He wants me to meet his friends on second date?

[Anonymous]

Wtf

We got along on first date and agree for second date on sun. He text me at 6:30 pm in Friday telling he is having drinks with his friend and ask if I can join.

I already made plans and also I believe it's really rude of him to ask so I said no. He kept asking if I'm busy or if I wanna catch up he would be around.

I don't think a genuine guy would do last minute invite or want you to meet his friend that early. Seems like he just wants to use me as trophy?

[cheesesteak7]

Ehhhhh... Some guys think if they hang out with the girl and his friends together, it'll be like showing the girl he's trying to take it more casual, as a way to maybe make himself less intimidating or wanting to take slow friend-type of steps first.

Basically imagine him thinking, "I don't want to pressure this girl or think she's getting pressured. I'll just take it slow/casual and invite her out with my friends."

Not sure why you think it's rude either.

[Asker]

Last minute invite is just plain rude when you had the whole week to plan.

[cheesesteak7]

not really. It's kind of the whole point of being casual. Plus I don't think spontaneity has ever been considered "rude", though perhaps slightly inconsiderate...

I think you're just taking his approach way too serious. Lighten up. If any person - friend or family - said "hey wanna get some dinner tonight," you'd think they're rude?

[Asker]

Friends and family are different.and also with your bf/ girlfriend is also different. At that point we only been on one date. Anyhow I went on second date with him call he talks about was sex. It really explains his "casual" approach. I'm not too serious. I just saw through his bS

[cheesesteak7]

well, yeah, that's the other end of the "casual" spectrum - wanting just sex lol.

[Asker]

I put him in his place and he couldn't get any. Not even kisses.