler to create a one of a kind, gorgeous ring that would never need to be upgraded because it was perfect from the start. The ring I designed was going to cost $1500 with all the warranties, insurance, custom sizing and shipping to our door in a week and despite us having $25k in the bank I got told no because it was too expensive. I said fine then I’m not your fiancé. It took his mother telling him how much of asshole he was being for him to take me to a major chain jewelry store in the mall and allow me to choose a ring from the case that was a price he was comfortable with. I walked out of that store with a ring I hated that cost him a whole whopping $700 by the time taxes, warranties and sizing fees were added in. Had we not had an extra $25k lying around I wouldn’t have even asked for what I wanted. Had he gone out and picked something out on his own and chose something based on what he knew I wanted my ring to look like, I wouldn’t have cared what it cost. All that would have mattered is that he loved me enough to make it meaningful for me and put some thought and heart into it. If the meaning and love he put into that ring is only based on the amount of numbers in the final price, then you should give it back and allow him to find someone who will appreciate that he cared enough to make sure he let her know just how much he loves her.
One advice… show him lots of pictures of the ring you love… communicate!! If you can’t communicate this before getting married… how will you sustain a marriage that requires both to work to make love?
I love the color and it’s super cute. if you two are truly meant for each other… the love, bond and support through time to become more financial staple will help with the next ring. That you both go pick out together… say 5-10 years anniversary ring. I actually don’t heard love from your end. Maybe this is not an ideal match.
If he can not spend a lot there are some really amazing beautiful rings on Etsy for much cheaper.
My husband got me a Moonstone wedding ring on $100 on Etsy, it's perfect to me. Plus you can choose different colors.
I think you should be honest with him but gentle. Ask him if he would not mind you looking for one with him. Tell him that you you didn't think it would bother you but wanted to see other rings that you might like better around the same price or less if that was okay with him.
It's up to you how you want to approach this just be honest and do not beat around the bush. Also be considerate of his feelings. The fact that he even said don't look at those tells you he wishes he could get you a nicer ring.
Also wanted to say your ring is actually really beautiful to me too, but if you mind it and would prefer something else then communicate with him. There is nothing wrong with realizing you were wrong about how you felt.
Make sure you get him a band he likes my guy didn't like my first pick we returned it and got one he loved, we even bought three more just in case something happened to it. ❤️
Oh yeah and make sure you know what to look for in rings, you want to get one that won't rust or scratch and look for reviews for pictures so that you know it's good quality. The best part about Etsy is there is a wide selection of unique styles stones and value prices. And most are hand made!
I mean if I was in love with someone and they proposed with this
I quite literally wouldn’t care, I mean the man I’m in love with has just proposed!! I mean yes there are rings out there that I like but it’s not a huge deal. Then again everyone is different. If you marry a poor man don’t expect it get a big expensive ring and if you don’t know each other’s financial stuff then it’s odd you’re engaged and don’t know that.
Well if you don’t have a lot of money then go for something that isn’t expensive until you could afford it. If my partner and I didn’t have much money I’d rather him buy a band like the one I posted. The ring doesn’t make the marriage… you don’t need a massive ring or an expensive one.
@Whatever2929292 nah if this was a troll to you, you're just lacking a sense of humor. That's cool though, if taking everything seriously and get butthurt works for you do you boo.
I spent £12 on engagement ring for my OH, I've told her that very openly. She dosen't care. The sentiment of getting engaged is what matters, planning a life together. Sure I could spend much more on a ring, but I'd rather use funds on the house we're buying, or on our kids, or on a holiday. You sound a little ungrateful and spoilt. If you don't like the design thats something you can discuss with him. But getting fixated on what it cost seems like you're missing the point of what it symbolises.
I think honestly you’re a bit pretentious, since you gave him freedom to buy you whatever you want. He bought this because it was ok for him and maybe he can’t afford more. I don’t want to justify him whatever it takes since maybe he’s greedy like Scrooge and tried to spend as less as possible. I just want to remember an engagement ring or a marriage ring are given as a token of respect and to symbolise the event, they don’t have mandatorily be opulent and rich, my parents had only a simple golden circle as marriage ring. I think you shouldn’t think about the monetary value of your ring, since a marriage monetary value is equal 0: all that’s important is the sentiment.
