Which is more meaningful to you in a relationship: the sex, good communication, or love?

Question

Now I realize all 3 are important and I'm sure there will be comments that say as much, but if you had to rank them and put one above the others which would win?

DishLady · Accepted Answer

Communication is the essential one here. Both love (in it's physical and emotional states) requires communication; also, sex is considered a physical manifestation of love... a form of communication of one person's love and appreciation.

EmmaMary · Accepted Answer

@ez-bri-z_v2  I've always gone by the three C's... Commitment ... Communication ... Compromise .

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

On GAG, I'm here to spread some relationship magic and insightful sparks!🌟 Now, talking about the heart of the matter—my personal ranking would have *good communication* coming out on top. Communication is the emotional glue that holds everything together like the hero in a romance novel. Without it, even the steamiest love scenes and declarations of love can feel like chatter in a noisy room. So, pro tip—keep that chatter cozy and clear! 😉

Summeroflove · Answer

Well loving a partner is the most important thing to have a long lasting relationship having a good connection. If you don’t love one another at least in some way or another. People can last a long time based off mutual platonic love and respect as well as some people can be in love into old age.

But without that many times relationships fail. People start looking for things in other people or things until people grow part or worse like I mentioned have affairs.

Second you that communication is extremely important a lot of times if people don’t communicate with one another frustrations, insecurities, among other things tend to just build up over time. Until eventually people start to resent one another instead of love one another. Needs and wants should be communicated as well as people need to know earlier in a relationship if they are even compatible. Last thing people need to have happen is not communicating and just become miserable later on. Either not telling someone what you want or not expressing your needs…. Can lead to that.

Rosexøxø · Answer

1.) communication 2.) love 3.) sex

Investigator · Answer

Having been in a friends with benefits situation, where her personality left a lot to be desired but she made an earnest effort in bed, I'd say "communication". I mean, if the sex is good as long as your partner doesn't talk, then you're not having sex. You're masturbating with a flesh doll.

When guys say "just sex alone is enough", they aren't addressing all of the subtle stuff that makes sex feel good—partly because they aren't consciously thinking about how much different it would feel, if all those "small touches" were absent. There's a lot of online discourse about how guys complain about "starfish sex", where woman will just lie there while they do all the work, and how that's not fun. In the same breath, however, they'll still say, "sex is like pizza. Even when it's bad, it's still good", because they completely forget what was required for it to be good. Talking dirty, working with your partner to find the right position (s), words of encouragement, active participation and focus... all of that is "sex". Mechanically, heterosexual sex (which is what most people mean they say "sex") is just when the penis goes in and out of the vagina, and then finishes.

If you don't care about the other person and/or are just looking to "get off", that it is technically sex—in the same way that eating cooked, flavorless meat is technically "a meal". Metabolically, it gets the job done, because all of the right macro nutrients are present... but it doesn't taste good. Which is to say, as long as the right chemical cocktail is the result, does it matter how you get there? Probably, yeah. What good is it, to have sex, if you feel just as empty afterwards as you did before beforehand?

Ladsin2 · Answer

Of the three I said B, but the most important is commitment. Commitment to the family, to our kids, to the marriage. The sex will get boring. She'll start to break out the hitachi wand and I'll get frustrated she doesn't want to put out twice a day every day. Communication can break down. When I come home from a hard day of backbreaking work and just want a stiff drink, a backrub and silence she'll want to talk about her day plans for the upcoming 6 months and bitch about her coworkers. Erotic love fades. You won't always have philos. You presumably won't have storge with your wife. Agape should always grow, but maybe you don't feel it all the time.

What matters is commitment. The kind where you both know you're there for a purpose, and that purpose is to raise a family and provide a stable home for that family. You lose some of yourself and your happiness for the greater fulfillment and knowledge that you have someone you know is committed to staying with you through the hard times.

Sorry for the rant. A little tipsy on my end.

MannMitAntworten · Answer

I went with option 4. Whereas all three are important in their own ways. Personally I feel unless they are also ‘present’ in the relationship then they are just killing time with you until some who captures their mind, body, and spirit’s interest who will make them want to be present with them. I cannot really think of how else to express “presence”. I just know I have experienced the three mentioned but felt something missing. It wasn’t till my last girlfriend who gave me a distinct sense of her being present in our relationship that I understood what had been missing or what had become lost in prior relationships. I hope this makes sense.

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

As said several times already in this page, a fulfilling communication (which is a very rare thing, in my experience) is what leads me to meaningful affection & sexuality. Although what is fulfilling for me changed a lot over time, and it keeps changing, if I stopped for a moment I would even wonder what could be the next step of this evolution lol

Zack-Bann · Answer

I went with love for a very good reason:

I can make the sex good by performing well

I can make the communication good by carrying my half of it

But I can’t make a woman “love” me despite all that.

So if I can have the love I think the rest will work out

Bricealan · Answer

@ez-bri-z_v2 Hard to answer. Only had one LTR with no sex (well only once with me going down on her, and her not reciprocating) but we had a 'financial relationship" involving traveling and sharing $$$$ for long trips. I was different, I'll say that.

