What drives the urge to have a relationship: companionship or sex drive?

[Dsg1193]

Companionship

Sex drive

[ThatNoUVAtYourEyes]

Neither.
That's what I was facing today - all these people wanting to just lump me together with someone.
It's a quest/search for companionship, sexual attraction, mental and emotional affinity, compatible values and goals (if it is to last).
Otherwise, you can get together with just someone (or somebody). But the agendas and then the cheating, or simply different mental abilities/IQs too different - it doesn't work.
People with baggage make bad dates, unless you have had similiar experiences and understand each other.

[brianwong007]

Like when you're parents and siblings don't go along with you, their believe system are different from you, that's where finding someone who can truly understand and love you comes to play , this is what I stand for.
Sex is about sharing experience for each other, you can also have very intimate relationship without sex, it's doesn't matter if the person believes or ideas is different for you to truly fall in love.
And yes, your parents and siblings will always have a different idea of what you do, because families will always be families.

[Sarahr123]

I just need a Punjabi Khatri (Punjabi Hindu) to give me a child or two and their name to my child or any Hindu man and then they can go their own way. I need kids, I don’t need companionship. Men eventually hurt you and I am not in the mood to put up with that.

[sumayathemagi]

So, you are a lesbian

[Sarahr123]

@sumayathemagi where the hell did you assume that?

[sumayathemagi]

Because lesbian and feminist hate men.

[Sarahr123]

@sumayathemagi Well you’re pretty damn stupid to assume any of the two from that. Obviously if I want to marry and then divorce for kids I have to have sex with some man. If I were a lesbian I would not have sex with a man. Why would I want to stay with some man for 20+ years where eventually he will end up cheating on me? It’s better I get rid after five years and focus on raising my child.

[sumayathemagi]

Majority of women cheat, but majority of men are loyal. It’s better to find a loyal man

[sumayathemagi]

Even I am searching for a loyal heterosexual woman

[Sarahr123]

@sumayathemagi I know some women cheat but the way it is made out to look, it seems like a lot of men cheat too. If I were to feel safe and secure and as if I could completely trust someone then it’d be a different story but I don’t think that will ever be the case so I’ll need to make a child somehow and then I don’t mind being single forever.

[sumayathemagi]

if you get a loyal man then?

[Sarahr123]

@sumayathemagi If I get a loyal man whom I am in love with then obviously I will marry them and as long as they don’t break the boundaries of fidelity the marriage will stay safe. As soon as the boundaries are broken I will cut the poisonous cancer out of my life. Simple.

[sumayathemagi]

I am also looking for a loyal wife.
Can we get to know each other?

[designer1]

Honestly, both equally for me. It probably varies depending on who you’re talking to.

[MrOracle]

Both. Obviously the sex drive is a thing, but there's far more hours in the day that you can't be having sex, and it's fantastic to have a great partner to share ALL aspects of life with.

[PoliteSpeaker]

Both. You are transmuting your sex emotion into other emotions or desires. But the sex emotion is at the root giving action to mankind. Which is why if you cut a dogs balls off they become... Well docile and calmer. And if no sex emotion was in them at all... Well. They would become nothing but stone. Okay I need to do more studying on the topic, but those are my thoughts currently, before I can firmly stand by what I've said.

[humpbackjack]

I’d say for most men it at least to starts off it’s about 40% to 85% sex drive and the rest companionship and then depending on how things go is where those percentages wind up and I’m guessing roughly the opposite for women except for the part of where things go I feel like most women are pretty much consistent staying with companionship

[Browneye57]

Both. You really can't have one without the other, unless it's just a fling. Even then, you really can't get naked and do it over and over with someone and not get feelings. Well, unless you're just cold-hearted. Or dead. LOL
It's the way our brains are wired, our lizard brain, for the best outcome for the resultant offspring.

[Xylem1992]

Well its both. I think when you're younger its leaning more towards the sex drive and as you age maybe you dont care about sex as much and companionship side kind of overtakes. Of course its not an entirely linear process nor its applicable to every individual.

[Zantagio1]

Emotions and Sex drive work hand and hand in a relationship.
Sexual attraction is great, but it becomes dull if the person you're attracted to is a piece of crap.

Wise man once said "It isn't about the boobs, but who the boobs are attatched to" [Just funny internet joke but it fits here]

[VanillaSalt]

For me neither it’s children. Companionship used to be important to me but most women arnt really that impressive to me so children’s all the value a woman would bring to my life anymore.

[LisaRaven]

Companionship, yes my body tries to rebel on me at times, but I look more for a nice guy to spend time with more than sex.

[yofuknutz]

What happens to the bad guy then

[LisaRaven]

The bad guy?

[yofuknutz]

Well they say that bad guys get the sex and the good guys get the companionship but that's what they claim and you know how THEY are.

[LisaRaven]

Ah, well THEY can do what THEY want

[yofuknutz]

Hahahaha, nice comeback I like that they should make that into a pickup line or a t-shirt

[ChrisMaster69]

Mainly emotional connection, the can be companionship, however it’s more than simply physical.

Sex does come in to it, as often this helps increase the level of emotional connection.

[libsaretards]

For me it is companionship. If I wanted sex and nothing more I'd find an escort. A relationship is meant to have an equal and loving partner who will always share trials with me and I can do the same for her.

[emilym12345]

Ugh you can have sex without a relationship. You can have these people you call friends and have companionship.


Love should be your drive. If not then don’t have a commitment.


Some people use money and status.

[MissStrawberry912]

Find my soul mate & want to find love and be loved in return in many forms.

[VanillaSalt]

I’m curious… you want this but how often do you go out with a man? How loose are your standards to getting to know them? How easy is it to quit after you find someone? All personal questions but I find women are the main cause of their own loneliness. They refuse to date the guy who’s unattractive but to women 80% of men are unattractive and let’s be fair… any man dating you will be your age or older probably… 10-15 years them looks are gone. Are you going to possibly wake up and decide he’s not good enough? Are you actively seeking a good man and this don’t mean sitting in the corner or a bar but starting conversation with random men you might connect with?

[yofuknutz]

This is the elephant in the room we are all facing Extinction one way or the other. Don't add to it

[DizzyDesii]

Mutual emotional support, wanting to love and be loved, and creation of offspring

[t-8900]

Both. I need emotional and spiritual cultivation and of course I want to have sex but only with the person I love

[kyleelyn199723]

I’m the end it all comes down to companionship and who you meet. Sex drive fuels people to have sex

[Luopio27]

Without sexual bonding, a relationships are friendships.


To keep a long lasting, happy companionship, there has to be something more than sex drive.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Boredom, sex drive, lonliness when it comes to relatability, companionship, backup in emergencies, stress relief, comfort, and probably others things as well.

[poneglyphs]

A mix of both but I want someone to bond with, kiss, hold hands, and cuddle. I also want sex too and have lots of it but that isn't my main reason for finding someone.

[kitty71]

I agree but u are still young im not

[poneglyphs]

@kitty71 okay, does it matter the age?

[jspl90]

companionship surely? you have sex without a relationship but what would be the point in being in a relationship just for sex

[clampfan101]

Which drives it more so depends on the person. I’m driven mostly by companionship, but there’s always the sex drive as a co pilot. It’s human nature to greatly desire both.