Polls: Dating

Would you date girls with short hair?

Like if I can’t see myself being with them for a long time I won’t go out on a date with them?

Note: passing means that they look like the gender they're "supposed" to look like. Ex. A transwoman (man to woman) would look like a natural woman. Would you date them if you liked everything else about them or is it a deal breaker.

Does this mean he wants to reject me in person?

I'ts been like 6 months since my husband cheated on me and I can't even sleep through the night most nights. It really bothers me that she's Asian because I just can't compete with that. I honestly wake up crying sometimes because I dream of them together, and I imagine my husband telling her that she's more beautiful because she's Asian.

Am I going crazy, how do I stop these nightmares?

27F, I really have never had a relationship. I dated someone for maybe 3 months back when I was 23 & I felt like I was settling which is why I’m glad it ended. I never dated anyone after that, I’ve only met men through the dating apps bc I’m not a social person. I don’t get asked out in person other women seem to get attention so easily, I’m told I’m cute/attractive (not including female friends/family). I get attention from the dating apps, matches/msgs aren’t the issue it just never works out. I’ve always dealt with guys I’m not into liking me & the ones I like it either fizzles out or not reciprocated. After using the apps on and off over the years, I think I’m at the point where I feel I have to tell myself to be active on the apps, I’ve just kind of lost the desire haven’t been out with a guy in almost a year. I swipe on guys that liked my profile/reply to msgs every couple of days or so. Lack of sex drive may play a part but it’s not uncommon with women my age.

This is his message

“Im not coming up tonight. I’m not coming to talk when I have strong doubts it’s even going to work. Yes I get your points and they are valid but it’s keeping that same mentality during the relationship and that’s something we both struggle with for our own reasons. I’m staying at mine for definite this week. I firmly think it won’t work and I’d rather we had time apart and not just me come over then it’s like you said me jumping back into your house and things”

What does that even mean does he want to talk?

Is white and Asian the only races of women that men like? Do they hate black women, Spanish women, Indian women and even biracial women?

I had annoyed him so he said he hated me, hated time with me, hated going out with me in public, hated sex with me it was just to keep me sweet

Then a few days later said he just said it. He loves time with me, he loves me and sex is the best he’s had

Then again same thing happened this week he said he didn’t want to see me anymore and he hated how I am in public and tried to lie and say he hadn’t started sex that week when he had. Said time together wasn’t bad but wasn’t good that week.

We’ve lived together for 9 months. In those 9 months we’ve spend 4 nights a week together and had sex 4 x per week. We always had a laugh, he told me he loved me daily. Phoned me daily at work for an hour when he had to drive cars about. Said he was excited for dates. He also started the sex 2 times per week. Some weeks there was more some less. He told me loads how happy he was with me etc.

He asked me a few times for dates and I asked him a few times too. I usually asked him for time together but he always did it. Or hed say find something to watch.

We’d have 5 perfect days a week then he’d go weird for 2 days a week.

Did he mean those things or was it just to hurt me?

Do you like short quiff haircut or bob haircut on women? Would you date someone with really short hair? I want to know your opinions