What drives the urge to have a relationship: companionship or sex drive?

[Dsg1193]

Companionship

Sex drive

[ThatNoUVAtYourEyes]

Neither.
That's what I was facing today - all these people wanting to just lump me together with someone.
It's a quest/search for companionship, sexual attraction, mental and emotional affinity, compatible values and goals (if it is to last).
Otherwise, you can get together with just someone (or somebody). But the agendas and then the cheating, or simply different mental abilities/IQs too different - it doesn't work.
People with baggage make bad dates, unless you have had similiar experiences and understand each other.

[brianwong007]

Like when you're parents and siblings don't go along with you, their believe system are different from you, that's where finding someone who can truly understand and love you comes to play , this is what I stand for.
Sex is about sharing experience for each other, you can also have very intimate relationship without sex, it's doesn't matter if the person believes or ideas is different for you to truly fall in love.
And yes, your parents and siblings will always have a different idea of what you do, because families will always be families.

[Sarahr123]

I just need a Punjabi Khatri (Punjabi Hindu) to give me a child or two and their name to my child or any Hindu man and then they can go their own way. I need kids, I don’t need companionship. Men eventually hurt you and I am not in the mood to put up with that.

[sumayathemagi]

So, you are a lesbian

[Sarahr123]

@sumayathemagi where the hell did you assume that?

[sumayathemagi]

Because lesbian and feminist hate men.

[Sarahr123]

@sumayathemagi Well you’re pretty damn stupid to assume any of the two from that. Obviously if I want to marry and then divorce for kids I have to have sex with some man. If I were a lesbian I would not have sex with a man. Why would I want to stay with some man for 20+ years where eventually he will end up cheating on me? It’s better I get rid after five years and focus on raising my child.

[sumayathemagi]

Majority of women cheat, but majority of men are loyal. It’s better to find a loyal man

[sumayathemagi]

Even I am searching for a loyal heterosexual woman

[Sarahr123]

@sumayathemagi I know some women cheat but the way it is made out to look, it seems like a lot of men cheat too. If I were to feel safe and secure and as if I could completely trust someone then it’d be a different story but I don’t think that will ever be the case so I’ll need to make a child somehow and then I don’t mind being single forever.

[sumayathemagi]

if you get a loyal man then?

[Sarahr123]

@sumayathemagi If I get a loyal man whom I am in love with then obviously I will marry them and as long as they don’t break the boundaries of fidelity the marriage will stay safe. As soon as the boundaries are broken I will cut the poisonous cancer out of my life. Simple.

[sumayathemagi]

I am also looking for a loyal wife.
Can we get to know each other?

[designer1]

Honestly, both equally for me. It probably varies depending on who you’re talking to.

[MrOracle]

Both. Obviously the sex drive is a thing, but there's far more hours in the day that you can't be having sex, and it's fantastic to have a great partner to share ALL aspects of life with.

[PoliteSpeaker]

Both. You are transmuting your sex emotion into other emotions or desires. But the sex emotion is at the root giving action to mankind. Which is why if you cut a dogs balls off they become... Well docile and calmer. And if no sex emotion was in them at all... Well. They would become nothing but stone. Okay I need to do more studying on the topic, but those are my thoughts currently, before I can firmly stand by what I've said.

[humpbackjack]

I’d say for most men it at least to starts off it’s about 40% to 85% sex drive and the rest companionship and then depending on how things go is where those percentages wind up and I’m guessing roughly the opposite for women except for the part of where things go I feel like most women are pretty much consistent staying with companionship

[Browneye57]

Both. You really can't have one without the other, unless it's just a fling. Even then, you really can't get naked and do it over and over with someone and not get feelings. Well, unless you're just cold-hearted. Or dead. LOL
It's the way our brains are wired, our lizard brain, for the best outcome for the resultant offspring.

[Xylem1992]

Well its both. I think when you're younger its leaning more towards the sex drive and as you age maybe you dont care about sex as much and companionship side kind of overtakes. Of course its not an entirely linear process nor its applicable to every individual.

[Zantagio1]

Emotions and Sex drive work hand and hand in a relationship.
Sexual attraction is great, but it becomes dull if the person you're attracted to is a piece of crap.

Wise man once said "It isn't about the boobs, but who the boobs are attatched to" [Just funny internet joke but it fits here]

[VanillaSalt]

For me neither it’s children. Companionship used to be important to me but most women arnt really that impressive to me so children’s all the value a woman would bring to my life anymore.

