My boyfriend got me a really plain engagement ring. Is it something I should bring up to him? (Page 2)

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It has a really small sapphire and the band has no design. When he asked me what type of ring I wanted I told him I'm not picky. He said "That's why I am with you." I just didn't know the ring was going to be this small. My mom called it simple and the jeweller described it as small. When we wen't back to the jewelry store he joked and said "Don't look at the all rings I can't afford." We saw an engagement ring just like mine but with a different color. He asked if I preferred the other color. I saw online that my ring is a lot cheaper than the other rings, it is 450 dollars. Should I bring it up to him that I don't like my ring? Does my ring look cheap?

Daniela1982 · Answer

Does he eat Cracker Jacks often? Maybe he didn't get you an expensive ring because he was not sure if you were really the one and how long you would be together. Or, maybe he has a drawer full of them and that was the first one he grabbed.

EmmaMary · Answer

Congratulations on winning a  Troll  of the day award.

Texasgal95 · Answer

It comes from the heart and what if that’s all he could afford at the moment and what if he wants to save up to get you a beautiful wedding band. I wouldn’t spend a lot on the engagement ring anyway I’d rather spend that for the actual wedding band but I’m really bothers you talk to him about it so that way you don’t hurt his feelings by not wearing it just explain to him that you think it’s kind of boring

lilyanony1 · Answer

Is it the price?
Did you like it initially?
We're you happy he proposed?
Are you worried what others will say?

I personally don't mind it.
But that might be because I don't like the popular trending ones. I like unique designs.
. maybe this is what he can afford.
Maybe in a few years you can upgrade it when you're earning more...

Aditiiiiii20 · Answer

I hope he is not on this site and doesn't sees this post.
After you're his wife you can make him buy whatever ring you like for you. But since it's an engagement ring it'd be better to just connect emotionally to it rather than bringing up the reasons of not liking it.

TransAm85 · Answer

Ok Kardashian.. the engagement ring isn't what really matters. My husband gave me a cheap engagement ring 9 years ago. The wedding ring is nice. But we have so much more than rings to show! Material wealth is just that.. when u get married and u love the person, u build a life together. Marriage is a lifetime investment. Did u know that? Or were u just planning to have a few kids and then claim child support?

hellomellow7 · Answer

I wouldn’t worry about it.. it’s the thought and sediment behind the gift that counts.. because at least he bought you a engagement ring right? And you never know.. maybe he bought you a cheaper engagement ring so he could afford more for a actual wedding ring. So I wouldn’t bring it up unless you doubt his motives.

Bambalicious · Answer

If you don’t like it then it’s okay to say so. The reason why it looks “cheap” is because it’s from a name brand jewelry store so it is “cheap” for them. If you really don’t care and just want a more fancy ring then you can just return it and take the $450 to Walmart or Target and get a more fancy looking ring. That’s your choice. My ring was $50 and I chose an opal with two pink stones by it.

FireFox001 · Answer

Better to bring it up and let him see what kind of person you really are...

... and give him the opportunity to save himself from you.

You said you are not picky. In men terms that means "a fucking iron band would suffice, I love you, it's the thought that counts", you colossal buffoon.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Damn, bitch! This dude spent half a grand on you, and you're on here complaining about it? Ungrateful ho.

dynamicyandere · Answer

If you bring it up, it’ll make you sound super ungrateful and superficial. If luxury is more important to you than love, then what you want is a sugar daddy that can shower you with gifts—not a husband. And, even if you found a very wealthy man that likes to spoil you with extravagant gifts, you should be marrying him out of love and not out of vanity or greed.

Anonymous · Answer

Firstly, your an ungrateful bitch whos priorities are all wrong. Hope he doesn't marry you.

Secondly your a flaky liar who says “im not picky i dont mind whatever you get me” and then proceed to bitch about it.

Thirdly, the only reason price would matter is if he makes like 80k+ a year, then maybe its a bit weak to only spend like 2 days pay on something significant. But otherwise price is irrelevant.

Anonymous · Answer

I find your ring really beautiful. I personally think is not about the ring, how much it costs, what rock it has attached to it, it's all about the meaning of the ring, what it represents for both of you. I personally like simple things, I'd like a wooden ring. I would be uncomfortable if my fiancé spent so much money on a ring since is money we could use for both of us in something else rather than a piece of metal.

Reaper1985 · Answer

It’s possible he couldn’t afford anything bigger or he wanted to save money for your wedding, honeymoon, future life together.

Either way sounds like you should be lucky he still wants to marry you at all. Because most guys would have been like forget it and called off the engagement.

After you told him your not picky but then got all judgmentally about his choice of ring.

