if she says her nose is ugly will you now notice that it IS UGLY and find it a turn off?
is it better if we don't say these things?
for example I want to get a nose job, I don't like my nose but my boyfriend has never said anything about my nose, if I say it, will he then start to notice it? and find it attractive? therefore finding ME somewhat unattractive now?
let's say it's you and your girlfriend, would you now find it a turn off?