Polls: Dating

Guess which one I'd choose (if you know me)

if she says her nose is ugly will you now notice that it IS UGLY and find it a turn off?

is it better if we don't say these things?

for example I want to get a nose job, I don't like my nose but my boyfriend has never said anything about my nose, if I say it, will he then start to notice it? and find it attractive? therefore finding ME somewhat unattractive now?

let's say it's you and your girlfriend, would you now find it a turn off?

Which would you rather date?

(selective mutism is an anxiety disorder where a person is unable to speak in certain social situations)

of course, with time, they'd probably be able to speak somewhat more as time goes on and they become comfortable.

28F, growing up some family members would always talk about me having a boyfriend. I figured relationships would just happen naturally but not the case (at least for me). But dating always felt somewhat “meh” for me since then, not a priority & my mindset hasn’t changed much. In my early twenties I tried using the apps more frequently, to this day I don’t have an issue getting matches but finding someone just hasn’t happened. I’m told I’m attractive but I experience the common issues with lack of connection, fizzling out, ghosting etc. The last time I saw someone was in my early twenties but it felt like settling & I was glad when it ended. To this day I promise myself that I will stay alone until I meet someone that really checks my boxes and that seems to be how it’ll end for me considering I’m almost 30. Not sexual at all by any means either, is this lack of interest common? I worry mine is because of lack of success versus being genuinely disinterested

When guys find out I’ve done only fans

One of my friends told me that she's been dating this guy exclusively for 8 months, though they're not officially boyfriend and girlfriend.

This was strange to me, as my approach to dating is different. I prefer befriending the person first before deciding whether I like them romantically or not and if I do, I'd go on a date with them if the feeling's mutual. This process could take about 3-6 months. However, I decided to try dating through apps like Hinge.

I recently started going on dates with someone who I'd known for 3 weeks (we'd been on 3 dates so far). I'm unsure of when is an appropriate time to talk to my date about the status of our relationship and when it should become official.

Is 3 months of dating too soon to decide if it should be a serious relationship? Is 8 months too long that it becomes a situationship?

your Dream man

I noticed whenever someone asks a couple who met on a dating app they hesitate or seem embarrassed to admit it but when the couple meets through work or mutual friends or even through family friends they don’t seem embarrassed?

You two aren’t exclusive and haven’t had the relationship talk but you find out that while you two were getting to know each other and in the initial dating phase he slept with another girl