[LisaRaven]

Companionship, yes my body tries to rebel on me at times, but I look more for a nice guy to spend time with more than sex.

[yofuknutz]

What happens to the bad guy then

[LisaRaven]

The bad guy?

[yofuknutz]

Well they say that bad guys get the sex and the good guys get the companionship but that's what they claim and you know how THEY are.

[LisaRaven]

Ah, well THEY can do what THEY want

[yofuknutz]

Hahahaha, nice comeback I like that they should make that into a pickup line or a t-shirt

[ChrisMaster69]

Mainly emotional connection, the can be companionship, however it’s more than simply physical.

Sex does come in to it, as often this helps increase the level of emotional connection.

[emilym12345]

Ugh you can have sex without a relationship. You can have these people you call friends and have companionship.


Love should be your drive. If not then don’t have a commitment.


Some people use money and status.

[libsaretards]

For me it is companionship. If I wanted sex and nothing more I'd find an escort. A relationship is meant to have an equal and loving partner who will always share trials with me and I can do the same for her.

[MissStrawberry912]

Find my soul mate & want to find love and be loved in return in many forms.

[VanillaSalt]

I’m curious… you want this but how often do you go out with a man? How loose are your standards to getting to know them? How easy is it to quit after you find someone? All personal questions but I find women are the main cause of their own loneliness. They refuse to date the guy who’s unattractive but to women 80% of men are unattractive and let’s be fair… any man dating you will be your age or older probably… 10-15 years them looks are gone. Are you going to possibly wake up and decide he’s not good enough? Are you actively seeking a good man and this don’t mean sitting in the corner or a bar but starting conversation with random men you might connect with?

[yofuknutz]

This is the elephant in the room we are all facing Extinction one way or the other. Don't add to it

[DizzyDesii]

Mutual emotional support, wanting to love and be loved, and creation of offspring

[t-8900]

Both. I need emotional and spiritual cultivation and of course I want to have sex but only with the person I love

[kyleelyn199723]

I’m the end it all comes down to companionship and who you meet. Sex drive fuels people to have sex

[TheSpaceGnome]

Boredom, sex drive, lonliness when it comes to relatability, companionship, backup in emergencies, stress relief, comfort, and probably others things as well.

[poneglyphs]

A mix of both but I want someone to bond with, kiss, hold hands, and cuddle. I also want sex too and have lots of it but that isn't my main reason for finding someone.

[kitty71]

I agree but u are still young im not

[poneglyphs]

@kitty71 okay, does it matter the age?

[jspl90]

companionship surely? you have sex without a relationship but what would be the point in being in a relationship just for sex

[Luopio27]

Without sexual bonding, a relationships are friendships.


To keep a long lasting, happy companionship, there has to be something more than sex drive.

[clampfan101]

Which drives it more so depends on the person. I’m driven mostly by companionship, but there’s always the sex drive as a co pilot. It’s human nature to greatly desire both.

[Anonymous]

Honestly it's a sex drive the long turn Drive is companionship.

[es20490446e]

https://youtu.be/_QJpLcFpkWs

[Dchrls78104]

Any man could visit a prostitute if all he wanted was Sex; people seeking relationships do so out of a desire for Companionship.

[exitseven]

I used to think it was companionship but lately I think it is for the sex.

[Anonymous]

i want someone with whom I can share career ambitions with, a similar way of raising children, a travel buddy, etc

[lsksni]

Both. But, sex can be had by different means. I think companionship triggers it more.

[Jamie05rhs]

Companionship. I can easy whack off anytime I want to.

[PoliteSpeaker]

Both. You are transmuting your sex emotion into other emotions or desires. But the sex emotion is at the root giving action to mankind. Which is why if you cut a dogs balls off they become... Well docile and calmer. And if no sex emotion was in them at all... Well. They would become nothing but stone. Okay I need to do more studying on the topic, but those are my thoughts currently, before I can firmly stand by what I've said.

[Jamie05rhs]

Dude, you said the exact same thing in your own comment.

[Cowboy6666]

If couple have chemistry, open mindedness and loyalty

[Anonymous]

As of the time of writing of this message, 69% of men selected companionship. Ironic, isn't it?

[yofuknutz]

Should I get you a Kleenex box and I get myself Scott towel to wipe tears away it seems to be like that at this point

[Opinion Owner]

@yofuknutz That would be very much appreciated, sir.

