Which do you think is more important in a relationship, sexual compatibility or emotional compatibility?

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BillHe1 · Accepted Answer

I think they are both equally important.

If you are Emotionally Compatible, but not Sexually Compatible; it's not going to work and last. SEX is a part of a Married Life Relationship.

In initial dating stages, you should work on the emotional feelings to find your compatibility, and maybe later work on the Hook ups to feel out the Sexual compatibility. Way too many people are getting married now days after WAITING on Sex and then find out that your sex drives are completely different, and you just can't get sync'd.

I can't justify early sex in early dating. but I do feel that later in today's steady continued relationships, you might decide to move in and live together, with no strings attached. Get to know each more intimately, and Safely engage in Sexual activities on a regular basis. Feel each other out and find what your differences are and try to work through them. Then maybe Marriage and the Baby Carriage.

OHHH, how I've always hated the my old Man saying, "Why buy the Cow When the Milk is Free?"

And my Mom and Dad argued and fought for almost their entire life. But they brought 4 bays and a girl into this world, so there must have been some kind of Sex, but probably just "Slam Bam, Thank You Mam" and that's not what it should be like...

jmr2191 · Accepted Answer

That's a tough one. I don't believe you can have one without the other, simply because the sex is not always going to be great. All couples have times when the sex is good and times where there spark kinda disappears. Plus, sex is one of the core things that separates a relationship from a friendship.

However, it's the emotional component that provides meaning and is the glue that gets a couple through the times where the spark is weaker. You don't want a sexless relationship or meaningless sex. I can't see a successful relationship with one or the other. It would require both.

FlutteringFeelings · Accepted Answer

Emotional compatibility is most important because it holds more weight since it’s not something you can’t find anywhere in anyone. If someone bought jewelry from a foreign country and jewelry from their local shop that sells more than one which one would they value more? Is the question we have to ask ourselves. That jewelry in a foreign country is hard to find unless you go back and find the same vendor selling at his/her shop which there is no guarantees.
That local shop will always restock on its jewelry and you’ll more than likely come across someone who has on the same thing as you.

Emotional compatibility goes deeper than how I feel when a man touches me it’s more so how do I feel when he’s away. The unique moments we share when it’s just the two of us without feeling the need to always be intimate with one another. Most men will say sex because they want their needs met sexually. Guys, tell me when was the last time you felt butterflies for a special woman that you couldn’t wait to see the next day even when you guys just met a few minutes ago. That right there isn’t something you’ll come across on a daily basis.

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

I would say emotional connection is more important than physical - cause the way I see it is - beauty without heart will become boring - in the same way - a person would hate chocolate if they were not allowed to combine chocolate with meat and rice and veggies - you cannot have a relationship without emotions but you can have a relationship without physical interaction (some people are past menopause as an example, yet still dating or in a relationship).

coachTanthony · Answer

----------------Neither.

Values and goals are what you should be compatible on first. You can be sexually and emotionally compatible with someone and still not have the same values and goal for what you want in a relationship.

SnowyOwl · Answer

You need both. But if you don't have emotional compatibility it will be a really painful "relationship" that will undoubtedly fail.
I also dont really understand when people talk of "sexual compatibility" or "chemistry".
The way we are biologically designed, we are made to be compatible.
How we engage sexually has all to do with communication.
So if you can work on communicating as a couple (and I hope you do, cuz you're in a relationship for the long term hopefully), then there shouldn't be any "obstacle" or "mind block" that could not be overcome.
I believe that if there actually is love in a relationship, then all is possible

livin_hi_808 · Answer

Currently it's been only sex with my current friends with benefits/ex-gf. We started and structured our relationship on sex. Began to involve our emotions and it began to f**k up everything between us to the point of we're broken up but still have sex regularly. I've always felt that it just a sexual relationship but tried to do the boyfriend/girlfriend BS with her but she's a slut and so am I so having something and someone shallow enough to have this type of relationship is nice. Just sucks because we both crave each other but neither her not I are willing to look pass past mistakes and hurts to build anything real. With each other at least. I don't know.

