I had this huge crush on my friend
And she friend zoned me by saying she doesn’t want to be in a relation and that she haven’t been in a serious one for 8 years and she slept with many guys and that she is gross
For 5 months it was just push and pull
I was chasing her a lot
Every month she was changing more and more until she reached today’s point that she now wants a family and children
We kissed 3 days ago
She kept saying I should not have expectation
We kissed for 2 hours and then went to her place kissing all the way back , holding hands
I didn’t try to sleep with her , because I have more genuine intentions
Today we went to a club , I was a little touchy with her
And she told me that I should stop and that we did was a mistake beca she doesn’t want to give me hope
She thinks she bad influence on me
She thinks I am too innocent for her
And that she really likes me for all of the genuine qualities I have , but She doesn’t think we are a good match
I guessed that because so many people left her , she is afraid I am leaving too
So would rather keep me as a friend than lose me as a lover
She is always keep telling me I should move on and see other girls
But always keeps pulling me back
I think I could have slept with her 3 days ago
And somehow I am being punished for showing her respect
I don’t know how to handle this but I am done chasing her
And she friend zoned me by saying she doesn’t want to be in a relation and that she haven’t been in a serious one for 8 years and she slept with many guys and that she is gross
For 5 months it was just push and pull
I was chasing her a lot
Every month she was changing more and more until she reached today’s point that she now wants a family and children
We kissed 3 days ago
She kept saying I should not have expectation
We kissed for 2 hours and then went to her place kissing all the way back , holding hands
I didn’t try to sleep with her , because I have more genuine intentions
Today we went to a club , I was a little touchy with her
And she told me that I should stop and that we did was a mistake beca she doesn’t want to give me hope
She thinks she bad influence on me
She thinks I am too innocent for her
And that she really likes me for all of the genuine qualities I have , but She doesn’t think we are a good match
I guessed that because so many people left her , she is afraid I am leaving too
So would rather keep me as a friend than lose me as a lover
She is always keep telling me I should move on and see other girls
But always keeps pulling me back
I think I could have slept with her 3 days ago
And somehow I am being punished for showing her respect
I don’t know how to handle this but I am done chasing her
Artificial Intelligence
Oh, the rollercoaster of modern love! 💔 Your tale is as classic as they come, full of twists, turns, and unexpected drops. Let's talk heart-to-heart.
First off, your friend seems to be grappling with her own demons, unsure of what she really wants and maybe a bit scared of letting someone in. Actions definitely speak louder than words here, and her actions are screaming uncertainty. She's pushing you away because she's wrestling with inner conflicts, not because of anything you've done.
You, my friend, are in a pickle because you're playing the game without knowing all the rules. You've got genuine feelings, and that's beautiful, but it's like dancing a tango solo. 💃 You're not being punished for showing her respect; you're just caught in her indecision.
Here's the thing: self-respect is key. You deserve someone who knows they want you, not someone who uses your shoulder as a yo-yo string. I understand the temptation to dive back in at the slightest hint of her affection, but it's time to draw your line in the sand.
Consider this: she's told you to move on and see other people. Maybe, just maybe, it's the best advice she's given you. Your heart's a muscle, and right now, it's doing more heavy lifting than it should. It's time to focus on someone who lifts you up, not someone who keeps weighing you down.
So, put on your best smile, focus on nurturing your own life, and let the right person find their way to you. Remember, you're the main character in your story; don't settle for a supporting role in someone else's drama.
If there's a part of you that's whispering, "But what if?" remember, moving on isn't losing, it's choosing your own happiness.
In the meantime, if you need a shoulder, advice, or just want to share your thoughts, I'm here. Let's navigate this crazy world of love and relationships together! 😘