How do I stop the nightmares?

[Anonymous]

I'ts been like 6 months since my husband cheated on me and I can't even sleep through the night most nights. It really bothers me that she's Asian because I just can't compete with that. I honestly wake up crying sometimes because I dream of them together, and I imagine my husband telling her that she's more beautiful because she's Asian.

Am I going crazy, how do I stop these nightmares?

Get counselling

Just tough it out

Accept it

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+1 y

I know I'm jealous of Asian women but don't I have a right to be? If my husband didn't think they're so great this wouldn't have happened.

[D-Pad_Chad]

Sexless marriage, that's enough for me to know why. You expect him to be upright and all that, meanwhile you weren't fulfilling your duties as a wife.

Should he have cheated, no. Should he have left you, yes. The woman being asain is irrelevant. Frankly as much as I've seen you bring it up its clear you have deep rooted racism towards asains. And for me to say that is extremely rare.

You need counseling for your hatred and to move on. Beyond that all I can say is don't hold out on your hunby or he'll find another tree to climb for the honey.

[boggboss]

So tour response to him cheating was its slightly your fault and u hate Asians not that u married a cheating asshole

[Asker]

No, I left him and I'm staying at my sister's place. I hate him too, but I still feel upset because I miss him, and I just can't believe any of this is real. One of my brother's said he's gonna beat his ass when he see's him, but I don't even know what to do. Our relationship was bad and we had a sexless marriage, but my brother doesn't know that part.

[boggboss]

So the factors look like it has nothing ti do with her being Asian and to do with a shit marriage and his inability to leave u before pursuing a ex that happened to be Asian

[Asker]

She's also so pretty compared to me and I'm just disgusted. Like why did he have to cheat with an Asian? It hurts so much more because I don't think I can even get him back now.

[boggboss]

U honestly think her being Asian played a part u are unhinged he cheated with her because she was a ex and easy accesses that u hold this much hate but are worried about getting him back whilst blaming the girl shows a inability to blame the correct person in this has nothing to do with Asians and wholly to do with u wanting a cheater

[Asker]

I just can't shake the hurt and the thoughts of how much he enjoyed being with her. He is a cheater and I just feel like I could've tried harder and maybe it could've been different.

[boggboss]

But u being better don't make him not being capable of cheating and no u don't have a right to hate Asian people because your husband cheated on you if u was Asian in the same circumstances he would have still cheated on you that u think her race played a part is a joke

[Asker]

I feel like it was our sex life, or lack of sex that drove him to cheat. The fact that she's Asian just makes this even worse because I know he prefers them over White women. I just feel completely lost and when I see Asians I just want to scream sometimes. I get so mad and I can't sleep.

[boggboss]

Agai u understand her being Asian had nothing to do with it right

[boggboss]

Or are u choosing to create a issue that's not there

[irifebeck]

Go get help. Talking to someone will help more than you think.

[tonamimargaux]

Why do you think Asians are a tough competition for you?

[Asker]

It's because my husband used to say how pretty he thought Asians were. I'm also gaining weight and we haven't had the best relationship. There's been a lot of issues and I know some of it is my fault.
He ended up sleeping with an ex girlfriend who's Asian and I just feel empty inside.
I've seen her and she's so cute and beautiful like you. I bet she even treats him better and he probably hates me now. I'm starting to hate Asians, I feel so messed up.

[tonamimargaux]

I understand this feeling of yours. We usually blame the person whom they choose to sleep with but isn’t it like more of their fault? A cheater is a cheater there’s no justification for that. A person who is incapable of being loyal will cheat on you even in your best body shape. I was a model and a host with a perfect body shape nearly killing myself starving all day to not gain weight and look attractive 24/7 365 days for my work and most importantly for him. Even then my exboyfriend cheated on me not once but thrice so it’s not our mistake it’s theirs. Please understand that. I loved him like anything sacrificed my bright career moved to a different city for him, even then he dumped me. Sometimes you can move mountains for them yet it won’t be enough for a cheater. So don’t blame yourself for him cheating on you. It’s him trust me when I say this it’s not you. Even Adam Levine cheated on his VS supermodel wife behati prinsloo. A cheater doesn’t need a reason he will cheat on you for absolutely nothing at all. by the way my ex cheated on me with another Asian as well and I am an Asian too yet I started hating my clan for quite a long time, but with time I understood it’s not about our ethnicity or us it’s them who decides to cheat on us and we should stop this self blame games and start looking at the picture that’s right intron of us and it would save us a lot of time and misery. Good luck xx

[skilled_jellyfish]

If he was stuck in a sexless marriage what do you expect to happen? On top of that you let yourself go.

You gotta lose the weight and regain your confidence to go and search for somebody new.

[Asker]

It's true, I really messed things up and I just didn't expect him to to do this. I definitely didn't think it would literally be my worst nightmare and he would choose an Asian woman over me.

[TroyDT2]

Cheaters cheat because that is their nature. If still with the POS, dump him and find someone worth the time. He's the garbage, not you.

[Asker]

I know you're right, but I feel so low after he chose an Asian woman over me.

[jshm2]

Eat more cheese before bedtime and address your racism.

[Anonymous]

I been going through that myself waking up with panick attacks anxiety nightmares i still haven't coped with it

[Asker]

Takes time I guess.

[Anonymous]

Go get yourself a BBC then rub it in his face

[Asker]

I'm not attracted to that.

[Opinion Owner]

OK a big muscular white guy. Then after you fuck him make sure your husband finds out. See how he likes it

[Asker]

I'm not into big muscular men, but either way my husband wouldn't care because if he cared about me he wouldn't have cheated. He has his beautiful Asian bitch now and he would probably be relieved if I moved on and left him alone.

[Opinion Owner]

Ohhhh I bet it would piss him off big time if you fucked a guy he is jealous of.. then you rub it in his face...
That's what I always did when my girlfriend cheated on me.. I fuck a girl she was jealous of then let her know. It really upset them.. then I dumped her

[peedy]

Go get a bottle of jack and deal with it

[FunkyMonkee]

Stop sleeping.

[Asker]

Kiss my pussy.

[FunkyMonkee]

LOVE to!! Whip it out, baby!!