If you are concerned about the price of your ring you shouldn't be getting married to anyone. The main concern from many guys when considering marriage is that the woman prioritizes money over him. Maybe go with a Cubic Zircon stone instead so you could have a larger one for looks and not based on price. Suggest that to him.
If a woman requests a more expensive ring, that is a sign the man should immediately call of the wedding and leave her. He really should have a prenuptial agreement, just like all men should insist on.
Is he working? Is he in school? Paying off student loans? Has he bought a house already?
The first time I got engaged I had nothing. Literally. I bought her a ring that was about £100 and it took me months to pay it off on finance. In fact when we broke up I took it back to the jeweller and they bought it back at £60 which just covered the outstanding finance
When I met my wife I was on a disability pension that allowed me to spend more but we married for each other, not money.
That doesn't look cheap at all... its understated but very classy and pretty in my opinion.
I dint think the price is important with a ring... I think it's the thought and reflection of your character through the thing that is chosen is what counts.
Id be very happy with that ring, as my special partner chose it for me.
It doesn't look like an engagement ring to me... is it really all that he can afford? If that's the case then you need to accept it if you want to be with him. My mum got an "engagement" ring about 20 years after her wedding because my parents were poor. They're still together, over 40 years already. So it just depends if he got you that because that was all her could afford or if it's because he doesn't value you like a man should a woman he's planning to marry. The fact he said "that's why I'm with you" to you saying you're not picky about the ring tells me it might be the latter... personally I do think it's ok to bring it up unless he's poor. You should be honest with him and not hide resentment that will resurface eventually anyways. If your relationship can't survive that, it's best to know now than later. It's one thing to not be picky about how the ring looks but it should still be an engagement ring and this one clearly isn't. I'm surprised it costed that much to be honest.
It's a engagement it isn't even the wedding ring. She said that she was not picky... She is just ungrateful. What about if she wants another ring she can take her ass to the store and buy a new one!
@Whatever2929292 I have my opinion on this topic and you have yours. Find a girl who agrees with you, not everyone has to :) You and me are not getting engaged anytime soon so I don't understand what you're coming at me for lol
You're right about that. My point is though that you are telling her that she is entitled and maybe you should give her the advice that maybe she should not be with someone who sees eye to eye.
How would you like it if a guy told you that he was not picky and you spent 400 something dollars on him just for him to bitch about every little thing?
If you want a suggar daddy then go get one lady. But be clear that is what you are looking for and don't waste people's time who are looking for something real
If all that matters in a relationship is material objects then you don't have much going at all. As I said before she is free to go to Kay jewelers to pick out a new one.
But the point you made about not getting engaged is really what she should know.
@Whatever2929292 You can give her whatever advice YOU want and similarly, I can give her advice from my own perspective. I'm not denying you that right so why are you commenting under my post as if your opinion is somehow more valid? It seems like a simple concept, at least to me. She asks a question on a public forum from both guys and girls and she gets a variety of answers from people of different ages and backgrounds. Same with any other question asked on this site, people are going to have different opinions based largely on their cultural upbringing and life experience. You're welcome to disagree with mine which you expressed and that's where it should end.
You're right and I was not even saying you were wrong and you agree with me... So... I don't see the problem. I did give a answer and you're right about this being a public forum I comment sometimes.
I just have a problem with the fact she said she was not picky... Then she felt entitled to a more expensive ring
@Whatever2929292 I don't think the price was the real issue... she had a problem with it before she checked the price and as I said, I'm very surprised this ring cost that much. I think the guy got ripped off. It's about how the ring actually looks and it is NOT an engagement ring. It's the type of ring my group of friends would get for one of us for her birthday and it'd cost around $100-150. I'd be disappointed too unless I the guy was poor which I'd accept by that stage. I don't see what's so controversial about showing a woman you supposedly want to spend your entire life with that you value her. It doesn't have to be a huge cost but it should mean something.
As I said before... You're right about COMMUNICTION. Not coming online to bitch about it... As well as not saying she was picky and telling him she don't like it.