[yofuknutz]

Well out of toilet paper so I guess a Scott towel it is things are really fucked up or wait a minute have they always been fucked up and now you see it for what it really is?

[Chthou95]

People are full of shit lol. Of course the sex drive starts it. We're animals and animals have primal instincts ingrained into the brain

[GreenGold1992]

Depending on the person, could be one or the other or even both

[noohair]

Sending genetic information to the next generation.

[joshctlee]

The fact all our friends and family are happily in relationships and we’re not

[Brown-Kitty]

A little of companionship and more of sex drive.

[Asianguy123]

When I was young it’s sex drive. But now companionship

[Anonymous]

To be close with someone who i can trust and confide in

[jim009]

Biology and social norms say both!

[Iron_Man]

Desire for the opposite sex

[alance99]

More of companionship and a bit of sex

[EQisKEY]

Companionship... Obviously, lol

[Deserter]

She's hot and I like her personality ig

[msc545]

Both companionship and sex I think.

[Djaay]

GODS intentional design of both male and female.

[Hangry06]

S3X..

[Better_off_here]

for me it is campaninship.

[Anonymous]

Both, but sex comes first.

[Eleni01]

Currently it’s my sex drive.

[KevnHanma]

Companionships are for war and pets I want ass

[Phoenix98]

Our nature.

[K-I-S-S]

Fascination

[Wise4myage]

Sex.

[Yaharro]

Loneliness

[EaterPeter]

Stupidity

[VanillaSalt]

Arguable truth in this comment.

[EaterPeter]

Thanks for like!

[Pterodon]

Both

[indigomarine91]

Both

[indigomarine91]

“Sex without love is as hollow and ridiculous as love without sex.” ― Hunter S. Thompson.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Sex.

[Renadesu]

Loneliness

[VanillaSalt]

What are you doing to fix that loneliness? Just waiting for Prince Charming to sweep you off your feet? If you think your lonely now wait until after you leave school your friends and you have different lives and responsibilities. If your lucky you’ll be too busy working so much to feel lonely but then one day all your family and friends have their husbands and wives and you have nothing but the likes on Instagram.

Many men don’t even want a wife anymore but their mostly all willing to pump and dump so now you have to vet men harder while try harder to find good men. If your lazy about this… you’ll die alone no joke.

[Renadesu]

I already left school. Nothing is going right this year and yea I do have responsibilities. No I'm not busy because children my age can't work in my country also Uni postponed my education because the school held back my results. If anything I have a right to feel lonely rn.

[VanillaSalt]

I’m not saying you don’t I’m just telling you there’s women out there better looking then you that can’t find men. I don't know what you look like just saying. It’s hard all around. I don’t want you to suffer like these fucking feminists will. Your still young enough to not get trapped by the feminists dogma that makes life suck for men and women equally. Especially if you want a relationship.

[Renadesu]

Yo entiendo

[yofuknutz]

^^^^^ we all understand you think you're the only one but Mr vanilla salt has a point I'm sorry to hear you're having a difficult year some years of just like that that's why it is important to find your soulmate you don't want wind up as "kodokushi " or leftover women nobody wants them lined up that way at least she is young enough to see this and make move to eliminate or reduce this type of fate. Tranquilo?

[emilym12345]

Please stop bullying this child. TF you are two grown ass men this is a 17 year old.

[emilym12345]

And how do you know wtf this bitch looks like? She could be Marilyn Monroe’s secret great grand daughter

[yofuknutz]

^^^I thought U were gonna say Marilyn Manson and I'm not bullying her, life does that already. I'm just telling her the facts of life.

[yofuknutz]

Every Emily I have met is unstable I wonder why that is

[VanillaSalt]

Shoo fly I’m teaching her a life lesson much nicer then life will teach her. Besides it don’t matter how gorgeous she may be there’s always someone better. Also perhaps we shouldn’t be calling a 17 yr old girl who’s been nothing but polite a bitch… just saying.

[yofuknutz]

^^^^ basically nobody should be calling her a bitch ironically Miss unstable Emily did ironically but that's because she's unstable herself it is her own damn fault now moving on to the next issue he has to develop thick skin these websites have a way of devouring people. So in other words let's not be calling a people who are polite a bitch or any other kind of derogatory term and Welcome to the Jungle Kid watch your 12 your 3 6 & 9

[Slim57]

Both

[Abdulwahh]

Hormones too

[jimmy2]

Its how God made us