Guys, would it make you feel inferior to date a woman who was rich?

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MrOracle · Accepted Answer

It wouldn't make me feel inferior as a person, but definitely from a financial and lifestyle point of view.

20 years ago, I was in another online forum and writing a detailed document to help explain some things to the community, and apparently my work had gotten some attention, because I had a few true experts in the field contact me about it to offer some additional data and to make a few minor corrections and criticisms, which I welcomed. But it also got me talking to a girl - a very smart and well-educated girl, and over time, we ended up working on the document together.

We ended up meeting, and it turns out that she was my type in virtually every way. HOWEVER, it also became clear, over time, that she had some pretty unusual experiences, especially at her age - things that tended to indicate some pretty substantial wealth. I come from a middle/lower-middle-class family who worked very hard and at times struggled to live a typical suburban middle-class lifestyle, but I don't normally care a lot about stuff like that - I'm about the person. Well, as we got to know each other better, I came to learn that not only was she wealthy, her parents had owned banks in Europe for generations, AND she was technically a princess, though she wasn't directly in line for ruling and had no interest in any of that.

What did get me thinking was that her parents had homes around the world - all in very wealthy, exclusive places, of course, and they had their own jets. She had been in the US for knee surgery at Stanford Medical Center ($$$$) due to a sports injury. I, on the other hand, was being prepared to be laid off as my job at the time was being moved from California to New York, and I had no desire to move with it. As a man, though, it wasn't at all difficult to see what kind of problems I would have trying to date a woman who was used to all the finest things and being able to do or go virtually anywhere at any time with no financial considerations. And even though she herself was overall very practical, I couldn't hope to ever match her level of lifestyle. Then, there was her family to consider: they would NEVER accept a middle-class college drop-out being with their daughter, who'd been educated in the best schools and who spoke 6 languages.

I killed any ideas of pursuing her romantically at that point, though we remained friends for several years before losing touch.

But, yes, at some point, money is going to be enough of an issue that it would cause problems for relationships, especially if it's the woman who has the money. For her, if she wanted to see her favorite band play, and they were only playing in Miami or New York, she'd just book a flight, a hotel, and car (all first class, of course) and go. I couldn't be that casual about much more than buying a cheeseburger at the time, so that's where the money issue would have been a problem.

ChocoBrownieMonster · Accepted Answer

I wouldn't ask her for money so no, but if she wants to give me a car I'm okay with that. Id buy her a nice handbag

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Been there and done that several times.

Adam1978 · Answer

No, first of all money doesn't make you superior by default. Even if you actually has earned the money by hard work, it will not make you superior to me, just richer. I don't place people above me, and I certainly don't like people trying to place themselves above me. They will always be running their own race besides me. If anyone is beneath me depends on their actions, such as being a criminal or other type of person I dislike. So you can be richer then me and still be beneath me. in my opinion.

ChaoticVortex · Answer

Money aside... if she respects my grind like I'll respect her's? We cool. I can love anyone. (Within my preference pool.) So when it comes down to it. If she got money and she falls for me, I ain't gonna be feeling immaculated. Thats gonna encourage me to wanna make money like her. I wouldn't even make sign a prenuptial on marriage day. Just out of respect for her. I dont want your money. I dont care about that. I gotta job baby, my hustle is my money. I just want to be loved like how I love. Thats it. She do that? We right as rain.

Reaperbot666 · Answer

depends if she earned the money herself and how she did.
if it was family money from her parents or another relative.
maybe she got it from a past breakup or lawsuit.

however most modern women tend not to date very far down. when it comes to income or wealth.

by very far I mean her partner makes half or less of their own income. or has half or less of her own wealth.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

No. Because I already feel inferior to rich people. So if a rich girl wanted to date me, I guess I would just be pleasantly surprised but I would go with the flow. And I would feel greatly honored and very appreciative. And I honestly don't think there's a very high probability that it would be a scam. I'd have to believe her, because there would be no logical reason for her to be lying. Besides, the only scams like that that could be successful would be ones where the rich woman just wants to use the poor man's body for fun. But I don't have sex before marriage anyway, so there's zero risk on that front for me.