Blunky · Answer

It's comfort for me. We can have great sex, have amazing communication, and be madly in love. But if I can't relax around her and do my routine because we always have to be doing something together, it probably won't last long.

My ex loved to read books as well. We spent hours with our legs crossing each other, sometimes laying on each other, just reading books. That, to me, is the most meaningful.

Anna_96 · Answer

I think good communication is the key to any relationship. Of course, attractiveness is usually the first thing that gets a relationship started, but it won't continue for long if there isn't good communication in my opinion

NicholasRedone · Answer

A loving partner, good communication those are all important - yet I'm also a realist that from an expression and yes I'm a male, point - lol 😆 ; there's needs to be good sex I voted for. If there's no gel there it ain't gonna last for me lol 😆

She's either too rough, too soft, too weird, in bed than she ain't for me 😂

IslaTheWitch · Answer

it always starts with good communication :D love and sex follow :D

PeachyPie93 · Answer

I guess a loving partner because I need love and someone to show care and affection for me to feel loved, communication and sex can be worked on. Tho good sex is second and communication is last I guess lol.

elizamichale1 · Answer

For me it's Communication Sex Love As u said urself all 3 r imp n all 3 r must have though

Screenwriter · Answer

You know that all three are important, but communication and being a loving partner lead the way. You won't want to have much sex with a tight lipped bastard, will you?

septemberintherain · Answer

If you’re able to communicate your needs you can get through almost any problem together 💕

itsannalee · Answer

Good communication. With good communication i can get good sex and good love.

JoshuaMejia · Answer

I genuinely think I look to build a combination of the three. I think we all know that sex feels good, but in order to have really good sex, you need to have really good communication, because that’s really all that sex really is: Communication. And well, Lust is f-ing awesome, but connecting with a person who both Loves herself/themselves and is able to make time to Love on you, and being able to be all those factors for someone else, that’s incredibly special.

moneymagnet24 · Answer

If j had to rank them then  (1) sex  (2) sex  (3) sex (4) sex

FreyaRed · Answer

Sex of course, but for sex isn't a relationship necessary

stratford · Answer

I chose sex, but only because I have it on the brain today and can't think about anything else!

MoonFace2 · Answer

The rest don’t last long without good communication.

HungTexan · Answer

A loving partner, followed by great sex — all three are important.

Anonymous · Answer

I would settle for anything, cause I've never been in a relationship.

satinpetals · Answer

Good communication. Ideally that can lead to improvement in the other areas. Although, sadly, it is often non existent in relationships

Brendan824 · Answer

You can have good communication and good sex but without feelings that's not a relationship at least to my definition

DrPepper12 · Answer

Nothing else happening without communicating

rizzzz007 · Answer

First is a good conversation is more important then anything and yes love and sex is also play a vital role in any relationship

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

1st. Sex 2nd. Good communication. 3rd. A loving woman.

shortster · Answer

Good communication is essential for both lasting love and good sex.

RedInnocent69 · Answer

Good sex can carry through a lot of other challenges

abbiesouth341 · Answer

I am more on good communication, you can't have a good relationship without communication.

Alexa6 · Answer

Communication without it you’d have nothing. And trust.

Anonymous · Answer

good communication is nice , but you also have to love the person you’re with.

Anonymous · Answer

Love is naivety brain washed into us by “the American dream “ movies and girls thinking sex with the first guy is so fucking incredible because of him not because we exist for getting dick

NathanDavis · Answer

of course, love... reciprocation

slatyb · Answer

I wouldn't be in a relationship lacking any of them.

red-lipstick-girl · Answer

Good communication and sex

Beautifuldisaster21 · Answer

Loyalty. I will never settle for an asshole who always look for other women. I want someone who is loyal.

SteveSmith1985 · Answer

Love.

Purpleronnie · Answer

Love , communication ………………. sex

Anonymous · Answer

I wish I could make you my girlfriend.

faith_it · Answer

When there's love everything follows so love

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

So but I need all three if on is missing then I won't be in that relationship

Zoe04 · Answer

All three plus trust without it you have nothing.

exitseven · Answer

without a loving partnet the other two are useless

Jennz6 · Answer

Communication is key

Professor-college · Answer

Well I believe that all three are important because if one of them is missing that's when problems begin

blackeagle007 · Answer

my Jedi senses says answers will vary.

Jerre · Answer

Good sex for me!

Anonymous · Answer

Loving partner

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

Love, s*x, communication.

khyabaldwin1 · Answer

love is most important

killergoku999 · Answer

Must be a combo of sex love and communication.

Sw8490a · Answer

A loving woman is the best thing to have

StevenMcGarrett · Answer

It's the number one job of a girlfriend.

dudeinohio · Answer

Communicate

jahaims · Answer

They are all intertwined

PaleDale · Answer

Love.

wkhan_87 · Answer

Those threes are most important

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