Would you date a trans person who was passing and was a 10/10 in everything else?

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Note: passing means that they look like the gender they're "supposed" to look like. Ex. A transwoman (man to woman) would look like a natural woman. Would you date them if you liked everything else about them or is it a deal breaker.

MCheetah · Accepted Answer

No, because they're still biologically men and I'm not queer whatsoever, number one. Imagine taking a bite out of a slice of cherry pie with whipped cream on top, and finding out it's actually a tomato pie with shaving cream on top. There's nothing wrong with either of those, but I don't want a tomato and shaving cream pie. Or a goat and hummus burger posing as a cheeseburger.

Number two, like 5% (and that's being generous) can pass as "actual women," whether it be their large brow, heavy jawline, mannish hands, lack of hips or wide pelvis bones, or voice that makes it obvious they're male. (I'd probably say more like 1% can pass as actual women and those two images up there don't make the cut considering those boxy jawlines and chins.)

And number three, most trans people I've seen and met seem to be whiny, immature woke SJW's who want to control people's speech and thoughts. Although not all of them, a good 60-70% of them are the Jessica Yaniv types like this; insane narcissistic lunatics.

I have met a few transwomen in real life, and I'd be minor friends with them at best if they weren't a petulant whiny woke asshole, but I'm not going to change my vocabulary, or sense of reality, for them by calling them false pronouns like "she/her" and pretending they're "female" when they're 6'2" and have an Adam's Apple. ... And a dick. (Why ARE most transwomen taller than most men, anyway? The shortest one I've ever seen was 5'10" but they're usually 6'2" and up.)

Nobody is willing to pretend I'm actually 6'8", so why I should pretend this usually masculine human being in front of me is "a woman." I'm actually sexually attracted to women; I'm not going to put men in the same category of people I'm sexually attracted to. This is why, by the way, so many women can "accept" transwomen; cause they don't have to make themselves homosexual in order to think of them as a "she/her," unlike straight men in regards to calling delusional mentally ill men a "she/her."

So TL;DR is no; I'm not homosexual, so I have no interest in dating a man trying his best to look female.

TheSpaceGnome · Accepted Answer

Thats impossible, the vagina and boobs won't look or function like real ones (voice and smell is likely is off too), and if they did, thats not a trans person at that point, it's a woman. In the same sense that gender changing fish can go from biological male to biological female.

Humans are unable to do that though, no trans person is "passable", passable is you cannot tell they were ever male and are currently female in every way, and no surgeon or medication or gene editing can pull that off.

Unless you edit the dna/chromosomes and use stem cell surgeries in combination to literally grow female anatomy after removing all traces of male anatomy, the "passable" scenario won't ever happen, but that kind of biological transformation is likely impossible past the embryonic stage.

BlueScorpio · Accepted Answer

No. They're biologically still a female/male and regardless of how they look on the outside nothing will change that. You won't be able to have biological children if you want any (unless they saved their sperm/eggs, but that would only work if it's a man/transmale and woman/transfemale relationship) so having a legacy would be out of the question. Sure you can adopt but for people who want biological children, it will be a dealbreaker. Also you would technically be in gay relationship even though they look like the opposite sex cause their chromosomes (xx/xy) will remain the same. But it's all personal choice.

Emii_Urashima · Accepted Answer

Yes. I have several friends who are trans and all can pass for a woman. In western cultures, for some crazy reason, people wait until it is far to late to transition, like Bruce Jenner. Obviously, a 50+year old male body is not going to react well will the treatments. In Asian countries, people wanting to transtion begin in their teens and the process works.

Summeroflove · Answer

No. I wouldn’t ever date a dude

Guy13 · Answer

Hell Nah ‼️ I don’t want some male helix 🧬 wrapping all up and on me. Just the thought of the Male DNA seeping out onto my body makes me 🤢

Weapon77 · Answer

No, because no one ever truly passes. I have never been fooled by anyone. I can tell the moment I see someone if they were born male or female because of things like skull shape, eyes, and jaw. Shoulders and hips help too (and the way they walk and stand). On top of that, even if the person looks convincing, there is no hiding their voice, and I can always tell from their voices. It immediately turns off all my biological sense of attraction. I could be friends with them but nothing more.

I actually might give a trans man (biological female) a chance though as long as she hadn't had her breasts removed or had a pseudo-penis transplant.

Smoothing · Answer

I would never date a trans. Even though I have come across trans who I could have dated on four occasions. Three approached me, and one was kind enough to tell me they were trans when I asked a few questions like, why did her tits look so small for a woman of her age.

So I have never dated a trans and would never. I am straight and I only date women who were born so.

Paul_in_Indy · Answer

“being trans” is not a deal breaker. But I would only date a woman, not a man. It doesn’t upset me that he is trans, but he’s still a man. These questions are often phrased in such a way that it sounds like the hurdle is “trans-ness” and some kind of discrimination is going on. That is, really, not it. I am a man who does not date men. That’s all that is going on.

TheUniqueOne96 · Answer

If that was their only flawed aspect and they were ideal in every other way, then I think I'd give it a try, although there's every chance I COULD be turned off by the fact that they're trans.

I don't hate or dislike trans people however and I definitely don't agree with treating them like garbage.

SlothySlob · Answer

Since I don't date, in my mind dating is reserved for finding a lifelong partner. I see no future with a transgirl. I know it'll sound bad to some, but I want to have my kid, not someone else's reject.
If you equate dating to, "I just need to find someone to fuck" then maybe? But I think I'd do the whole rage fucking. The whole " This is why you wanted to be a woman didn't you?" shabang.