It's just a engagement ring anyways... Not the actual wedding ring.
There are other ways to show someone you value them other then material objects... You buy something for someone to be nice. You don't even technically HAVE to buy a engagement ring. I think it's wrong to put how much you value someone only in material objects.
Who knows me might not really have a lot of money. As I said before she can always buy her own stuff as well.
So you think that a material object should be how you tell someone you value them? Then the both of you need to find a sugar daddy. Be clear that is what you want. Personally if I had the money I would try and get something nice but. Not that anyone is entitled either
@Whatever2929292 well, yes. Not giving an engagement ring is also an option. But if you do end up getting a ring it should in theory last her entire lifetime. So if it's cheap it might be of poor quality and will not last. You can always agree with your partner that instead of getting the ring you will spend that money on house or wedding or whatever else. That being said, men who plan on getting married and therefore in most cases having a family should have financial security that will allow them to get a proper engagement ring. Wedding rings are pretty plain and those you chose both with your future wife and probably pay for them together. An engagement ring is a gift and should express your feelings. It doesn't need to be overly expensive but if it looks like it comes from a vending machine then that just shows the kind of person you are. It should look like an engagement ring.
Okay if you can't make your own money get a sugar daddy. Not your job to just suck off of a hard working man wanting a REAL relationship I am not judging them just be straightforward.
You aren't entitled to anything more and your love for someone isn't materialistic
You also talk about a man not having financial security number one you said he might be poor... You said you are fine with that... What kind of money is she making if she can't even buy a ring for her own self.
Again want a sugar daddy just be clear that is what you're wanting... Don't waste someone's time
A material object does not show what kind of person you are. If she wants a new ring she can go buy her own OR pick one she likes.
Speaking of vending machines he isn't a vending machine. Your arguments were pretty decent at first and I even agreed with you and then when I agreed with you you backtracked on everything you just said.
@Whatever2929292 guy you sound so F broke n bitter, you work at Walmart? I’m average in my city and gonna do 3month salary thing. And it’s the ENGAGEMENT ring not the WEDDING ring the one with the 🪨 you pleb
That's the problem with being low maintenance. People literally bring you trash. I remember one time I helped a friend organise a party and politely declined when in the middle of work she offered me tacos. I said I'd eat later. There was only one left by the time I got to it 😔
Anyway, be upfront about your problem. Many men here respect women who speak their mind. You're going to start a new life with him aren't you? Start it with truth. Don't be necessarily rude, but don't keep the ring either to "spare his feelings".
The question you really need to ask is are you are you marrying the person, or the ring? A reasonable person would be aware of his financial status and ability to wow you with a ring because of the ring itself versus wow you with a ring because he picks you to spend the rest of his life with. The ring itself is a symbol, but it could be made of aluminum foil and still be a powerful message of love respect trust and desire. This brings me back to the original question: are you marrying the ring, or the person who gave it to you? If the latter, the ring itself doesn’t matter.
To me it sounds like you're unappreciative. The main point of a proposal is the promise of marriage, not what type of ring he will give you. A piece of rock on a metal ring that will be placed on your ring finger for less than 10 years before a divorce isn't worthy (describing modern marriages). Back in the days, the rings would cost less than a hundred bucks, and couples would be married for the rest of their lives. They would of course upgrade the ring after they become more financially stable, but if you are in the early stages of your marital life and you're complaining about the ring, then to me it sounds like you don't have your priorities sorted. Be happy instead that you are getting married.
Imagine if you were in his shoes buying a ring. You wanna show your someone how much you love them but don't have the money for a fancy-ass ring. You get a simpler one, thinking "the love is what matters most". You give the ring, then that person questions your love for them all because you didn't spend all your hard earned money. Fuckin' ouch. Rings are material things, while love is from the heart. Love doesn't have a dollar sign and it should always be that way.
I feel like media has shapped engagements into something fake. I would prefer a smaller ring anyway something thoughtful. I think it's stupid to spend thousands of dollars on a ring. I'd rather make memories go on vacation whatnot. That's my 2 sense on it lol. I know there's others that feel the same way but it's far and few between. Ring is just an accessory the love you have between the 2 of you is priceless
I know what you are saying. You don't want a fake ring from one of those vending machines for kids that you see at chuckie cheese.
