Polls: Dating

Just wondering what guys prefer

My friend told me that my ex was on an app and i found out that he used a picture I took of him where he's driving and you can hardly see him since its zoomed in and all you can see is his jacket, my jacket and my hair. You can hardly see whats going on in the picture besides his arm up driving.
*He was the one that broke up with me and told me he's not going to be on a dating site for a very long time/ if ever and he needed to work on himself.

So I have an issue...
2 guys in my life have already ended things with me based on the issue of "maturity"
My ex-boyfriend (23) and a guy I dated briefly afterward (23).

-My ex-boyfriend and I were on and off for a while b/c of his commitment issues + he was unsure of me. He would end things and come back to me multiple times because "there were things he liked about me and things he didn't like" One of the things he didn't like was that I was younger, still in school, and didn't have as much life experience
-The guy I dated briefly went out with me for 4 dates. Later on, he confessed he didn't see us dating because "maturity-wise him and I were at different spots" He even gave an example of immaturity based on my part with the first time we kissed which was was "awkward and weird"

I am a 21-year old female that works two jobs, is in college full time, is saving up for an apartment for the end of the year, and I already have my career goals in mind.
I didn't date in high school because I wanted to focus on school and I also didn't even think guys liked me + I had very low self-esteem for dating
I just started seriously dating around 2 years ago... do you think because I dated later on in life that guys that are older think I'm immature? Do I just need more experience with dating?

I feel like for a 21-year-old female, I know myself pretty well. I'm loyal, sweet, caring. supportive, open-minded, creative, have hobbies and am social
However, I can also be emotional, sensitive, shy, passive-aggressive, needy, and sometimes lazy.

Is there something wrong with me or am I just picking wrong guys? Or maybe it's both...

I do not enjoy it. Whether it's with a possible romantic relationship or platonic relationship. Usually I do all the asking. It's so annoying. I wonder if it's just me. I've me this girl who never does the asking out!!! She always gets asked.

So I have this rule that I don’t match with people who put their Snapchat or Instagram in the bio. I just think it’s a sleazy thing to do and gives a terrible first impression. I was having this conversation with a girl friend of mine and she puts her info out for everyone to see then gives out when the good guys are not contacting her.

Does anyone else find it creepy weird and or disturbing that billy eilish’s brother is dating a girl that almost looks like his sister? Like ewk? How can you be sexually attracted to someone that looks like your sibling?

its so gross.
would you date someone that looks like your other or sister? Mom or dad?
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This question is inspired by a brief but humorous and honest conversation on a reality show between two people who are friends. I was surprised what they said/admitted to. I added some others to fill in to the 7 poll options available.

Go ahead, be honest. Polls are anonymous.

I've seen this question pop up here at least a couple of times, and I'm curious what the person is getting at when they ask.
I'd like to know how the majority votes so that I can give more informed advice to people, dating.

Scenario:
You met someone (either online or IRL.)
You're getting to know them.
It's in the early stages.
There has been interest, seemingly, on one or both sides.
Or you went out together, one or more times.
Or you hooked up.

You ask, "So, are you seeing anyone else?" (I use the word "else" because you to have just started something. But you don't know what it is yet.)

Why do you ask this?

Is it more often/likely that you want to know what their level of interest is in you, and if they are available, not committed or dating anyone else, and interested in being exclusive with you? You'd prefer being the only one.

Or is it more often/likely that you're just looking for hookups, and you want to know if the other person is seeing anyone else (or looking for any other potentials), which will tell you that you are not going to be exclusive, and will be free to see other people, yourself, simultaneously, as well?
You'd prefer you're NOT the only one.