Polls: Dating

There have been a few times in my life where I dated women who had “school girl” crushes on me. However they later quickly bailed when they got to know the real me.

I am not a psycho or anything. I am definitely a deep thinker and can be sensitive about things. I got some depression but I’ve always been independent both financially and emotionally. I get support from friends but I know it’s ultimately up to me to fix my own issues.

Anyway I’ve improved on how showed my lesser sides to women as I have gotten older. Gotten better at being careful about what emotions I will show women vs. which ones I’ll keep a lid on. Especially when it comes to insecurities

But I can remember dating a few women in the past who were initially head over heels for me because of the fantasy they had in their head about who they thought I was. Sure it felt good initially. They often pursued me and made dating easy. No problem getting laid in that scenario (usually their idea). They also would act seemingly supportive and tolerant of my personality. But this always ended bad. Very bad. One girl ghosted me after dating for 9 f*cking months. And all while I was dating I was aware they might just be daydreaming only to do a 180 later when their “emotions” changed.

But there have been a few women I pursued just to discover issues with them later that was less than pleasant. It was a turn off but I never did a quick 180 immediately just because they didn’t match up to the original image I had of them in my head.

The question arose whether guys would prefer to date a woman younger or older, I expressed my opinion, and some whippersnapper" called me "ignorant." So please tell me the answer, guys and girls! Would you prefer to date someone younger or older? (Please assume that the younger person has at least reached the age of consent.)

I mean where the person has committed a violent crime. Say why you would or why you would not in the comments section.

I have a job and a good amount of money. I just don't know where I want to live yet... but when the living situation question comes up this definitely turns off more women than it doesn't... So it's clearly a problem. I mean I plan on changing things in the next few months, but I am just figuring out what.

Someone - who shall remain nameless - just posted a reply that says they don't think anyone dates exclusively. I think that statement is false. I think that people who have been hurt in a dating relationship like to get attention by complaining about how awful dating is. But happily dating couples don't draw attention to themselves, so it may appear that no one dates exclusively, but. . . if no one dated exclusively, then no one would ever get married. . . right?

So, how about you? If you are dating and you find someone who meets your criteria, are you willing to agree to date each other exclusively or would you prefer to remain uncommited and keep your options open?