To me, that ring looks helluva cheap. I can personally buy a better ring for myself as a single person. But it really depends on how much he makes. If you married a very poor man then you can't expect an extravagant ring right? You need to understand what you are getting into.
But another thing to keep in mind is that there is a distinct difference between being "cheap" and being poor. There are some people who are very stingy and refuse to spend their money even if they have a lot of money. Just make sure your man is not this type of man.
"Only" $450? That makes you sound pretty mercenary.
It's an engagement ring. Many people give simple gold bands. I think yours is really pretty.
Why are you more worried about the size and cost of the "engagement" ring instead of being over the moon for the fact that the wonderful man loves you asked you to marry him? How disappointing. Sad.
The wedding ring is the one that you should help to pick out, Lady Di. Go ahead and spend the down payment for your house on a ring instead. And are you going to give him one of equal value?
Personally I think that is a very beautiful ring, it's nice and dainty. If I were you I wouldn't bring it up, it sounds ungrateful and if you really wanted a ring with a big stone you should have said rather than told him that you didn't mind.
It just looks like a birthstone ring it definitely doesn't look at all like an engagement ring. I have a ring I bought for my ex-fiance and it has five diamonds the middle diamond is.5 carat, the next two diamonds on either side of the middle diamond step down and are about.2 of a carat and then it steps down to the final two diamonds on either side of the.2 carat diamonds which are.15 carat diamonds all of which are brilliant cut, clear and of excellent color. The wedding band has 7 small single cut diamonds in a row about the width of the engagement ring diamonds. You deserve rings like these.
So who got the ring in the end? That is why some guys don't buy expensive engagement rings. When they break up she usually will keep it, so it's money in the crapper for him.
@Daniela1982 you're right. I mean I don't see anything wrong with keeping a gift that someone gave you though... I mean he did give it.
I just can't stand entitled people and people who say stuff like "I ain't picky" and then are picky. He can't read her mind and know what she is wanting... LOL.
It is like people who say a thousand times "I am ready when you are"... Trying to rush you... Then you are not ready when I am you're ready WAYYYYYYYYY before I am... Use your words
@Whatever2929292 Good thing I never gave it to her then, right. My investment continues to grow in value and as it was a custom ring I designed using the diamonds from my dearly departed Mother's rings it didn't cost me much and I've had several jewelers enquire about purchasing the set.
They might not have a traditional wedding so her ring could be a wedding ring too. This is how my husband and I approached it we didn't see the point of have two rings. I get why people do it we just didn't care.
@Daniela1982
She didn't exactly say she wanted a expensive ring, you can get a large sapphire engagement ring for $300 on Etsy.
For a different discussion, one of the biggest reasons why rings in general were so expensively bought from the fiance was for financial security. The ring is also a representation that a man could provide for a future for thier life and future children.
If they ever were to be burdened for money they could sale the wedding ring and but still keep the engagement ring so there knew she was taken and had a commitment already. Which is why men's bands are so plain unless of course he was a king or man of high value money wise.
@JustAnj thanks! I hope you do too! You're right about that. But I really think that you get it because you love the person. Not to enable a gold digger (sorry that I am so blunt sometimes).
I can't stand a entitled woman as well as the fact her lack of communication saying that she isn't picky... Then verbally tearing apart the ring.
Even if it is both the engagement and wedding ring he is not REQUIRED to buy her anything.
A woman who appreciates me and isn't on one extreme or the other. Meaning she does not feel entitled to me doing nice things but also isn't offended and is really thankful or grateful and even feels a bit bad when I go out of my way to be nice as well as returns the favor I do things for more often.
Now I don't do nice things to force someone to owe me something either. But you get my point. As long as she is grateful. But someone like this I would really not want to do shit for.
@Daniela1982 another thing is some folks simply don't have the money to buy some extravagant ring especially not in this economy. IF she does not like it she is free to go and get a new one herself at Kay Jewelers.
