Happiness is an emotion that can change on a dime. Happiness as people think about it is more or less a fantasy. Let's say you have an average emotional set point out of 10.
If your average is a 7 day to day you are a happy person. If you're average is 8 you're either a giddy person or someone who has recently gone through life changes that radically improved your quality of life and you're still on a high.
9 on average you're probably on vacation or having an amazing short term adventure with zero stressers to think about. You already have high self esteem and you're just experiencing life.
10 you're having sex with the hottest person you've ever slept with, or you accomplished something you really cared about that you've worked towards for months on end or longer. Something major to where this feeling cannot last.
You might think of it again and it gives you another hit of joy but it is fleeting.
In my opinion, your relationship should be setup from day one as something that will feed a more positive future that you want for your life. A simple "This makes me happy or this doesn't make me happy" doesn't cut it.
You could be in depression looking for something to bring you out of it. Start dating someone and the excitement brings you out of it only for the effect to naturally wane and you're now thinking this relationship doesn't MAKE me happy therefore I should leave.
No, it's not about that and you fundamentally misunderstood Happiness. Not you but others in general. Relationships are more than just sex and fun, but happiness is too vague and simply just an emotion
A relationship is supposed to bring additional happiness to your life, but a relationship is not at a baseline meant to make you happy. It should be a quality addition to your current happiness. But if you're not a happy person it won't save you.
It should be about all of that and a lot more relationships aren’t easy, but are worth it if you find the right person , committing to each other through the ups and downs that life throws at us , sacrificing for each other, removing selfishness for each other , Supporting each other , Making each other your priority , complimenting each other , showing affection to each other and sex , lifting each other up when one falls down that’s how love grows , if you can’t do that for your partner then you won’t ever experience true love , you will just be wasting your time , don’t get into a relationship if you can’t commit to someone is my opinion , cuz why commit to someone that you honestly can’t commit to? We don’t commit to someone to be single , if you do then be prepared to be single again. ,
It's about partnership. Helping out one another, making each other happy, working on things together, watching each other grow, being there through good times and bad times, respecting one another, demonstrating honesty and loyalty, good communication, making a family (if you want to have kids, anyway). Relationships are not one thing or the other. There's a lot that goes into maintaining a good relationship besides "happiness" and "having sex and fun".
I think it’s about hard work and having goals, separate or together, then working hard to achieve those goals together and helping the other. It’s progression in life and to support each other in that progression equally. This could be family and home, work or financial. Even just little things like hobbies etc.
Relationships don't exist in a vacuum. You meet someone, you spend time together, and the relationship becomes what the two of you create together. Want it to be all about wild and crazy sex? You can make that happen. Want it to be fun? Create a fun relationship. Want it to be about long-term commitment? The two of you can make that happen.
Relationships are about sharing your lives with each other, and usually about having a family. But even children aside, it's about supporting each other and working together to face the challenges of life, and, yes, to have someone to share the good times too.
Having said that, the overwhelming majority of people would agree that sex is very important in a romantic relationship, as it strengthens bonds and is an important kind of communication and understanding. It is, of course, also necessary for having children. Most people would also consider it to be a very enjoyable experience.
A relationship is about being with someone who completes you. Someone who makes you happy, pleases and fulfils some of your needs (whether they be sexual or not), and someone who helps you feel inspired and explore life together. If a relationship was only about sex and fun, then you’d just stay single and sleep around. A relationship is supposed to make your heart feel whole.
If is possible to have sex with the same person and always be awesome. If your for someone to complete you, take a hard look in the mirror and see whos staring back you and then your journey is over.
People change. It's inevitable. Everday presents an opportunity for someone to walk out of your life. You can only hide from yourself, never walk away.
Connection, communication, Trust and Care if those 4 elements are missing then that is not Love but some kind of adventures.
Mainly love sparks WHERE there is connection between two people and once the connection is present things fall to a nice radar. And once there is care u often receive care from him or her. Where there is trust you are guaranteed a healthy life and once communication is in you are to talk openly like friends and address issue in a more helpful calm way.
Companionship, security, support, and inspiration. And marriage? Fulfilling the needs of children, and strengthening the family. Which is why partners have to be chosen so carefully. The wrong captain or the wrong first mate will sink the ship, and everyone on it.
Its funny so many people think sex is critical to a relationship. I used to think that when i was single. Couldnt stop wanting to get ass. But now that im married with kids, the fulfillment is so different. My definition of happiness changes with time
Neither… this is what’s wrong with you people today. A relationships about SUPPORT! You find a partner with a similar foundation and ideas as you and support each other through life. Happiness isn’t a state you are meant to be in constantly… it’s something you find through hard work and struggle.
