For the past 4 or 5 months I've been seeing guys 3-6 years older than myself. I'm currently seeing a guy that's 24. I've been asked out by a 26 year old and I'm not sure if that's too old. I would get married and have kids young. Around 23 or 24 for kids and maybe younger for marriage. I don't know if people would look down on it or even notice? What's your opinion?
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I dated an 18 year old when I was 26. I kind of knew it was a bad idea but she was a straight dime, haha. The biggest problem was her being under 21. We couldn't go out to bars, clubs had to be 18+, and along with her came her 18 year old friends. At 26, the LAST thing I want to do is hang out with 18 year old dudes. Still way too excited about getting drunk, by 22 I'd heard my fill of "oh my god, I got so wasted last night" stories.
It's fine if you're just looking to keep it casual, but don't go in with long term plans. Also think about if you want to be with a 30+ year old when you're 24. I'm 34 now, and I'm home on a Saturday night watching the baseball game, by choice. I have college age friends I get crazy with sometimes, but it's like once a month. I'm mostly in chill mode now, at 25 I still partied 2-3 nights a week. Don't be in a rush to grow up, you have your whole life to be old and boring, haha.
Be young, have fun. I know people who got married and had kids at 23, 24 and they're miserable now. I think people underestimate what it takes to be a parent. I feel like some people think it's like getting a puppy. I talked to my buddy from college after his first kid and asked how it was. In the most depressed voice you ever heard, he said, "It's...it's a game-changer." Once you have a kid, it's not your life anymore, and there's no going back. You better be good and ready to give it up.
So have fun, live life, and remember that your 20s are arguably the best decade of your life, as long as you keep your responsibilities to a minimum. Date whoever you want, but with no expectations. You're a pretty girl, you'll have plenty of guys knocking on your door. No need to lock anyone down at this stage of the game. And, frankly, the older guys' interest in you is more than likely physical, because 18 and 26 don't really have much in common. But by the time you finish reading this novel, you'll be 40, so I'll shut up now, haha.1