You aren't with someone for the ring they buy you or a gift. That is all just bonus. You should be with someone because you love them as well as communicate. If she don't like it then she should bring this up to her fiancé in a RESPECTFUL and loving way.
Not come on here and bitch about it and have a bunch of SIMPS, white knights, and gold diggers defending her.
I don't just mean that because they are defending someone I defend people if I feel it's right. But they know what they are doing.
I understand what your saying but you should remove yourself from the equation and see the reality of the situation.
She obviously feels bad is put in a situation she was not expecting to feel, then she acknowledges she actually does care and is picky.
Some of us fail to understand our feelings until we have an experience she shouldn't be judged for being human and making a mistake.
She realizes she would be lying to the man she loves if she did not speak up but is feeling unsure because she feels she might hurt him or cause him to see her in a different light.
That that right there is very good because lying HUGE No no in relationships. Partners should never lie to avoid confrontation because it leads to miscommunication, unresolved issues, resent, lack of respect and responsibility.
Communication is very important and this will show if they are capable of having empathy towards each other and truly love one another no matter if issues or change arise. You want your partner to be comfortable being themselves and want them to be happy.
The fact that she came here to ask tells you how much she values her relationship but also herself. The same you would if you needed consulting.
It is very important to be yourself in a relationship to allow it to grow and if she just wants reassurance to make the right move which is being honest what's wrong with that?
@JustAnj you're right and I do personally think that she should bring it up. It was just more of the way that it was written that bothers me and asking if it looks cheap.
Yes if she has a problem she should say something. I had more of a problem with some of the answers to the question then I did the question it's self.
You're right even a "white lie" is a HUGE NO!!! Even if the truth hurts (not to ever be mean about it) you can't just lie about stuff otherwise it causes more problems such as if you say you like something and you don't they will keep getting it doing it etc.
But you're right communication is key. If she does not like it she should communicate but also be willing to chip her own money in if needed.
She said she was not picky... He can't read her mind and know she won't like something and can't read her mind knowing she don't like it.
@JustAnj I do agree with you on that. I think she does value the relationship. And should talk to him about it. Like this answer here that I originally replied to... I take issue with some of it. But that does not reflect he asker and I am sorry if it came off like that
I think its important to discuss your household finances as a team now ahead of time. If you want him to spend more on the ring - which I agree - important to find one you love - discuss together what you want to put on hold as a team on the flip side - do you want to delay the engagement ring purchase date? House purchase date instead to spend more on the ring? Or delay vacation fund? As long as you both agree on most optimal path that maximizes your household finances as a team is the most important thing.
I think its perfectly reasonably you want a ring you love - perhaps you pick out the ring together - and the timing is up to him to surprise you with!
It does look cheap (rather expensive to be so simple) I could get that for $80 at other boutiques
However, pay attention mostly to what your boyfriend can afford. Does he have the income for a $2,000-10,000 ring? If he doesn't, I wouldn't stress as you can always upgrade later.
If he's cheaping out, typically those men aren't that in love with you, they just enjoy having a warm body around (even if it is an engagement ring). Going cheap is equivalent to being settled for. They like you but dont think you're worth the best that they can get. This can also play out in delayed milestones, dragging their feet, not spending much time with you, downplaying holidays/birthdays, little to no sex, controlling behaviors, annoyed with you often etc. Cheap falls in the same category.
If you say you don’t like it, you’re going to hurt his feelings. Is the price of the ring that important anyway? Maybe $450 is all he can afford. Or maybe he could afford more, but the next step up in price was out of his budget. You didn’t really give him any hints either. You said, “I’m not picky.” According to my husband, when you said that, what he heard was, “I’ll be happy with whatever ring you give me.” And I think it’s a pretty ring.
My fiancee is happy with the one I got her, very happy even, and it didn't cost me but $200. Price doesn't matter, but the connection to it does. That being said, you are probably being a little bit ridiculous. y'all are young, right? If so, he probably doesn't have the money for a really nice ring. It's wild to me how much women equate the price of the ring to the value of his love.
No. He should bring it up with you that you're not marriage material.