It's about everything and the moon. I see so many questions about relationship he did this she did that blah blah blah blah blah blah I need when I get into a relationship I don't even have an argument for 4 to 5 years and it's just a brief one then relationships can be so much fun and you grow each and every day sex in a relationship is just like having the cherry on top if we need a lot of cherries LOL and whipped cream
A relationship is a intimate sharing of ones self with another. Emotionally being commited towards another in terms of sharing life together and all it entails for both together as one unit. Taking two sets of dreams and reducing it to one big dream for both included.
- life long goals - happiness - communication - sympathy - trust - interests - love - sex - respect - different waves of feelings - compromising - understanding one another - a best friend
Sex can always be or not be a part of relationship but when it is its just get more exciting otherwise it is fun in its own way, sex just spices things up
I can be about all of those things. But none of them is the most important, and none of them is the the true point and reason. The true purpose of a relationship is partnership and commitment and love.
Its about whatever you want it to be. Whatever your willing to exchange with the other person to get what you seek in return. Thats why I believe many fail (all types), people expect the other person to know and want to receive the same as they do. Also the burden of fulfilling in general has often been set to an an unreachable level.
I used to think it was about happiness and similar bullshit. But nowadays I wouldn't even call it a "relationship" and stick only to sex. If she agrees to have sex with me, that's perfect. If she refuses, I move on to the next. Bc sex only makes things easier and hurts a lot less.
To vague to answer. Sex is an objective word, but happiness and fun are very subjective terms (ask people what makes them happy/laugh) and, as with sex, they only last for some time. Or how often do you enjoy your time/life and feel happy about it?
A relation should be rather built upon other concepts such as generosity and respect. With those ingredients, happiness may flourish more often.
Well I was always taught that alone we are just half a person, and only through a relationship can we really form a fulfilled person. It’s kind of a symbol for creating life, two make one. I dunno, I think each person has individual needs in a relationship and looking inward and exploring in a relationship can you really discover what you and your partner are looking for.
Its different for everyone. Depends on whay you want from life. Is it what you yourself lack or is it progressing what you have. More quick bursts of excitement or more in depth connections. There's no right or wrong. It's just who has the same idea/concept/wants as you and how long you can make it last
Relationships to me is about having open and honest communication with your partner. Someone who knows you better than any family or friend. But with the side benefit of sex and fun. But the communication can lead to "better" sex and fun.
It should definitely be both in my opinion. I personally like to have a lot of sex and love the connection as well as being a little adventurous and kinky but I’d also enjoy going to dinner and having good conversations with someone who gets me and Vise Verse. You new on here? Follow me back.
My only experience has been the hated job of approaching followed by paying all the bills, doing all the work in the relationship, dating was never any fun for me.
Fun and dating don't seem to have anything to do with each other.
I personally just like knowing I have someone who’s compatible with me and loyal to me and willing to love me. We can do all the little things together, so I guess a relationship is about all 3
In my book, marriage is the only bond that is called a "relationship". And in marriage, happiness and trust comes first, but without physical intimacy, it does not work too well.
Thank you @OlderAndWiser for appreciating my comment. I know it is not a popular opinion but I am just very old fashioned and traditional and take guidance from my religious belief.
Well for me it's about intimacy, intellectual understanding, making each other laugh and adventure! I really like this quote I believe it's said by Lewis Caroll: "Actually the best gift you could have given her was lifetime of adventures..."
A relationship is for happiness that is more than the happiness lost by compromise of being in the relationship. So there should be a net increase in happiness for both parties.
@Jamie05rhs - Compromise with their time and attention. If suppose you have a hobby of collecting rocks, but your partner wishes that the place be used to put up a TV, then you will have to compromise, or decisions about food, what to eat.
A real relationship is based off trust, strong communication between both partners and having shared experiences that are both good and bad and making through the tough times together
It should have all of that, happiness being with that person, sex for that physical/mental connection and the funn so your not a boring couple. there should be a balance to it all.
a relationship is being with someone after a fight. being with someone is easy while things are going good. if you guys can tolerate and be productive after a fight. then you both belong with each other.
Well sex is fun and makes both of us happy, so sex leads to happiness. I mean we also have mutual respect and love, so we're happy then too. I think all three are important.
sex is born with an urge. that impulse also gives a feeling of fun and pleasure. love, on the other hand, is effective in experiencing this pleasure at a high level.
Sex and fun is an important of happiness for me. There are other aspects to happiness also. Of course!
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Oh happiness for sure. Sex is just the icing on the cake. It would be amazing to enjoy having the right girl in your life. Sex is a small percentage of the time spent together, there bigger ‘fish’ to fry.
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