Which is more important to you in a relationship emotional compatibility or sexual compatibility?

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I read an article about these two different compatibilities. I thought I would do a poll just to see if the results verify what I read?

Rosexøxø · Accepted Answer

Wow this is tough. I would say emotional. I can live without sexual compatibility and those dopamine chemicals will hit with the right stimulation- can learn to love the awkward and all. Communicate through that. That would possibly be more simple for us to discuss (cause you know, majority of guys can put mental effort on this and all), and it’s quite mechanical you know? And guys for the most part can excel in such things. So if it’s a “hands on” learning and simple 1-2 communication approach/system. It’s bound to have a slight turn for positive.

But for sure, couldn’t get along too well or live much without the emotional compatibility. It’s not impossible, but would just be heartache. That divide. That not seeing eye to eye will manifest in heartache and wounds and that will take a long time to heal or keep re-scarring until… I don't know numbness or other things. Just wouldn’t be a happy situation. I do suppose therapy is also possible, but would be way more extensive and evolve literally our psyche and social interaction systems. That’s for TWO people ✌️ lol so would definitely take time. It’s like… first phase potentially therapy for both individually, then mediating/ umpiring/ coordinating the two together and presenting options and plans for them to be a team and get each other. That all would take a lot of time and it’s dealing with unseen and abstract things.

A lot tougher. EVEN MORE SO if he wasn’t willing. Or she for that matter 🤷‍♀️ to be participative in the discussions ON TOP of attending each session and not losing on that progress and level of focus/ level of intention. Scheduling couple sessions requires commute, coordinating schedules of three people. Etc etc.

While sex requires for the most part 9 times out of 10 just the two partners and a little effort (going a long way) from the both of them. Then voila a bridge is built. Maybe not perfect, but has the chance to improve.

So for sure I’d pick having to deal with sexual incompatibility than emotional incompatibility. Also can we factor it the most important addition to this? What percentage of our lives are we talking or doing with partners. Maybe just co-inhabiting the house/apartment/park/beach/ etc. and what percentage of time we spend doing sec with them?

It’s not too difficult for the most part to please men so any psychological or foreplay needed for the woman will be linked also to her periods of peaked arousal- near her menstrual cycle and all. Which is really just like once a month or every few nights. That’s just a SMALL portion of actually having to bear a burden or delay from sexual incompatibility. If the guy needs his help, it’s certainly not impossible, and doable. And worse case scenario is: if they don’t have similar libidos then there is always sex toys and at least having a present partner or something satisfactory and within their mutual agreement for tolerance.

The emotional incompatibility would be too extensive and an issue that disrupts/disturbs everyday life. 🤷‍♀️

Xoxocutekitty · Accepted Answer

There's a lot of stuff one can buy on the internet (and free tutorials lol) to improve sexual compatibility. While sexual feedback isn't always fun to hear, it's much MUCH easier than hauling ass to the couple therapists office week after week to work on your emotional compatibility...

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

Even tho they might be different. For me there not... just like with ever thing else I. This world we have been told like sex is bad and bla bla bla. I believe there is so much h more to it
a lot more to it

If you were ever to get in to it

And that should be every single time

But to start from the very first touch the very first kiss The transfer of energy's back and forth becoming one. Knowing how to read the eyes the color of the cheeks , the way she moves the way she moves the way she moans and just not moving ur hips for Penetration whether it's deep Very very shallow There is much more to it than that

And if you understand every single touch Back and forth No matter how soft how deep how hard how sensual there become a bond there Becomes communications, whether it's through every touch or your eyes. Are your mouth? But everything you're doing is communicating with that part of their body. They're mine they're soul their spirit there energy. They're becomes clarityou can talk to a pathetically almost and do. And it does become emotional, it becomes a higher conscious. Awareness another level and when this happen it takes you Believe your wisdom your strength everything different areas of life different levels No matter what it is it's an emotion From the purest to the peek of every Nerve ending in your body and when you can connect that to their body there's a transformation. I believe it.
's to teach us so much more than what we know About everything.

Like I have always said you need to become one with yourself One with others one with this universe and always have faith because there is a much higher level. And it's up to each one of us to get there and teach the other and together

OneViewpoint · Accepted Answer

I'm not sure "Equal" is the right answer but it was the only choice that wasn't one or the other. It's probably different for everyone but I think there's a balance for everyone.

A relationship based only on sex and no emotional compatibility is gonna flame out really fast.

A relationship based only on emotional compatibility but zero sex will get you a really great roommate. But you'll be cheating or divorcing ultimately.