This fucking about over rings needs to stop. You're marrying a potential partner and would rather have that cash. Than wasting it on something you're never going to wear much.
You lied when you said "I'm not picky", and you're being an ungrateful bitch. Obviously you ARE picky, and what you should have said is "would you mind if I came along and we picked one out together?" But you didn't, so this is what you got. Hmmm... what happened to being glad you're getting married to the guy you love, and understanding your financial situation together?
Sounds like you're embarrassed to show it to your friends and say "look, I'm engaged". If you're really that upset about it, you need to have a very heartfelt talk with your fiancé and explain yourself completely, because this is going to hurt him, and you best be truthful with yourself AND with him.
At the end of our vacation stay, we stopped by a Tiffany to look and try on rings. It was good to see myself what diamond cut she liked the most. Then you get into the carat detail, which is always fun.
I feel like if you give the answer of not being picky and don't somehow work the idea of giving hints on the type of ring you like, you let him become too open with options. You can bring it up, there is always something like the 30 day guarantee at most places, even Tiffany offers that. Can totally turn it into a shop together event.
The ring is nothing more than the symbol of a promise of marriage, its cost is meaningless, it is not a gift just a token.
The cost only became a thing when De Beers a company whose profits depend on diamond sales invented the Diamond Engagement Ring which went along with the slogan “A Diamond Is Forever.” in the 1940's. It was they who suggested that the ring should be roughly the equilateral to 10% of the man's yearly wage.
Before this an engagement ring was any ring at all, your Boy friend has "plight his troth" accept the ring for the symbol it is, if you start complaining about it he may reconsider the whole idea of marriage, I've know couples who got married without there ever being an engagement ring in the picture.
Most of us won't even get proposed marriage anymore and instead get stuck at just his girlfriend or he lies about wanting marriage, leaving us childless... and you're here complaining about the engagement ring? If I got proposed (regardless of how cheap the ring is), I would be happy just the fact that he's opening his gate already and seeing me as his wife. If I were you, I would be greatful he's giving me marriage, what many men don't give anymore.
But your not her, let her grow into herself and her relationship.
And why the hell would you want a guy who just keeps you on the side. Girl wake up there is still guys who want marriage you just gotta do you work on yourself and value yourself. Stay away from guys who keep you just as an option and who do not have plans to marry.
If you just want a guy to marry you please look into marriage more and what it means to be married. It's not a dream boat but for those who get there selves together it can be. ❤️
Also we don't know what her man would want but I know as a human I rather hear the truth then the lie.
@JustAnj In the end I did dumped the worthless lying, user. I'm in another relationship with someone that wants kids and marriage. It's just that nowadays many men will lie about wanting that just to waste your time so now I don't fall for words anymore. I look for actions.
@JustAnj you're right about that you don't want someone keeping you on the side. That could be a reason why someone never has anything meaningful and if he's cheating with her... That is low really low and he will cheat on her too.
She should communicate but a relationship should not be material objects
To be perfectly honest I gave my fiance a two part ring one ring the engagement ring the other the wedding ring of platinum and diamonds 2 carats total weight they fit together seamlessly all told 8 thousand dollars but I had a very good job at a computer firm so I could afford it making over 60 grand a year when I was in my 20's with stock options I lucked out in the late 80's early 90"s. Just because your future husband couldn't afford an expensive engagement ring doesn't mean that he loves you any less, he probably loves you even more if truth be told!
Kinda mean isn't it? Saying you're not picky and now being conflicted finding the ring plain. You Are Picky. Be grateful for the gift. It's a gift a token of his love. Don't be a hypocrit.
It shouldn't really matter because after all it's an engagement like any other. I don't think you should bring it up because it will make him feel bad or hurt. Also $450 isn't a small amount of money.
Are people here too blind and lazy to read askers entire question? She legit told that her stingy fiancee silenced her in the beginning "don't look at any other type". Those people who say she is a gold digger, SHE DIDN'T ASKED FOR EXPENSIVE RING, SHE JUST ASKED FOR A DECENT RING. All females are jealous of her and men are manipulative jerks who wants women to accept trash. Is this a joke? The ring is so small and looks worse than those $10 cheap rings who at least look aesthetically pleasing. If it bothers you, it bothers you! He doesn't loves you. Engagement is once in a lifetime and this is how he treats you?
