Polls: Dating

You hear it a lot women are unhappy in relationships and happier single and when they get divorced. Why do women bother dating?

12 years ago, I met her on a dating website. She was 33 and I was 27 back then. Went on 2 date and she invited me over to her place on the 2nd date, we kissed, that was it.

Fast forward to today, I messaged her on Instagram to see how she was doing. It took her over a year to reply. of course, I messaged back and we started talking again. swapped numbers and continued chatting on whatsapp.

We met up over coffee twice over 8 months and we both enjoyed each other company. We message each other everyday on whatsapp and it's usually 5 line message each time and there is always a follow-up questions like 'do you have anything planned this afternoon/morning?'.

We met up for coffee but we drove to a forest car park

It was quite a romantic moment for me but she explicitly explained that it was her way of relaxing and chatting to a trusted friend which I am okay with. She took off her shoes and made herself comfortable.

She asked me where do I see this relationship going. I hesitated and said something like "I want to see where this takes us" because she caught me off guard. Probably because I was brushing my fingers on her knees to see if she reacts. She said she is emotionally unavailable and that she wants to know me better.

We locked eyes for a few seconds, she smiled and I smiled. I attempted to go in for a kiss, I went in a little fast but I slowed down so she has time to process. Luckily she stopped me just before I kissed her. She said No so I backed out and apologised.

I apologised to her and explained I dont know why I did that then she responded "it was worth a try", It was awkward but we moved on.

When I dropped her off to her car, we gave each other a firm, pelvis to pelvis hug, not the lean hug.

It was a misread situation

I am even angrier with myself is that she explicitly told me she was unavailable 2 minutes before I tried to kiss her.

Girls, In this situation, what would you do? cut ties and walk away or give this friendship another chance?

I believe the issue is that women are encouraged to be self interested / selfish. It’s very much like put yourself first, never settle, do what makes you happy. I think that breeds singleness, childless women, single mothers, broken families and divorces. It is technology and social media that took women. Like suddenly no men are good enough for women, you can’t make them happy.

Women that made wives were selfless and self sacrificing that is not the message of today on women. I don’t even think it’s the fact that women work today and are more independent

Generally most men my age I feel like are single. I am, I wife prefer it from my last relationship. But it’s not optimum.

Supposedly this is a thing mainly women do. they don't actually use the apps to find dates but to get as many likes for the validation.

Have you ever done that?

P. S I am not going through any issues with love right now, I just wanted to ask this question to see what people in general think. I think the second option is true.

A scientific study suggests girls rate the body odour of guys that eat garlic as more pleasant and appealing.

The french have known for years that garlic is the true food of love.

But perhaps garlic shouldn't be eaten just before a date.

A nutritionist doctor of a healthy eating app has been compiling a list of best foods to eat and avoid before a date, and scientific evidence shows diet can influence factors relevant to first impressions.

Perhaps guys this is where we've been going wrong all this time, the girls want body odour lol.

What is your opinion?