Guys, would it make you feel inferior to date a woman who was rich?

[Flower7]

Yes

No

I'm a girl.

[MrOracle]

It wouldn't make me feel inferior as a person, but definitely from a financial and lifestyle point of view.

20 years ago, I was in another online forum and writing a detailed document to help explain some things to the community, and apparently my work had gotten some attention, because I had a few true experts in the field contact me about it to offer some additional data and to make a few minor corrections and criticisms, which I welcomed. But it also got me talking to a girl - a very smart and well-educated girl, and over time, we ended up working on the document together.

We ended up meeting, and it turns out that she was my type in virtually every way. HOWEVER, it also became clear, over time, that she had some pretty unusual experiences, especially at her age - things that tended to indicate some pretty substantial wealth. I come from a middle/lower-middle-class family who worked very hard and at times struggled to live a typical suburban middle-class lifestyle, but I don't normally care a lot about stuff like that - I'm about the person. Well, as we got to know each other better, I came to learn that not only was she wealthy, her parents had owned banks in Europe for generations, AND she was technically a princess, though she wasn't directly in line for ruling and had no interest in any of that.

What did get me thinking was that her parents had homes around the world - all in very wealthy, exclusive places, of course, and they had their own jets. She had been in the US for knee surgery at Stanford Medical Center ($$$$) due to a sports injury. I, on the other hand, was being prepared to be laid off as my job at the time was being moved from California to New York, and I had no desire to move with it. As a man, though, it wasn't at all difficult to see what kind of problems I would have trying to date a woman who was used to all the finest things and being able to do or go virtually anywhere at any time with no financial considerations. And even though she herself was overall very practical, I couldn't hope to ever match her level of lifestyle. Then, there was her family to consider: they would NEVER accept a middle-class college drop-out being with their daughter, who'd been educated in the best schools and who spoke 6 languages.

I killed any ideas of pursuing her romantically at that point, though we remained friends for several years before losing touch.

But, yes, at some point, money is going to be enough of an issue that it would cause problems for relationships, especially if it's the woman who has the money. For her, if she wanted to see her favorite band play, and they were only playing in Miami or New York, she'd just book a flight, a hotel, and car (all first class, of course) and go. I couldn't be that casual about much more than buying a cheeseburger at the time, so that's where the money issue would have been a problem.

[Flower7]

Wow, a princess! She's definitely the perfect person to give as an example for this question lol. That's sounds like a very nice life to be able to travel anytime an occasion came up, without even having to put much thought into it, such as how you mentioned going to see a band play in a far-away city.

[EyesOfGod]

In that situation i think anyone would feel inferior.

[ChocoBrownieMonster]

I wouldn't ask her for money so no, but if she wants to give me a car I'm okay with that. Id buy her a nice handbag

[Flower7]

That sounds like a good deal.

[ChocoBrownieMonster]

it's the thought that counts 😅

[Flower7]

Yeah, it really is. It's good that you would think to buy her something also, even though she has a lot of money. That's very considerate.

[ChocoBrownieMonster]

I'd also try to get her something money can't buy,

[OlderAndWiser]

Been there and done that several times.

[Adam1978]

No, first of all money doesn't make you superior by default. Even if you actually has earned the money by hard work, it will not make you superior to me, just richer. I don't place people above me, and I certainly don't like people trying to place themselves above me. They will always be running their own race besides me. If anyone is beneath me depends on their actions, such as being a criminal or other type of person I dislike. So you can be richer then me and still be beneath me. in my opinion.

[ChaoticVortex]

Money aside... if she respects my grind like I'll respect her's? We cool. I can love anyone. (Within my preference pool.) So when it comes down to it. If she got money and she falls for me, I ain't gonna be feeling immaculated. Thats gonna encourage me to wanna make money like her. I wouldn't even make sign a prenuptial on marriage day. Just out of respect for her. I dont want your money. I dont care about that. I gotta job baby, my hustle is my money. I just want to be loved like how I love. Thats it. She do that? We right as rain.

[Reaperbot666]

• depends if she earned the money herself and how she did.
• if it was family money from her parents or another relative.
• maybe she got it from a past breakup or lawsuit.

however most modern women tend not to date very far down. when it comes to income or wealth.

by very far I mean her partner makes half or less of their own income. or has half or less of her own wealth.

[Flower7]

The question is about a woman who actually wanted to date you.

[Reaperbot666]

if she showed interest in me. I would consider dating her. if I liked her personality and attitude. since I do not mind a woman having her own income. even if she makes a ton more then me.

[Jamie05rhs]

No. Because I already feel inferior to rich people. So if a rich girl wanted to date me, I guess I would just be pleasantly surprised but I would go with the flow. And I would feel greatly honored and very appreciative. And I honestly don't think there's a very high probability that it would be a scam. I'd have to believe her, because there would be no logical reason for her to be lying. Besides, the only scams like that that could be successful would be ones where the rich woman just wants to use the poor man's body for fun. But I don't have sex before marriage anyway, so there's zero risk on that front for me.