I think that it is a nice-looking ring. It is hard to tell from the photos, but the stone looks flawless.
With that said, there are hundreds of thousands of girls in your age range who would love to be engaged, even if the ring came out of a box of Cracker Jack.
I think your ring looks cute. It sounds like your main concern is that you think he's just being cheap, but does he have a history of being cheap? Also how old he is in what sort of income he has plays a pretty big factor. If he doesn't make much then I think that you should have already come to terms with him not being able to buy you very expensive things. I do think the jokes he made are kind of weird, but it's hard to really make a judgment without being there and knowing him.
I personally think it is a very pretty ring and it does not look to me, cheap is less than 100 euro in my world. And I am not sure if you are used to wearing rings? But something small is more practical for everyday wear :D plus sapphire is a hard mineral (at 9 on a scale of 1-10), so without a tendency to break like maybe a bigger but cheaper stone. Though, if you don't like the look of it I think it is ok you go and find another. But only in a higher price range if you know for sure your fiance can afford that. No need to make him feel ashamed of his finances. Maybe at your 5 or 10 year anniversay you can get more expensive jewellery.. look forward to the future together, which an engagement ring represents. You are going to be with him for the rest of your life, plenty of time for fancy gifts if that is your thing :)
What of your to time and personal dedication are you willing to spend on the marriage, being about things greater than yourself? Marriage is about the united mission, not the gimmes. If a ring turns you off that much, you already have the wrong priorities.
Sounds like he gave you several opportunities to say something already. I think your time to mention it came and went. Still, I think you should take a minute and genuinely ask yourself why the ring bothers you? Does it need to be a different color? Do you feel it should have cost him more? If so, why? In my mind, being a good steward of your finances is a mark of a dependable man.
Is money or a fancy ring more important to you than him or his feelings for you? If the guy really loves you and you really love him, then the ring shouldn't matter. If you think that you should have a guy with more money then don't lead this guy on and don't marry him. Just because he can't afford an expensive ring doesn't mean he's a bad person. If he makes a lot of money and is just being cheap, maybe he is being cheap because he doesn't know how serious you are about him. If he doesn't make a lot of money, you should be happy you even got a ring. The cost of that ring would feed a third world family for a year. If you don't make more money than him and are not trying to get ahead financially as much as him to invest in both your futures, you really don't have a leg to stand on. Don't expect more money out of a guy than you are willing to contribute yourself. If you expect financial support, what are you going to contribute?
Well I mean you literally told him that you’re not picky 😭 if you had an idea in mind about your ring, then you should of told him when he asked. I think it’s a pretty ring, it doesn’t scream “engagement ring” to me though. I would just be honest and tell him that you’re not happy with it
She meant she didn't have anything specific. He should have known that a marriage ring needs to be a big one, if not necessarily a princess cut or whatever.
@jengeorge26 I'm sure more men would be for it if they had better support from women. Why would a man marry a woman really? When she gets tired of him, the courts will drain his pockets in divorce and child support.
@iSlipKnot if you don't like the way things are — don't become a part of them. Do everything a woman does for you, including getting pregnant. With the advance science, women has become luxury. I don't necessarily think that's a bad thing.
But if you're gonna be in a relationship, you can't participate half heartedly. Her boyfriend is like that.
@anon1903 well regardless. She should just talk to him and tell him that she would like a bigger ring. He could be tight on money right now, so maybe he doesn’t have the means to upgrade the ring right now but could promise her to get a bigger ring in the future.
@anon1903 I don't need instructions of how to navigate the current marriage situation. The system is messed up lol. Just start there. She got a ring she didn't pay for. She should be grateful.
@iSlipKnot I'd leave if I was her. I might seem like an asshole to you, but had my parents been thoughtful of their situation — they'd have brought the beautiful house of their own instead of two beautiful broke children, one of which is crapping here
@anon1903 I'm not sure why you're worried about what you seem like to a stranger. What if's are simply that. I think people need to be more grateful for what they have in life. This original post reeks of ungratefulness to me. We can disagree.