So what probably works is some level of (not perfect) emotional compatibility and similar sex drives (not perfectly matched). I think that's what most people are willing to settle for because perfection is only an abstract concept that doesn't exist in the real world.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

As a relationship coach, I'm here to help unravel the mysteries of love and connection. 😉 Emotional compatibility is like the backbone of long-lasting relationships, creating trust and understanding! Sexual compatibility adds that spice and excitement every couple needs. Both are crucial, but if I had to pick, emotional compatibility tends to build a stronger foundation for the future. So, aim for a balance, and let love flourish! 💖

Finchie40 · Answer

Both are important but me personally needs more sexual compatibility over emotional, because intimacy and affection is the way I express my emotions to a girl that I love and value , if she doesn’t match my sexual compatibility, then she isn’t the girl for me , I won’t hate her , but I won’t feel close to her if she doesn’t match my sexual compatibility.

princeofromance · Answer

No matter how you look at things it all comes down to sex in the end.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Shit!! I clicked the wrong button!! It should've been, emotionally. Sex is only good if you have a strong relationship with someone. At least as far as I'm concerned!! Unlike my ex-guitarist who'll fuck anything in a skirt with a pulse as long as she stands still long enough!!

alice55 · Answer

Emotional is more important I mean when you're 90 you better get along well emotionally with your husband / wife cause nothing much is gonna happen in bed anyway xD

NicholasRedone · Answer

💒😈🛏️ bed creaks bed creaks - Sexual compatibility - to that dream of mine of an ideal double bed in a single storey house all of my own - the dream the dream house - forget that Malibu beach house of that weird Yank of a doll lol 😅🏠🌕😈🌃 lol 😄🔮💒💒

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

This separation makes no sense to me , I'm emotionally involved in sex, and so are all the women I've been intimate with. Also I believe it is the same for every single people on earth, if appearances are deceitful it may be because many people are emotionally illiterate due to various psychological and cultural reasons.

slatyb · Answer

You left out intellectual compatibility -- easy and interesting conversation, shared interests.

Joshydavid25 · Answer

Sexual compatibility ain't nothing.. It really doesn't even mean anything.. You need to like who you're with and know that they have your best interest at heart.. Somebody who will sit by your bedside and take care of you if you ever needed it.. So I guess emotional compatibility..

Shiprex · Answer

Emotional RESILIENCE is the key for me. If you are constantly needing to be validated and attended to then it's a burden I won't endure. I don't want to have to be constantly anxious about your state of mind and how your day went and thus how you're going to be around me.

EmmaMary · Answer

@sparklight  Both are just as important as each other.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

I said sexual compatibility but I think they're both equally important you really can't have a relationship without either one of these so I would say I need both

Cormac995 · Answer

Emotional compatibility is much harder to work out than sexual. With sex you can always learn and try new things and find ways to have fun but if your personalities don't mesh is doesn't matter how good the sex is the relationship is doomed to fail.

Spencer10 · Answer

I would say emotional compatibility is more important. Sexual compatibility is perhaps easier to work out after.

Godihateyou · Answer

Emotional. When you hit 40 sex starts to suck amd women age like milk. The kids move out. You better have a good reason to keep company with this woman. Your gonna be stuck with them for many more of the hardest years.

Kaneki05 · Answer

Emotional it's not even close. Though girls care a lot about the sexual more than they let on at first.

MemeSupreme · Answer

emotional  bc for me. it's required in the first place to have any sexual compatibility

Miristheiss · Answer

Emotional? What? Having aligned goals, values and being compatible.

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

Emotional compatibility, because the s*x may be great, but you're vertical far longer than horizontal, and a couple must have an ability to relate honestly to each other for the relationship to thrive.

HarveyLaw · Answer

Starting with emotional balance and understanding, sexual compability can be worked and enhanced.

Screenwriter · Answer

Don't think you can have a satisfying one without the other.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

Not on your list: intellectual compatibility. ... I need all three. But I learned to compromise :P

Anonymous · Answer

I never had a relationship, but if I were in relationship, I suppose it would be equal. Sexual part is important mostly because I like dominant girls.

WhitneySnow · Answer

Emotional compatibility, but in a romance they’re both pretty important

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Both are equal, as is hobby/interest compatibility.

elizamichale1 · Answer

Both sexual and emotional compatibility are must haves

RedInnocent69 · Answer

They’re often one and the same. Emotional intimacy drives sexual intimacy. They’re a self fulfilling cycle

Luopio27 · Answer

If he/she is not atracted to you, the relationship won't work out no matter how good all other words, actions and qualities are!

jacob33131 · Answer

I think emotional compatibility is more important.

Kelly6 · Answer

@sparklight Both are important

Josef_89 · Answer

The mindset will be harmonious, and then what you say will come

Lilly1979 · Answer

Both plus trust and communication.

Danny_dan92 · Answer

They’re both equally important

katiesmuff · Answer

Equal between them

WonderingManII · Answer

Equal I think

jahaims · Answer

Both

PaleDale · Answer

Sexual, I have kinks

Jeff51 · Answer

Need both

shortster · Answer

Shared values

wkhan_87 · Answer

Both equally

MasterKS · Answer

Sex is most for me.

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