Polls: Dating

My girlfriend knows how much I hate that she has male friends. I’ve told her how much it bothers me because these guys are just trying to hook up with her. Her response is “I’m so hot everyone wants me”. We’ve gotten into arguments about it in the past, but I let it go.

Last week she mentioned one of her guy friends is coming into town. And that she’s going to meet up with him. I lost my temper and accused her of cheating. We ended up in a huge argument but met up the next day like nothing happened. My girlfriend does do a lot for me but I’m still very uncomfortable with her male friends. Also, I haven’t seen any solid evidence that she’s cheating.

I’m so hung up on this girl that the thought of her with another man makes me go crazy. I know if we break up I’ll need mental therapy.

A few years ago I was in between jobs and had a lot of free time. I talked a lot to a girl on Tumblr until she decided to start working on a cam site. I followed her there, but after she left the site I stayed. I ended up meeting another girl who was working on the site to pay for college. We decided to end the sexual component quickly as it was making things awkward. A year passed and we became very close. We talked for hours almost every day on the site, in messages, and in Skype calls. She left the cam site just before graduation and I left with her. She trusted me enough to eventually give me all of her personal info. It's now been 3.5 years and we are still Skyping 2-3 time per week and talking a lot in texts. We know everything about each other. She is basically the girl of my dreams. She's more beautiful than any girl iv'e ever met, smart, funny, courageous, I can go on and on. The problem is, she has over 50 recorded sex videos online. Her name was exposed by a guy that harassed her in the past. If you search her full name, you can find everything. I know most of these videos will never disappear, and it's already been found by many of her friends, sister, and mother. I come from a very conservative family and they would never accept her past. As the years pass, more and more videos are posted. Every new video kills me a little more inside. I worry how this would impact our future. We don't live in the same country, so a real relationship will require complete investment. When i'm in doubt, we see each other in Skype and all the doubts disappear. She makes me more happy than anyone else ever has, and she understands me like nobody ever has. I'm not really thinking of ending things with her, I'm just curious what others think. Any input, experiences, or advice would be helpful. Thanks.

So my question is:
Would you date someone who previously worked on a cam site, if they were basically the girl/guy of your dreams?

What about a woman that you meet online (but have not met in person) who almost immediately begins calling you things like "darling, sweetie, " etc? I consider this a MAJOR red flag (Catfish or Borderline Personality Disorder) but I have friends, both male and female, on and off here, who disagree quite vigorously.

I take the opinions of my friends quite seriously, and I would hate to make an error by dumping someone that I could have had a great relationship with. I will absolutely consider and also greatly appreciate the opinions of as many people here, (both men and women) as possible. Thank you!

I took the girl I'm seeing out on her birthday and we had a great time.
Two days later I called her, she called me back an explained that she was out eating with her two kids and their father celebrating her birthday and that she'd call me back. Which she did. Afterwards he did stop by her place to spend time with his kids.
I played everything cool. But is this really part of co parenting? She has in her past assured me her disdain of doing the co parenting and meeting up with the father and says she does it just for the kids. I do show her support on that.
But I do admit going out to eat or doing other things "together" does bother me, before I explain this to her I want to know other opinions what should I expect from her co parenting with the father of her kids. I don't want to be selfish and force something on her kids but I also feel that if they her and their father are not together then they are going to have to know eventually.
Should I expect her to tell me everything that they do or when or where they go? Should I trust her enough to where I shouldn't worry.