Did I ruin our renewed friendship by trying to kiss her?

[Hobbert]

12 years ago, I met her on a dating website. She was 33 and I was 27 back then. Went on 2 date and she invited me over to her place on the 2nd date, we kissed, that was it.

Fast forward to today, I messaged her on Instagram to see how she was doing. It took her over a year to reply. of course, I messaged back and we started talking again. swapped numbers and continued chatting on whatsapp.

We met up over coffee twice over 8 months and we both enjoyed each other company. We message each other everyday on whatsapp and it's usually 5 line message each time and there is always a follow-up questions like 'do you have anything planned this afternoon/morning?'.

We met up for coffee but we drove to a forest car park

It was quite a romantic moment for me but she explicitly explained that it was her way of relaxing and chatting to a trusted friend which I am okay with. She took off her shoes and made herself comfortable.

She asked me where do I see this relationship going. I hesitated and said something like "I want to see where this takes us" because she caught me off guard. Probably because I was brushing my fingers on her knees to see if she reacts. She said she is emotionally unavailable and that she wants to know me better.

We locked eyes for a few seconds, she smiled and I smiled. I attempted to go in for a kiss, I went in a little fast but I slowed down so she has time to process. Luckily she stopped me just before I kissed her. She said No so I backed out and apologised.

I apologised to her and explained I dont know why I did that then she responded "it was worth a try", It was awkward but we moved on.

When I dropped her off to her car, we gave each other a firm, pelvis to pelvis hug, not the lean hug.

It was a misread situation

I am even angrier with myself is that she explicitly told me she was unavailable 2 minutes before I tried to kiss her.

Girls, In this situation, what would you do? cut ties and walk away or give this friendship another chance?

Yes

No

A total of 2 votes were cast: 1 girls and 1 guys. See detailed results

[OneViewpoint]

Hey, if you want a female buddy for small talk about the weather, go for it. If you want something else, why waste your time with Debbie Downer when you could be using that time with someone who isn't "emotionally unavailable"? I don't even understand why you stayed hooked after years and then months response times. I don't understand why she even bothered to respond after a year or 8 months. Seems fucked up to me.

[Anonymous]

Crazy how someone read all that and managed to answer in less than one minute 😂

Considering it took her a year to answer your message, ot should not surprise you she is unabailable but you weren't really ever just friends to begin with so you can't ruin that aspect.

[moddy_the_mod]

why waste your time with her?

[Anonymous]

Probably