This is why I hate women. It's a ring. Be happy with what he got you and stop whining because it's not super expensive. That pisses me off so much how women are so shallow
Well not all women are like that and obviously you ain't so lets not judge all women here. You're right about being happy though or bringing it up to him without just bitching
@grapefruit11 I don't think that's true either. Though I do find it unfair she hates all women when as you said she is a woman herself (unless she is a man I mean anything is possible) and you can't help how you are born.
But I can't stand women who are materialistic and when I find a woman is I tend to loose interest in her
@Whatever2929292 it's a figure of speech. And most women to a degree are materialistic, it's just how we are as women. Some like the asker though take it to a place that makes me dislike her and women like her.
Well no not all women are and many men are as well. If your love is only around material objects... How can you hate women when you're like that yourself?
@Whatever2929292 actually most men aren't that materialistic and the ones who are tend to buy their own nice things. Women tend to want their man to buy them the stuff
@Whatever2929292 and I was just stating that's most women. We are brought up and raised to basically think men are supposed to sorta dote on us... the they pay for dates, he's supposed to bring you flowers on the first date, valentines day gifts and engagement rings. Little girls are basically told Inna way men are a piggy bank of money, gifts and attention. And it has for the most part made women shallow and materialistic like the asker
Yea I think parents need to raise their children better. Make your own money I have no interest in women like that but I know that not all women are like that and even some who are just... Grow out of it.
The fact you are concerned you may have a "small" or "cheap" engagement ring is very telling. The guy could have twisted a ball of lint into a ring and placed it on your finger when he proposed and it should still mean the thing as an expensive ring.
Be happy the guy loves you and wants to marry you.
Well, if it’s the only thing he can get, perhaps he can’t afford more at this point in time? What’s more important, his love for you, or a ring? I can understand how you may not like it for its size. But in these times of people losing jobs and struggling to keep up with bills, jewelry is not at the top of the list for them. That 450 dollar ring might have cost him a lot of saving, unless you know he is loaded with money. Engagement rings can cost thousands. I hope you see my point.
I bought a $2,000 ring and she bought me a $500 ring. We stopped wearing them. They hung on the wall for a few years. I thought I put them in the safe, but they're just not there... the guns are, I can't find the rings. I have no idea where they went.
I want to also add we bought really bad ass rings while we were still Japan, for about $30 American dollars. Yeah, they're fake, but the stainless steel and the fake diamonds fools everyone. We did it as a sort of inside joke on the rest of the world and it worked. It's all bullshit. I bought a $1000.00 Gucci watch and the only question I ever got asked "is it real?" That watch was crap compared to my g-shock. Don't go for that money shit... I learned the hard way.
I also bought a fake $5 Rolex in Hong Kong... shit got stolen like it was the shit. It's all just perception. Shit some women would envy you just for having a man. Bet they'll try to steal that bullshit even. Don't place value on material things.
Is it actually an engagement ring? I bought a ring for my girlfriend when I was much younger. It was a birthday gift and had her gemstone in it. (sapphire). So did he propose to you? Find it odd he asked what kind of ring you wanted. So you might not have even gotten the man you wanted let a lone the ring. If you DID get the man you wanted ( he proposed) think about if you would trade the ring to keep him. That is what you should brag about. $#$%@$ the ring.
You told him that you aren't picky. If you want another ring then take your ass and buy a new one. This is really materialistic. You should be with him because you love him not the kind of ring you want.
You say you aren't picky... Then get angry when he picks something out. If you have a problem then communicate and tell him.
Excuse me but he isn't telepathic... He isn't a psychic he can't read your mind.
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Honestly it’s like a ring that we usually see at H&M. But it’s cute that he wants you to wear it because who knows he might think the color of the ring suits you or has a thoughtful meaning behind that blue color.. He’s a simple man probably. Don’t say you’re not picky if you complain about the ring he gave you, unless you’ve ever mentioned or hinted at him about what kind of rings you do like. I think a small solitaire or princess crown rings at Pandora (they’re cheap, cute, and has stylish models) would suit your taste better if that’s what you mean by this question?
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