Honestly, I prefer and currently seeking a real relationship and about to let this one finally burn out.

jasmine_0603 · Answer

It's really 50/50 to me. There has to be some balance and compatibility in both. With only emotional compatibility relationship would be pretty much like a friendship and with only sexual compatibility - kinda like a hook-up. Emotional depth is very important in a healthy relationship, but if one person (for example) feels like having sex once a year and the other one could do it every day, then that's going to be an issue.

Daniela1982 · Answer

Anyone can have sex, but not everyone can have an emotional connection. You see guys with girls who are paralyzed below the waist. They may not be totally sexually compatible but they have a great emotional connection. Sex may not be forever, but the brain and it's connections will be with you til the end.

Searlas · Answer

It’s rare to find both among partners and one has to compromise on some. You can’t have everything in one person. Emotional compatibility is very important, it enables partners move out their comfort zones make it easier to compromise or fight other incompatibilities. Someone who really love and respects you will never cheat on you just because you are poor in bedroom matters. People cheat because they aren’t emotionally attached.

lucas262 · Answer

Any couple can work on their sex life.

What is hard is the gritty bits like emotions. If that's right then sex won't matter half as much your still with the person you love and you'll still enjoy it. I mean if you love this person you can be in a grocery store. At a movie whatever and be having the time of your life with the right person and with a healthy intimacy you've both created.

Anonymous · Answer

i think there should be both because a relationship won't work if one of them is missing. but if you are emotionally compatible you will probably have sexual compatibility too, but tbh i can't say the same for the opposite so you should care about motional compability more ig :)

Browneye57 · Answer

For the number of questions you've asked here it is rather surprising you're still not getting clued in. Perhaps you're a slow learner.

So, the answer to this one is...
Women connect emotionally.
Men connect physically.
This isn't to say men don't have emotions, but it's just a completely different dynamic.

So you'll need the emotional connection before you want to get physical. And he won't really bind to you until you do.

Anonymous · Answer

Both are obviously important. But to me, sexual incompatibility is a 100% show stopper. I won't ever be happy in a relationship where the sex isn't great, but I feel like emotional incompatibility is something that can often be improved and corrected. Sexual incompatibility is what it is.

Mofunfour20 · Answer

Emotional compatibility is predicated on experiencing the same situations and circumstances and reacting the same. Why would you want a man to respond with the emotions of a female? Either you like his/her attitude or not. Keep it simple

elizamichale1 · Answer

Sexual for me coz if u r sexually compatible u r definitely emotionally compatible but if u r emotionally compatible u r not necessarily sexually compatible

tashalenee · Answer

Emotional compatibility! If you have no connection emotionally then it's just f**king not a relationship. Your partner is suppose to be the oneyou can fully be yourself around and not have to have your guard up all the time. Somebody you can trust and somebody that will comfort you when you need it.

SnuffleMuffins · Answer

Sexual compatibility! I have a very high sex drive and if I can't satisfy those sexual needs then no matter how much I love her it won't work out unfortunately.

Lionman95 · Answer

For me it´s emotional compatibility because if we don´t get a long well and feel we can´t trust the other one with our feelings it´s gonna end pretty soon.

sheikalana · Answer

Both but mostly emotional compatibility in my opinion.

Caliguy88 · Answer

I need both. Pure and simple need both. I don’t need to have the best person in bed, but like frequency is a must. I have so many friends that hardly have sex with their wives. Sorry. Not staying for that...

scarlett96 · Answer

Both are important but emotional wins a bit since I personally feel it’s more responsible for the longevity of the relationship

DaveToo · Answer

When we're young, dumb and full of cum, sexual compatibility is the most important. We soon learn that we have to be emotionally compatible in order for a partnership to survive.

Toast792 · Answer

I'm asexual. So definitely emotional compatibility.