JackSmy · Answer

Why? I only date ones that I like, HER, and WHO she is, and I don't even know what her financial status is, sometimes for months! If I got to know her, and was thinking I loved her, and then found out she was rich, SO WHAT?
Just because she is 'rich' doesn't mean I expect anything, or she should give anything!!
I'm not that shallow, and I care about HER, for HER, and how we relate.
I could imagine it might be a problem, later, if she shares too much, and pays for too much, and I don't want to just be that guy.

Hermes-Paris · Answer

All the rich women I have gone out with were always so busy and spend half the date on their phones. They half listen to your conversations and seem distracted all the time. But they say they're are looking for someone special. I guess I can take a hint. Good luck on that one. I'm looking for someone special too... who isn't on their phone 12 hours a day.

Bellaco · Answer

Lol of course they won't because now days men want to be the female in the relationship so he would be thinking ohh she will pay for my stuff be careful girls because I know a lot of women who get used for money and don't even realise because they to busy giving him money and playing the man role as the provider

nodnol32 · Answer

No. Either she's from a rich family or has worked hard for her money. I won't feel inferior. Everyone's life is different. Its her money, I'll date her for who she is as a person. Even if our relationship goes well, I'll never think of living off her money. I have my own thing going on and will work hard for whatever I can. I'll respect her and I'll want her to respect me.

WadeDanielSmith2 · Answer

Yes, but I'd do it anyway. In fact I'd love to date a woman who is rich, and i don't even want her money, I just like the idea of a woman who can take care of herself.

SomeGuyCalledTom · Answer

No it wouldn't.

However i wouldn't let her provide for me (outside of the usual stuff that any good girlfriend would do for her man).

I'd want her to see and understand that I'm my own man and am not reliant on her income to sustain myself.

_SOARER · Answer

All my girlfriends have come from wealthier families.
One of my girlfriends was insanely rich. I never felt inferior. Only problem we had was lack of understanding, when I was struggling to pay bills, she wouldn't understand that pressure or why I would take extra hours at work

Thatsamazing · Answer

I'm not lame-brained or limp-dicked enough to think that monetary wealth is the sole indicator of what makes a human being valuable, either myself or her, so no, I wouldn't care.

MrMilti · Answer

When I am able to snatch me a rich woman, why the hell should I be inferior? Thats badass awesome!

mindNsoul · Answer

I dont think they feel inferior. But some men link their masculinity and worth to being the main bread winner. Some men are providers and that's important to them.

Jjpayne · Answer

I'd say no. I'd just want to be in a place where I could do nice meaningful things for her as well. I don't want to drain her of money but be respectful of her and what she is offering

EyesOfGod · Answer

Getting to the point of dating a woman who is rich is a up-mountain battle chances are like 1 in 100 million. Normally women would never date down. To women silly things like status and income are what matter. If he's poor, with a great attitude, and looks she'll be the one whose 1 night standing.

93_n_on · Answer

"inferior" lmao
No it wouldn't make feel that way or anything. I'd just want to have a relationship if we're compatible and all. Do the things we look for in each check out. Basically do we like each other and want to make things work. Things like interest, hobbies, looks, and all that matter. Is she loyal, passionate have class, etc. I'm not picking based off income but I'm sure others would try and make me feel some type of way if I did end up with a rich chick.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

Not inferior, but perhaps a little uncomfortable.  My own interests are very natural and simple. I am usually not attracted to stuff that 'the rich' waste their time on.

Snickermarstwix · Answer

Well that's a women problem, they don't want to "date down" so really if rich women may have some problem in dating life, it's because of them cause we don't give a single fuck about it. Why would it be problem "Oh noooo she makes expensive gifts and has a nice car noooo, my two weakness, I'm dying aaaaaargh!"

DavidDong · Answer

If you carry yourself with respect and have goals then, what's with you. You got places to go, she got places to go, the world must go round. Otherwise if your so dependant, you are inferior

QooLipBite · Answer

Funny enough, all the girls I have dated were wealthier than me. 😂  But that was because their parents were very wealthy.

AcidT0y · Answer

I probably wouldn't date one. I doubt I'd meet one at the places I frequent tbh 😂

myhaiva · Answer

Not really, but if I knew she was rich before dating, I'd probably be worried people think I am with her for her money. If I learned she was rich after enough dates, I wouldn't even care at all. Money is not everything.