[Jamie05rhs]

And yes, I would sign a prenup. Lol. It's only fair.

[modelUN242]

lol that's a first, rich woman wanting to use a poor guy for fun

[Jamie05rhs]

@modelUN242 Are you being sarcastic? I can't tell.

[JackSmy]

Why? I only date ones that I like, HER, and WHO she is, and I don't even know what her financial status is, sometimes for months! If I got to know her, and was thinking I loved her, and then found out she was rich, SO WHAT?
Just because she is 'rich' doesn't mean I expect anything, or she should give anything!!
I'm not that shallow, and I care about HER, for HER, and how we relate.
I could imagine it might be a problem, later, if she shares too much, and pays for too much, and I don't want to just be that guy.

[Hermes-Paris]

All the rich women I have gone out with were always so busy and spend half the date on their phones. They half listen to your conversations and seem distracted all the time. But they say they're are looking for someone special. I guess I can take a hint. Good luck on that one. I'm looking for someone special too... who isn't on their phone 12 hours a day.

[Bellaco]

Lol of course they won't because now days men want to be the female in the relationship so he would be thinking ohh she will pay for my stuff be careful girls because I know a lot of women who get used for money and don't even realise because they to busy giving him money and playing the man role as the provider

[joe34Joe]

Rich or not

[Snickermarstwix]

Soooo... When a man dates a rich woman he's using her for money but when a man is the rich one he's a provider? Dafuck is that?

[Unit1]

OK, who hurt you? Do you have any names?

[nodnol32]

No. Either she's from a rich family or has worked hard for her money. I won't feel inferior. Everyone's life is different. Its her money, I'll date her for who she is as a person. Even if our relationship goes well, I'll never think of living off her money. I have my own thing going on and will work hard for whatever I can. I'll respect her and I'll want her to respect me.

[WadeDanielSmith2]

Yes, but I'd do it anyway. In fact I'd love to date a woman who is rich, and i don't even want her money, I just like the idea of a woman who can take care of herself.

[Flower7]

That's respectable. It's good that you would look at her qualities instead of wanting her money.

[SomeGuyCalledTom]

No it wouldn't.

However i wouldn't let her provide for me (outside of the usual stuff that any good girlfriend would do for her man).

I'd want her to see and understand that I'm my own man and am not reliant on her income to sustain myself.

[_SOARER]

All my girlfriends have come from wealthier families.
One of my girlfriends was insanely rich. I never felt inferior. Only problem we had was lack of understanding, when I was struggling to pay bills, she wouldn't understand that pressure or why I would take extra hours at work

[Thatsamazing]

I'm not lame-brained or limp-dicked enough to think that monetary wealth is the sole indicator of what makes a human being valuable, either myself or her, so no, I wouldn't care.

[Unit1]

Well said!

[MrMilti]

When I am able to snatch me a rich woman, why the hell should I be inferior? Thats badass awesome!

[Flower7]

True, if anything, you should take it as a compliment!

[mindNsoul]

I dont think they feel inferior. But some men link their masculinity and worth to being the main bread winner. Some men are providers and that's important to them.

[Jjpayne]

I'd say no. I'd just want to be in a place where I could do nice meaningful things for her as well. I don't want to drain her of money but be respectful of her and what she is offering

[Jjpayne]

One of my last dates, the girl actually had the most money and treated me tl dinner. But my focus was not, how much money can I get her to spend but how can i spend as much quality time with her. I feel the focus is important

[EyesOfGod]

Getting to the point of dating a woman who is rich is a up-mountain battle chances are like 1 in 100 million. Normally women would never date down. To women silly things like status and income are what matter. If he's poor, with a great attitude, and looks she'll be the one whose 1 night standing.

[93_n_on]

"inferior" lmao
No it wouldn't make feel that way or anything. I'd just want to have a relationship if we're compatible and all. Do the things we look for in each check out. Basically do we like each other and want to make things work. Things like interest, hobbies, looks, and all that matter. Is she loyal, passionate have class, etc. I'm not picking based off income but I'm sure others would try and make me feel some type of way if I did end up with a rich chick.

[andreasderjuengere]

Not inferior, but perhaps a little uncomfortable.
My own interests are very natural and simple. I am usually not attracted to stuff that 'the rich' waste their time on.

[Snickermarstwix]

Well that's a women problem, they don't want to "date down" so really if rich women may have some problem in dating life, it's because of them cause we don't give a single fuck about it. Why would it be problem "Oh noooo she makes expensive gifts and has a nice car noooo, my two weakness, I'm dying aaaaaargh!"