SiberFox · Answer

You seem vain. But the rule I was told is start off with a lower value ring and if she's been good to you for a long time, then you buy her a much more expensive ring. Starting off with a 10k engagement ring is very risky, you have to be absolutely certain she won't just leave with the ring and resell it for the cash.

Arwen06 · Answer

I thought engagement rings didn't have to be super amazing, it's more of a commemorative thing. Just be grateful you have a man that loves you

Anonymous · Answer

What bothers me is the “that’s why I like you” part. He likes you because you’re not picky?
I think better mention it to him that it was not what you expected and want to choose it yourself because it’s important to you.
And don’t tell yourself that you’re not picky because this post shows you are.
Or you’re just finding a reason to not be happy.

TheoPfeifle · Answer

I'm just here to say that I agree with the vast majority of the men. After looking through the comments, I think it's unanimous that you're more materialistic than you let on... If you were truly not picky, this question wouldn't even exist on this forum. I also very highly agree, in particular, with the guy who said something about you moving the goal posts in the middle of the game. Not cool.

My advice... Don't tell a person that you're not picky, because apparently you are.

glennos89 · Answer

If you are going to complain about this stupid materialistic stuff being to cheap for you, I really hope for you then that your guy is a softie because if you would complain about not liking the ring while you gave no suggestions upfront then I would be seriously pissed at maybe even thinking about ending the relationship with you. Being materialistic or a gold digger is incredible unattractive 🤢🤮

Anonymous · Answer

No ring is cheap. Do you have $450 for it? lol Cheap-er yes. But you did say you weren't picky lol. Sure it's not the flashiest, but I think it's still a very nice ring. To me it's just a money grab anyway, and a HUGE one at that. Just ridiculous. He probably feels the same way. Did you get him one by the way? lol

Adam1978 · Answer

You are picky, so you lied. Otherwise this wouldn't be a question. 450$ is a lot of money to waste on a temporary ring you will wear for less than a year. Because after that it should be a wedding ring unless you make him go back on his promise.

BCRanger10 · Answer

One way or another, $450 is  not  a small amount of money, especially today. Isn't it more important that he actually spent the money on it rather than pull it out of a cereal box?

aquamarine321 · Answer

I can’t believe you, so many women are dying, and waiting desperately for there boyfriend to make the move, and you’re here on G@G about a god damn ring, you don’t love this man, Beause if you did you should be asking questions about marriage and all, I hope he realize that he made a mistake before it’s too late, because he’s going to be one sad and miserable husband with a heart break

Alex8736 · Answer

It's the thought that counts. Now more than ever with inflation at a 40 year high, soaring gas prices and jobs still paying wages prior to prices going off the charts people still have rent/mortgage, utility payments, food etc. If you were to call him out on it you might be looking at a recipe for disaster where the focus should be on unconditional love and if something materialistic is going to start an argument due to possibly someone else showing off a rock what will happen once married

Jamesshinobi · Answer

engagememt rings are depreciative assets. maybe he spent the rest on over sold stocks or bitcoin. dont be stupid and put value on frivalous and worthless things. would you rather have a home or some dumb rock on your finger... if you even remembered to wear it in the mornimg. my wife of 20 years wore her rings once or twice...

melanieeeB · Answer

It's a beautiful ring if you ask me and also unique and not like every other engagement ring. But well you have to like it tho and if you don't then communicate with your partner

Anonymous · Answer

look these people don’t even know you & it’s a pretty blue and i would want to show it off to people when they ask. and it’s a bit small if it was just a tad bigger i would be fine with it i like the shape. but can he afford a bigger ring or no? you know guys can get you another ring later on wait when he gets his money right.

Fineold22 · Answer

You should be happy you have a man that even bothers with a ring and makes a commitment. I wish my daughter would find a young man like that instead of the worthless bums she goes out with. I don't interfere unless I find out they put their hands on her, but yeah, I'd be happy for her if some young man did that for her.

Valso · Answer

I wonder will women ever learn that how much a man loves them isn't measured by the size and the prize of the diamond on their engagement ring.
There's a word for a woman wanting a big and an expensive ring - "gold digger".

crossdressingrihno · Answer

To be honest I like it It's simple but beautiful

Harleigh90 · Answer

I'm confused why you don't like it. Because it's cheap? 🤦‍♀️ The ring pictured is beautiful 😍 first thing I thought was its unique.

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

Engagement rings are supposed to be plain. Talk to him about the wedding ring if it's that big a deal.

OddBeMe · Answer

Breathe…ok. I think its fine. Does he have a decent job? Can you tell if this is at least a “big” purchase for him?

15 years ago ish I paid 1500 for a ring that had two parts. The second was more diamonds you put on at the ceremony. Nearly lost a year later. But at the time I wasn't making much. I've asked my wife if she wants a better one, she says no.

