From the moment I read your post I knew the problem… your weak, self conscious, defeated… wanna fix this? Go out to eat. Get a female waiter. Talk to her… are you ready to order? I’m having trouble deciding what do you recommend? Blah. I was thinking blah but that DOES sound good. Can I fill your drink? Sure. Must be great working around such good food all the time…Would you like your check? Please. Appreciate you taking care of me today. What time you get off perhaps we could get a quick drink? Keep it simple. Your going to be rejected. The purpose is to ask not get a yes.. go home cry go to work do the same thing the next day to a different girl…
You wanna get over a fear of heights climb a tree… fear of spiders smash spiders… fear of rejection talk to women… 9/10 you’ll get rejected lol. But if you do it while their on the job they can’t be rude about it or you go to their manager…you think that’s fked up? What kinda depravity you think they will sink to? Multiply that by cancer.
I’m not advocating you becomes a player or even treat these girls wrong but you need to learn how to talk to them and be rejected. She says no… be a smart ass. I don’t date customers sorry. Well if it make ya feel better when I walk out I’m nolonger a customer… she’ll say no again but oh we’ll… sigh what a shame with your beauty and my genes our kids could do anything but oh well… have a nice day. Joke around even when your rejected. I bet after doing this a few times it won’t be such a bother to ask when you actually find someone you like…you’ll be more confident, more able to talk to women in difficult situations, you’ll leave an impression on the other women watching…
The alternative is to not… you’ll be a pathetic looser your whole life never changing or being useful to anyone. A man can only show his value when he steps up and ONLY when presented with the opportunity to step up. You gotta be ready for it and move mountains to give yourself this opportunity.
Also I don’t advocate for relationships and point blank tell men do not get married. These women ain’t worth it their not what you think.
Couple of things, you aren't the 10/10 for most girls so you aren't attractive enough to get a girl on looks alone (Neither am i). Thats not uncommon but will mean that sites and apps that are primarily based on looks will result in the experienece you had. There are definitely girls who would find you attractive though.
Then there is things like age and establishment in life. These days you are competing with a much larger dating pool. Which means the younger you are the smaller your chances. Why? Girls in their early 20's happily date a guy in their late 20's because he is more mature and likely already made progress towards his career and towards a house. He can date anything from close to his age to younger or even a bit older and since most girls prefer older your hitting your prime now. Unlike girls who hit their prime early in their 20s.
So you aren't a lost cause and i was in the same boat where i actually only found the right girl at 27. You are most likely only skipping bad girls rather than completely missing out.
Best thing you can do is be your best you, and know what you want and do not want. "Confidence" doesn't mean not being nervous. It means staying true to yourself and persuing what you want regardless what other people might say including seeing yourself as an equal to the girl rather than doing literally everything her way in hopes to get a date.
Once you embraced who you are do the things you love to do ideally where girls are. If the apps don't work try dating in person so they can see your vibe. Be happy and have fun with her, and then see where it takes you.
Ok, I would get rid of the first pic because the resolution is terrible.
In terms of your facial structure, you have the capacity to be quite attractive. You are a little overweight, but even that won't be a deal breaker for a lot of women.
The issue is obvious - your self confidence is in the toilet. That reality is clear in your eyes - you appear depressed or lacking in self-esteem. This won't be an easy fix. You may need to go to therapy, or get a mentor. Something needs to change in your life for you to connect to your power and purpose. If you did that, your energy would totally change, and I think you'd have way more luck in the dating sphere.
You are definitely NOT a lost cause! One really simple way to cultivate your power is to start prioritizing what is most important to you, and saying NO to what is not. What is your most important goal in life? Set a plan for how you intend to achieve that. You'll start to feel more self respect and confidence as you make headway. If that's to big a leap, just start with a small goal, but commit to actually achieving it. The zest for life that will come from this will make you more attractive to women - and also more interesting! Extra benefit is that you will start feeling better about yourself whether or not a relationship magically appears. So you can't lose. Good luck!
It’s definitely your personality. From my conversation with you, you were rather harsh with me.
-your family member or friend called me “unattractive”. Cause of my photo.
-you kept guilt tripping me of responding to your messages late. Cause I have a life.
-once I got back to you to say: “hi, how was your day today?” You responded with “I have work, bye”. I thought “……. okaaaay?….” I didn’t understand why you would be so upset with someone responding to you, when they are available. Whenever you have a busy life. Along with you making them feel guilty for that.
That now, as I read your posts Of you victimizing yourself and trying to paint your self as a ‘nice guy’. You in fact are actually a manipulative harsh person.
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Photo #1 is out of focus and not flattering. #2 is better. You look like a normal dude. Try adding a photo showing you doing something you like to do like hiking outdoors rather than in a bedroom and be sure to smile. Maybe get someone else to take the photo so you eyes don't appear shifty. Also, look for someone your age or within a year or two, and don't expect to find someone with no romantic past or a history. Focus on finding someone with a compatible personality. Get out and do things to meet people rather than relying on dating apps.
I think you look fine, you just look like you're carrying a bit of excess body fat, so maybe lose some of that, work out, because from a physical standpoint, I don't see anything off about other things, like you've got facial hair growth, your skin looks good, your hair is nice, etc.
I'd worry more about finding my life purpose than any of that. What is your life purpose? what were you born to do? what were you placed here to accomplish? This obsession men have with acquiring women is just a waste of time. When you find your purpose, your whole energy changes and you will attract more women anyway. Women want men that desire them without needing them... you are exhibiting needy energy and your not knowing your purpose leaves a void... and that is what they pick up on.
u it's your obsession for 18 year old virgins... while you're hitting 30 yourself
that sends all kind of weird vibes up to the stratosphere and beyond
It's not your looks, probably insecurity, maybe work on increasing your self esteem. I find that going to the gym or doing a workout gives me confidence, also eating fruit helps cause of the serotonin release. Hope it helps
You look normal to me, I don't think it's ever the looks which are a problem tbh cause I seen some unattractive guys with girlfriends and some of them were even pretty girlfriends. Maybe you lack the confidence, I don't know
Work out and you'll be super hot
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i think that maybe your personality could be the problem here. you look fine but women do want a funny guy who can take charge. one who has self-esteem. i would not put much stock into what women online say or do. you do look better in the second pic too. maybe shave your beard some women are not into that on a man.
You have very nice hair. Wavy and I like the color. Your overall appearance looks fine but being slimmer would probably help.
we're in a similar boat. time to lose weight bro. Just how it has to be. I'm 4 weeks into a keto diet and daily exercise regiment.
Go to the gym when you can. Stack bills. Move to Argentina where the women will love you. Good luck
s you're not ugly to me... maybe it's your personality
Unless you look like an alien from star trek it's always something else.
Women , i think, want to see confidence. And humor. But I am a guy and I don't really know what is going on with you.
Delete the picture of you lying down and replace it with something else.
And get a better shirt.
No, you look kind of like a buddy of mine and he was married to a cute girl.
Get rid of facial hair. Woman dont trust men with facial hair. Lots of studies have proved this.
No homo bro but if you lost weight im sure you would get bitches
Your expression is the definition of non confidence
its a momentum based game. Just get anything. Anything. Get something. You’re not gunna hit ur first ball out the park
You should look happy in the pictures
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