Why does dating no longer work?

[Anonymous]

I believe the issue is that women are encouraged to be self interested / selfish. It’s very much like put yourself first, never settle, do what makes you happy. I think that breeds singleness, childless women, single mothers, broken families and divorces. It is technology and social media that took women. Like suddenly no men are good enough for women, you can’t make them happy.

Women that made wives were selfless and self sacrificing that is not the message of today on women. I don’t even think it’s the fact that women work today and are more independent

Generally most men my age I feel like are single. I am, I wife prefer it from my last relationship. But it’s not optimum.

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A total of 8 votes were cast: 4 girls and 4 guys. See detailed results

[CaribbeanPrincess91]

"Why does dating no longer work?" proceeds to provide the answer.

"I believe the issue is that women are encouraged to be self-interested / selfish." Actually, in our society, men are the ones who get to be self-interested and selfish. Take parenthood for an example, fatherhood is often optional for men. Many men leave raising the children you both created, to women. In marriages, women often experience a phenomenon women call a, "married single mother", where women are expected to take care of the children, keep the house clean and organized, provide meals for her family, and most of the time, plan the events for the family, keep track of appointments and other important information such as kids birthdays, allergies, etc. And give her body to her husband when he asks. Meanwhile men just go to work and do some handywork around the house. Many men aren't present fathers or good husbands. Marriage benefits men, always has. Marriage for women is legalized slavery and sexwork.

"It’s very much like put yourself first, never settle, do what makes you happy." Should we put ourselves last? What are you trying to say? Women always put themselves last and often forget to pour into their own cups. I think what's happening here is that since women have come to realize the truth about what it means to be in a relationship and that it isn't worth it, men are angry that we are choosing ourselves and not them. We are putting ourselves first, never settling for dusty men, being happy, and thriving doing so. We never needed men but men need us otherwise there wouldn't be a "male loneliness epidemic."

"I think that breeds singleness, childless women, single mothers, broken families and divorces." Wow, blame women for everything why don't you? Women are often the ones who are granted full custody of their kids and raise them, while men get to enjoy being single. Men are the ones unaliving their entire families. Most divorces occur because the husband cheats on his wife or isn't being a good partner. So, men actually are mainly the ones breaking families and with all she has to tolerate from him, wants the divorce. Women being single, childless, and divorced isn't seen as something bad, we actually prefer those things. As for single motherhood, women would rather spend her energy raising her actual children than having to take care of her adult child of a husband.

"It is technology and social media that took women." Thank goodness, we are tired of being your breeding machines, maids, cooks, sex worker, and childcare worker.

"Like suddenly no men are good enough for women, you can’t make them happy." A lot of men go for women who are out of their tax bracket and league. If you can match her in accomplishments and ambition, then she might consider you. We don't want to build a man, those days are well over. Do the work yourselves. Stop being misogynistic and crying on the internet and work on yourself, then maybe you will meet your match. The mere fact that you are in here asking this means that you know you don't have much to offer women.

[lilBigPotato]

Nonsense. If you look at the statistics, from people 18-29 almost twice as many women are in a relationship compared to men. 2/3 of women are taken vs 1/3 of men. It's the exact opposite of what you say. Just because women can have a career in this day and age and have children later and have more rights doesn't mean they prefer to be single. But we have choice and people with you mindset have less chance.

[lilBigPotato]

Your*

[Nikki1989]

It works just fine for everyone I know.

Sorry to hear your life is such a disaster.

[Anonymous]

People behave differently at different times in history.

[NathanDavis]

it works for me, no issues there

[slatyb]

In other words you expect much but offer little.

[Anonymous]

It doesn't for you. Just you.

[In_Trance]

You're doing it wrong