Anonymous · Answer

DEFINITELY TELL HIM.  He needs to know you're a lying ("it doesn't matter") shallow ("it's too small and plain") bitch, so he can cancel this engagement immediately and find someone who loves him.

Twalli · Answer

Not knowing his financial situation I can't say that his decision to buy you a cheap ring was a bad decision, but I though engagement rings were supposed to have a diamond in them. My girlfriend probably would prefer one with a diamond in it over a garnet (her birthstone).

ArtemisSilver · Answer

This whole situation is cringe. I feel bad for him. You know you don't even need rings to be married right? You've just been programmed to consume.

SamIam96 · Answer

It sounds like he's prone to making mistakes. He should correct it now before it gets really expensive. See Ya!

SomeGuyCalledTom · Answer

"When he asked me what type of ring I wanted I told him I'm not picky." Well that was a fuckin' lie. 🤣

Sirenboobzilla · Answer

If the look of the ring is what's bothering you, you have problems with material things.

Anno2 · Answer

You told him personally you're not picky and then you have the nerve to complain to people behind his back. I despise people like you.

skyeee_ · Answer

bruh stfu.  first u said ur not picky and now have the balls to complain 🤡🤡🤡

thatvegankaren · Answer

If it's about the ring to you, then I feel sorry for your fiancee. Love isn't about material objects, and if you ask me, it's not even about marriage, in my personal opinion you don't need a ring and a piece of paper to prove your love to someone, as long as their is trust, honestly, and respect, your relationship is perfect and complete.

Vickysplash_ · Answer

Not sure I got you right. If you’re with the guy you love, being asked to marry him, even a ring made with a bottle cap, should make you the happiest woman on earth. Maybe what you should question is not the ring but your willingness to be with this man.

petitedollbabee · Answer

You literally said you’re not picky. Yet this post proves otherwise. It’s just an engagement ring. You’re not going to be wearing it the rest of your life. I don’t understand why it’s a big deal.

Kaneki05 · Answer

You sound like you love him a lot. (Just because one may not get it through text this was sarcasm.) also $450 been cheap guess if you come from rich privilege.

jcampbell115 · Answer

Seeing as how the wedding will cost a whole hell of a lot more than that, I think you should be grateful

sheikalana · Answer

That’s a really plain ring but when he asked you what type of ring do you like you should have been more specific. You can tell him you’re not impressed with the ring he got you but be careful and try not to sound ungrateful.

anton_dee · Answer

If you cooked a meal after a lot of efforts, would you want him to point it out to you that he don't like it?

You marrying him for money or love? If by now you don't know his financial capability then why getting engaged?

urpapi69 · Answer

If this is all he could have bought then please dump him because he's a broke ass guy and you certainly want something more. If he could have bought a more expensive ring without breaking a sweat, then again dump him because he is very simple and values feelings over material things. A ring is a symbol of marriage. That's all it is.

KelleyNice · Answer

It serves its purpose. If you don't like it, buy a different one and, without mentioning money, tell you boyfriend, you exchanged it for a ring you like better.

EllaNella · Answer

the ring is really beautiful tho, yes it is small and simple, but it's also elegant and will look good with every outfit. why the need for a more expensive ring?

Gent207 · Answer

Wow I think your boy got ripped off bad. There is a jewler on ebay where I got my wife's engagement ring. I forget the name and I got a beautiful diamond ring for $400 (prior to taxes)

ALovely_Queen · Answer

The ring is nice in my eyes but if u don't like it
U can maybe look for one u like in the same price range
Just don't start a silly argument on sum that will change cuz eventually u will get ur wedding ring
Don't spoil ur feelings just to looks price or even money
Maybe it could be he's even testing u
So just UK bear it

Anonymous · Answer

is this a troll? Seriously asking because I think it's an awesome ring and would love seeing my girl wear something like that. I don't think that's a very common cut for sapphires, so it will always be unique even if it's not the most expensive ring in the world.

BruceJender · Answer

I would jump ship if you were my fiancée.  You'd rather complain about the quality of an object than be happy with what it represents.

spartan55 · Answer

Nothing like moving the goal posts on the guy, you need to do some reflection.

Anonymous · Answer

He might of felt the ring fit your personality and his feelings towards you. They only thing you can do is replace the ring yourself or flat out tell him you’d prefer another ring which he might be offended.

MikeInHawaii · Answer

There are celebrities who buy million dollar rights and ignore the commitment that goes with it. If a woman will tie a string around my finger and honor the promises she makes, that’s what matters.

LovingLoverReturned · Answer

It isn't something you should bring up. Nobody here truly cares about your ring except maybe your family, friends, it is better to ask them.

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