Coulis · Answer

You know what those two really need to go together. I picked intellectual compatibility and let those two drop and it was a really big mistake.

Juxtapose · Answer

Sexual, cus that's the core of romance & it's what separates lovers from friends. I already have great platonic emotional connections. I want that bond that only adult intimacy can truly give.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

Ofc the emotional compatibility cause sex comes from the emotions, also when a couple gets married, only the emotions will remain after decades of marriage...

Siren777 · Answer

A good balance. However this comes after weighing the pros and cons.

KloexJayne · Answer

I believe both are important. A relationship won’t survive without a good balance of both.

MrOracle · Answer

I don't think you can have a successful long-term relationship with both.

DizzyDesii · Answer

Emotional compatibility at the start... Sexual compatibility if intending to marry

DiscomfortZone · Answer

It's not an "either or" question, that's what many people today fail to understand. You've got to have BOTH or the relationship will fail one way or the other.

Aquariusmystery · Answer

Emotional! At the end of the day you’re gonna have to be able to connect with feelings to last

Waldoe · Answer

sex loses its power after a while... its just a fact. so you had better have emotional compatability.

najekim · Answer

Emotional. Sex can be easy to learn techniques to use. Learning your partner take a lot more effort. And it's that effort which makes it worth it or not.

crmoore · Answer

There are both pretty critical cover that I think emotional compatibility might be of a slightly higher priority.

ashish804 · Answer

i think both is equally important as if one is emotionally satisfied and isn't satisfied physically,, he may cheat.. and vice versa

jasco · Answer

Emotional compatibility, someone could have great sex and honestly you just be a hook up if the emotional connection isn't there

obtuseocelot · Answer

Emotional compatibility. I can teach a partner to fuck, I can't make them love me.

Jet-Blaque · Answer

It has to be both. Other wise your just a hook up or a really good friend.

Twalli · Answer

Emotional. You need sexual compatibility too, but you don't need to have perfect sexual compatibility if you have perfect emotional compatibility.

Nahid1707 · Answer

Nice picture  Both can be as important. i heard many girls are more into the emotional part.

Anonymous · Answer

what’s the point of a relationship. Just have sex with girls.

RCLJT · Answer

It’s a package thing, physical/ sexual and emotional comparability/ stability.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Emotional compatibility. A good part of sex is emotionally based anyway.

Pogi-Paddy-2 · Answer

I believe that it is emotionally compatibility henceforth the sexual compatibility will be there.☯️

Dchrls78104 · Answer

Emotional compatibility boosts sexual desire and enhances sexual compatibility.

Hanrej · Answer

Emotional compability. Sexual compability can be solved through other means.

shiril · Answer

Either of them should be supreme so the relationship last long

shalt · Answer

Ouch, that's tough for an either/or, but you need both unequivocally...

EmotionOfFear · Answer

Emotional... what about when the sex is gone, what do you have left?

friendzoned4life · Answer

None of the above trust and loyalty are the most important

Klaulauxx · Answer

Emotional compatibility + finding the guy a least 'ok' looking

AwanAlphaMale · Answer

Sex. Emotional compatibility is not real and I do not feel any emotions towards other people

Teddu · Answer

In my experience if emotionally you are compatible with your partner and trust each other you shurely rock each other's world in bed..😉

krin_m · Answer

Emotional compatibility because it leads to better sexual compatibility!

Wild_Surpise · Answer

Sorry, I’m going for sexual compatibility. To heck with my emotions!

Asianguy123 · Answer

it looks like girl wants emotional but end up going for sex and the guys are the other way around.

Romeocuck · Answer

emotional compatibility is most important on the sexual you can work

singwhat · Answer

Nothing when it happens it happens, now anwser the question in my profile!

Biancam13 · Answer

Both but emotional slightly more than sexual.

karaspara · Answer

Emotional without a doubt

NotTacocaT6969 · Answer

Both are equally important.

the007datingcoach · Answer

Both should be equal!

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