What drives the urge to have a relationship: companionship or sex drive?

[ThatNoUVAtYourEyes]

Neither.
That's what I was facing today - all these people wanting to just lump me together with someone.
It's a quest/search for companionship, sexual attraction, mental and emotional affinity, compatible values and goals (if it is to last).
Otherwise, you can get together with just someone (or somebody). But the agendas and then the cheating, or simply different mental abilities/IQs too different - it doesn't work.
People with baggage make bad dates, unless you have had similiar experiences and understand each other.

[brianwong007]

Like when you're parents and siblings don't go along with you, their believe system are different from you, that's where finding someone who can truly understand and love you comes to play , this is what I stand for.
Sex is about sharing experience for each other, you can also have very intimate relationship without sex, it's doesn't matter if the person believes or ideas is different for you to truly fall in love.
And yes, your parents and siblings will always have a different idea of what you do, because families will always be families.

[Sarahr123]

I just need a Punjabi Khatri (Punjabi Hindu) to give me a child or two and their name to my child or any Hindu man and then they can go their own way. I need kids, I don’t need companionship. Men eventually hurt you and I am not in the mood to put up with that.

[designer1]

Honestly, both equally for me. It probably varies depending on who you’re talking to.

[MrOracle]

Both. Obviously the sex drive is a thing, but there's far more hours in the day that you can't be having sex, and it's fantastic to have a great partner to share ALL aspects of life with.

[Browneye57]

Both. You really can't have one without the other, unless it's just a fling. Even then, you really can't get naked and do it over and over with someone and not get feelings. Well, unless you're just cold-hearted. Or dead. LOL
It's the way our brains are wired, our lizard brain, for the best outcome for the resultant offspring.

[Xylem1992]

Well its both. I think when you're younger its leaning more towards the sex drive and as you age maybe you dont care about sex as much and companionship side kind of overtakes. Of course its not an entirely linear process nor its applicable to every individual.

[Zantagio1]

Emotions and Sex drive work hand and hand in a relationship.
Sexual attraction is great, but it becomes dull if the person you're attracted to is a piece of crap.

Wise man once said "It isn't about the boobs, but who the boobs are attatched to" [Just funny internet joke but it fits here]

[Luopio27]

Without sexual bonding, a relationships are friendships.


To keep a long lasting, happy companionship, there has to be something more than sex drive.

[ChrisMaster69]

Mainly emotional connection, the can be companionship, however it’s more than simply physical.

Sex does come in to it, as often this helps increase the level of emotional connection.

[PoliteSpeaker]

Both. You are transmuting your sex emotion into other emotions or desires. But the sex emotion is at the root giving action to mankind. Which is why if you cut a dogs balls off they become... Well docile and calmer. And if no sex emotion was in them at all... Well. They would become nothing but stone. Okay I need to do more studying on the topic, but those are my thoughts currently, before I can firmly stand by what I've said.

[libsaretards]

For me it is companionship. If I wanted sex and nothing more I'd find an escort. A relationship is meant to have an equal and loving partner who will always share trials with me and I can do the same for her.

[humpbackjack]

I’d say for most men it at least to starts off it’s about 40% to 85% sex drive and the rest companionship and then depending on how things go is where those percentages wind up and I’m guessing roughly the opposite for women except for the part of where things go I feel like most women are pretty much consistent staying with companionship

[TheSpaceGnome]

Boredom, sex drive, lonliness when it comes to relatability, companionship, backup in emergencies, stress relief, comfort, and probably others things as well.

[poneglyphs]

A mix of both but I want someone to bond with, kiss, hold hands, and cuddle. I also want sex too and have lots of it but that isn't my main reason for finding someone.

[jspl90]

companionship surely? you have sex without a relationship but what would be the point in being in a relationship just for sex

[clampfan101]

Which drives it more so depends on the person. I’m driven mostly by companionship, but there’s always the sex drive as a co pilot. It’s human nature to greatly desire both.

[Anonymous]

Honestly it's a sex drive the long turn Drive is companionship.

[exitseven]

I used to think it was companionship but lately I think it is for the sex.

[VanillaSalt]

For me neither it’s children. Companionship used to be important to me but most women arnt really that impressive to me so children’s all the value a woman would bring to my life anymore.

[noohair]

Sending genetic information to the next generation.

[LisaRaven]

Companionship, yes my body tries to rebel on me at times, but I look more for a nice guy to spend time with more than sex.

[Anonymous]

i want someone with whom I can share career ambitions with, a similar way of raising children, a travel buddy, etc

[lsksni]

Both. But, sex can be had by different means. I think companionship triggers it more.

[Jamie05rhs]

Companionship. I can easy whack off anytime I want to.

[emilym12345]

Ugh you can have sex without a relationship. You can have these people you call friends and have companionship.


Love should be your drive. If not then don’t have a commitment.


Some people use money and status.

[GreenGold1992]

Depending on the person, could be one or the other or even both

[MissStrawberry912]

Find my soul mate & want to find love and be loved in return in many forms.

[DizzyDesii]

Mutual emotional support, wanting to love and be loved, and creation of offspring

[kyleelyn199723]

I’m the end it all comes down to companionship and who you meet. Sex drive fuels people to have sex

[Chthou95]

People are full of shit lol. Of course the sex drive starts it. We're animals and animals have primal instincts ingrained into the brain

[t-8900]

Both. I need emotional and spiritual cultivation and of course I want to have sex but only with the person I love

[Asianguy123]

When I was young it’s sex drive. But now companionship

[es20490446e]

https://youtu.be/_QJpLcFpkWs

[Dchrls78104]

Any man could visit a prostitute if all he wanted was Sex; people seeking relationships do so out of a desire for Companionship.

[Cowboy6666]

If couple have chemistry, open mindedness and loyalty

[joshctlee]

The fact all our friends and family are happily in relationships and we’re not

[Anonymous]

As of the time of writing of this message, 69% of men selected companionship. Ironic, isn't it?

[jim009]

Biology and social norms say both!

[Brown-Kitty]

A little of companionship and more of sex drive.

[Anonymous]

To be close with someone who i can trust and confide in

[Iron_Man]

Desire for the opposite sex

[alance99]

More of companionship and a bit of sex

[EQisKEY]

Companionship... Obviously, lol

[Djaay]

GODS intentional design of both male and female.

[Deserter]

She's hot and I like her personality ig

[msc545]

Both companionship and sex I think.

[Better_off_here]

for me it is campaninship.

[Anonymous]

Both, but sex comes first.

[Eleni01]

Currently it’s my sex drive.

[KevnHanma]

Companionships are for war and pets I want ass

[Phoenix98]

Our nature.

[K-I-S-S]

Fascination

[indigomarine91]

Both

[Wise4myage]

Sex.

[Yaharro]

Loneliness

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Sex.

[Hangry06]

S3X..

[jimmy2]

Its how God made us

[Abdulwahh]

Hormones too

[Anonymous]

Driver San Francisco

[EaterPeter]

Stupidity

[Pterodon]

Both

[Renadesu]

Loneliness