Sour-rose · Answer

:)... i swear, when someone says trans, all they must think is transwomen. Not even transmen are a thing.

Either way, if they do pass, sure. However, transbois only. Yeah, I'm not a fan of dating a transgirl either. Nothin' personal but i really just don't like dong, all right?

bamesjond0069 · Answer

I worked in porn years ago and have met some extremely passable ts. They still aren't 100%, even the best of the best I don't know what it was I couldn't explain but my senses were going off saying it was a man. And this one had long full natural hair and was only 5'2" beautiful face... still I could just tell something was wrong. Not sure how but I could tell. I think you would have to be gay still to want to be with even a perfectly passable ts.

4ngelic · Answer

i could maybe but only if they 1) they look 100% like a dude (they have a dick, their body looks 100% like a guy, the face, everything) 2) they act & sound like a guy 3) that otherwise they're like really my type

SnowedIn · Answer

This is a really insightful question. In a hypothetical scenario, yes, I would. They'd need to be 100% up front though; it's the hiding of it that would be a turn off.

Agape93 · Answer

Fine by me, long as they're honest with me. Tell me up front you're a trans woman or a Trans man, then no problem. I'll identify you as you want to be known, man or woman, and the info dies with me.

CruelSun7 · Answer

No. I am not a phobic person but I wouldn't date a trans person. They have every right to enjoy ttheir lives the way they want but in my opinion once a guy, always a guy. So, I'd not date.

pers0n · Answer

The ones you posted are not passing. If I can tell the difference, then 100% no. And I can always tell the difference. Always.

Havthrills · Answer

I might. I was talking to one that was going through a set change. He was taking the hormone pills for the operation. We lost touch, but now he's probably a she. Lol

Msputiton · Answer

If I'm single and someone i find attractive and we vibe i will date them.

nolabels · Answer

Yes, I would, but with caveats germane to the individual.

bean2k21 · Answer

I don't date not trans from the waist down. You don't know what you going to find down there. But some boobies I'll play with.

Berethor · Answer

It's a trap to me, I don't wanna date someone who was born as a male.

DenizLikesTennis · Answer

A transsexual or transperson is actually a woman with manly hormones.

Kaneki05 · Answer

I realised recently I am not exactly straight thanks to this. So yup I would.

Anonymous · Answer

Never! I'm straight. I respect thier right to identify as whatever they want to identify as, and will refer to them as such. But to me they will still always be thier birth gender. Sorry, not sorry.

genericname85 · Answer

no, cause i'm attracted to women, not men. there's men that i consider to be 10/10. that doesn't mean i'm gay and wanna fuck them.

Herbologist · Answer

I think most dudes who would probably have a weird fetish thing going on, so it wouldn't even be legitimate. Or the dude would be so desperate he is settling for them.  I would never date one.

snackthatsmilesback · Answer

I would, pass or not, pre or post. As long as they're good peoples.

fonduegirl · Answer

No. I'm sorry but I won't be comfortable with that. I'm all for supporting them though.

qwert1234 · Answer

Pass. We can be close friends, even best of friends. No dating, no benefits though.

Sorrento-Sun · Answer

No, because I couldn't view them as a real man.

Randalama · Answer

Depends on how many drinks she buys me. Everything's negotianable.

Guardian45 · Answer

Any woman I date has to 'function bodily' as a woman. I'm better to stick to cis-women.

Anonymous · Answer

No, I only date women who were born with a vagina and still have it.

Dreamclouds · Answer

yes, I would be very curious to date such a person

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

In order for a girl to be 10/10, it also requires her to be a cisgender. So no. Being trans makes a big difference.

Hypermotard1916 · Answer

no, i wouldn't... they cannot be impregnated...

Anonymous · Answer

No. I would never date a male... transvestite or otherwise

AndrésC64 · Answer

No. I don't think so. I don't want someone who is confused about their sex or gender.

DrBanana · Answer

Nah not my cup of tea.  Wish them all the best and happiness though.

LimitedBenefits101 · Answer

So you think Grown men in womens clothes are actual women? gtfo with that bs.

Anonymous · Answer

If she was completely passable, absolutely. Best of both worlds for me, especially if she were bi and into threesomes either way.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Not a chance in hell. My 🍆 only goes inside a biological woman only.

Chthou95 · Answer

Fuck no. I dont care how much shit you do to try and look like a woman, im not dating a man

FireGodGoesSeeknFire · Answer

Passing is the essential thing.

Shiver · Answer

I'm engaged to a NB trans, pre-HRT, so yes.

DJB72 · Answer

Not for all the money in the world

KostasKouvalis · Answer

Not knowingly

AsaKyo · Answer

No, I'd still rather be with an actual man

Cubus · Answer

No, I want to have children

iiinsOMNIA · Answer

Sure, I don't see why not. I don't mind.

Twalli · Answer

She doesn't have boy parts, she's not a guy.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm ace so sure they are only arm candy to me

Anonymous · Answer

Nope, not knowingly anyway.

Amarah0 · Answer

Yes I would

AngelLily · Answer

Nope I wouldn’t

Sabretooth · Answer

sure. passing but pre-op.

Anonymous · Answer

Genitalia is crucial in a relationship.

Zolly99999 · Answer

No thank you

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

Hell no

FunnyGiy · Answer

Nope. Sorry. Pass

Googlemyahoo · Answer

Fuck no

Luckycharms12 · Answer

Probably not

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