Can someone just not be interested in dating?

[Anonymous]

28F, growing up some family members would always talk about me having a boyfriend. I figured relationships would just happen naturally but not the case (at least for me). But dating always felt somewhat “meh” for me since then, not a priority & my mindset hasn’t changed much. In my early twenties I tried using the apps more frequently, to this day I don’t have an issue getting matches but finding someone just hasn’t happened. I’m told I’m attractive but I experience the common issues with lack of connection, fizzling out, ghosting etc. The last time I saw someone was in my early twenties but it felt like settling & I was glad when it ended. To this day I promise myself that I will stay alone until I meet someone that really checks my boxes and that seems to be how it’ll end for me considering I’m almost 30. Not sexual at all by any means either, is this lack of interest common? I worry mine is because of lack of success versus being genuinely disinterested

Yes

No

[TalynMere]

I always felt the same way. It was partly because of failure, but the failure and general lack of enthusiasm was because of other issues in my life that I wasn't capable of noticing.

It took a very long time for me to heal and be more invested in myself and others. Until that point I just didn't really understand what the big deal was. Noone ever really stoked strong enough feelings in me for me to really care.

Nothing swayed me, and even when I did try, I usually got insulted or if I had success, found myself getting distant and uninterested.

You do you, but I would suggest rethinking waiting around for the perfect person to come along. It's not fairytale magic, you have to contend with the real world, and that means getting outside your comfort zone to meet people you might not normally, and try to find the kinds of people you like.

You can intellectualize it and tell yourself you want X, or that you'll wait until Y, but that's not how it actually works. You have to open yourself up and let your body do some of the work instead of your head, and that can be extremely hard for some people.

[Hulk_kitty]

I am not interested in dating, too much hassle and hard work, rather do other things, than try to convince to chick to like or love me. The dating scene is too complicated for me now.

[Kathie93]

I don’t think so, maybe they have different priorities but not completely uninterested

[Anonymous]

It sounds like a mix of both failure and disinterest. But it's ok, you're far, far from being alone in this.

[Anonymous]

at least I'm not interested in dating...
I chase quick sex.

[Whatthefluff]

I feel like you’re asexual