You are over analyzing this. First, you think she is gorgeous and you really like her, so that would have come across as much as you think you were looking pretty laid back. Then you asked her if she had plans later that night. Nothing about the question was a good idea.
First dates can be all this and more and still amount to nothing. A lot of people can have fun with someone that they really don't see as relationship material. That is kind of a problem in the world of dating because we think a great first date equals a second date. It just does not.
So, now, you followed up with a silly question instead of calling her and asking her out for a second date. Who knows, maybe she will get back to you, but if she does, cut all this silliness out and ask her out for a second date. I think it is great to tease and have fun on dates, but the guy needs to have an edge of seriousness in his interest in a girl or you won't get far.
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she is 18. remember that. I know I am 22 now and when I was 18 I was totally different when it came to dating/ relationships etc. I was just so much more immature and played stupid little games. didn't really take people that seriously. I didn't know what I wanted a lot of time. and I liked attention from many people. so remember an 18 year old is an 18 year old. not saying you can't date her because she is too young but you will probably be constantly makig you question her motives because she probably doesn't know what they are. and if she is attractive she proably has a lot of guys after her. also I don't understnad what you mean by your message you sent to her. would like some wine? what is that meant to mean? its a bit weird..maybe she was confused what it meant...
i personally would like if the guy had gone to the effort of texting me first I hate it when people play hard to get because of stupid society / dateing rules. Why can you just text . it you both like each other . It horrible when someone keeps you hanging , unless their genuine reasons .
I hate mind games and wish a lot more people could be straight up
Anyway give it a few days and see
Your first mistake was asking if she had any plans later that night. Don't ask vague, open ended questions dude about later while on the date man!
Then, you became a follower by texting her like she told you too...a few hours after the date! bad bad.
Then..you text her the next day to check in on her, and ask a silly question.
Look, you seem like a good guy. But, you've let your high interest control you...making you say and do things that lower a womans interest in you. If this was your A game performance...you need to burn your playbook, and completely forget what you thought you knew about meeting and dating.
She might have been quite interested in you at first...but after all the mistakes you mentioned...you've turned her off.
NEVER EVER text a new girl.
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Why do you have hold back showing you like her? Why are guys so damn silly on this front? Just be cool, be nice to her, show her some attention and consideration - put her at ease and a little reassurance that you like her is all she needs. Don't hide it id you like her.
If you want to hang out, say so. Also, do you know if she drinks? I know I didn't at 18 and if some older guy asked me to I would say no straight up. It sounds like you want to get her drunk and get in. She probably had that initial thought and could have been scared away. If you want to see her again ask her out on a second date. If she doesn't answer then she doesn't want to pursue it. It's better she denies you now instead of just being nice and saying yes.
How has it been since you sent that text? Yes she MAY be playing hard to get, but even if I was playing hard to get, if a guy that I was interested in getting to know better texted me after a date I text him back, either a few hours after or at most the nest day. Again it depends on how much time has lapsed since your text. So, the answer if either she obviously is playing hard to get or she isn't interested.
if she wasn't holding your eyes she probably isn't that interested.
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