Manab · Answer

It depends. If she isn't showing off too much money then only. I am not very fan of money as being into academics , I prefer to live simple life even if we have money..
As I have seen more , money sometimes corrupt women more than men... And mostly rich women are too much fake and entitled , show off types...

Shiningtempest · Answer

@flower7 I would feel inferior to date a woman who was rich because there's 95% chance she doesn't enjoy playing videogames.

venomhbk1313 · Answer

I would be afraid to date a woman who was rich because people would look at me and think that I'm only with her for her money I couldn't care less about money it's it's how a person treat you and also it's how they are on the inside has a person that counts

hellacray · Answer

Yeah I'll think about it when I actually cross that bridge.  I'm having a tough time picturing a rich woman dating someone that's a lot less wealthy than her.

chriscdi · Answer

i think the only problem here would be the guilt of her gifts, its resolvable by just telling her not to waste her money that her company is all i want, im still not sure it will work tho

NamerOfStars · Answer

Inferior? No. Poor? Yes. But the lack of money does that by itself. I have a feeling I wouldn't impress her much with it, though; not a big deal if she can look past it, but many women have trouble with that.

SirBearon · Answer

It would feel strange but not inferior. Women want to be equals. Have equal pay. Equal job market value. So, if they get paid let them get paid. It's all good now a days.

TaureanBull81 · Answer

It honestly wouldn't bother me if she was the bread winner in the relationship and earned more money than me 😊

apollo3000 · Answer

I believe it only works if he can at least comprehend her (family) background. Rich girls didn't become so by their parents being gamblers who just splash out. There is always more to the story.

Unit1 · Answer

It's a turn on! She can tell me how I can make increasingly more money and we'll be rich together. No money siphoning. No competition. 😍

TruthBringer · Answer

Was or still is rich? I wouldn't feel inferior because I make buck myself, but even if I didn't, I base my self worth on myself, not on what's in my pocket.

Nalix · Answer

If we're willing to date each other then clearly we both have something that the other is interested in, so no.

jamesgoldman · Answer

No... I can talk money all day long probably bore her if she's a trust fund heiress or something like that

vlx-na · Answer

No, I'd be nice even. At the very least that'd mean she's not with me for the money and I don't have to provide for her. Also, she could direct some opportunities my way.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

As long she isn't a total prick about having more money than me than I'm good.  I wish people understand life is far more than money. As long you have your needs, everything will be just fine.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

No, but I wouldn't be out for her money

ColHathi · Answer

Only if she'd look down on me for not making as much.

Grond21 · Answer

No, not at all. It would be an interesting experience

YHL6965 · Answer

No, I would just be like "Good for her" since I don't really care about money as long as I have enough to live.

worldscolide · Answer

No... But statistically speaking a rich woman won't go near a man who is not rich.. Hypergamy.. Where as men in general do not care how much a woman makes.

pizzalovershouse · Answer

Not less she was mean an put people down all the time

zagor · Answer

No, not in the least. Even less so if it was family money.

Daniel3035 · Answer

No, but I'm still the one putting her over my knee no matter what.

Dchrls78104 · Answer

No, it shouldn't; not if she were actually worth the dating.

VV3ZZY · Answer

I'd love to have a rich girl friend. Because I am broke. Lol

COMMODOREII · Answer

I would still date if you made more money than me. 😎😉

CharlieDMX · Answer

It would be great as long as she was not a demeaning person

Smirnoff23 · Answer

I'd still live off my own money what I earn is what I'm proud to have

Twalli · Answer

My family is if the 1%, so I am rich. I don't make any money, but the lifestyle is the same

BoxySama · Answer

Nope, you want a deep, I've got tons of lovin to share

cush_ebo · Answer

Providence don't make me inferior, knowledge can make me shut my ego. If she had plenty, let's multiply it. It's proven that rich people have less ideas than poor ones.

PaulyChicago · Answer

Why would I? I see everyone as an equal. We all have feelings.

GreenGold1992 · Answer

Nah, it's the thoughts and feelings that count, not the money

ettubrutus · Answer

Nah, she can spoil me if she wants too.

Lawrence2020 · Answer

If you value yourself you'll not be bothered about it.

Be4rdy · Answer

No. I dont date people for their material possessions

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